Tree_Salmon Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Haven't posted here in about 4 months and I figured it was about time. Some of you know my story: Dated a girl for 6 years, she cheated and was an overall horrible person at the end. I ended it, she kept weaseling her way into my life while dating rebounds. and so on. After about 6 months of dealing, I let go for good. I started dating again. Currently I'm seeing people casually and not looking for relationships. She had started talking to me in December. She was now attempting to break up with her rebound after I left her. She came to me for support and to see if i was still interested. I ignored all her advances but i gave her friendly advice on what to do. For the first time in a long time we were talking like adults and she was trying get back into my life but I explained that i dont trust her. I mean clearly, shes trying to have sex with me and set me up as the next rebound while shes breaking up with this guy. She also admitted that she cant be alone. She needs a man constantly. many of my female friends have admitted this to me in the last 4 years. I don't get it. People need space fillers I guess. Massive sign of weakness and stupidity. Anyway, i finally see how this girl acts behind the scenes. She already has another loser lined up in case I dont take her back, and I wont. So shes been going on dates with him while breaking up with the rebound. Scandalous people. My point here is, in the little time ive been speaking with her I've had more "closure" or whatever you want to call it than most of the time i spent alone. NC worked for a long time and it helped, but at some point its nice to face all the fears you had and see things for what they really are. The truth is, shes worse than ever, her life is a mess and her looks are fading. She no longer has anything to offer for a guy like me. She has no integrity, love or decency. Having seen these things is more satisfying than anything i could have asked for in the relationship. I actually feel bad for her and, being who I am, wish her happiness. So i dont have a problem listening to her and giving her advice. It's funny how life changes after a certain amount of time passes. My advice to anyone with a similar story is let poisonous people go. They only want to take you down to their level. Dream killers. True love is so rare that chances are most of us wont find it. Or we already lost it. Don't waste time chasing someone who treats you like crap. I now have several great women in my life but I choose to be single. There is far more satisfaction from living successfully than being in a shi**y relationship. 6
KatZee Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 That was a wonderful post TS. Now please kindly direct yourself to my messages. THANKS! PS: her looks probably aren't fading, you just don't view her in the same way anymore so she's not as attractive to you as she once was.
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