Hi! trying to lose v-card 2013

[James661]

Hello everyone this is my First Post I found you guys while lurking google and browsed your categories, look this will be a long thread so if you're willing to help me or give me advice be ready to read what I'm gonna tell you cause it will be a A LOT (really long story about my life) well not everything about my life but just what is important. (I'll try to make it by paragraphs so It's easier to read and don't feel like a wall of text)

 

So I was talking with my friend who's 17yo just lost her v-card like a week ago which made me realize that I'm getting old & sick of everyone around me who's younger than me losing it + my two ex's I've had online lost it at 18 both of them (but that's another story) I'm a 25yo virgin and want to lose it this year since the world didn't end on 12/21/2012 It's about damn time I do something about it that's why I came here to seek help/advice/thoughts about my situation.

 

First of all I did not choose to be a virgin, if it was up to me I'd have lost it when I was 12yo+ I regret not losing it when I was in my teenage years why? because those years were the best of my life and still miss them I feel so old now, It's not like I had a chance I've never had a GF in real life back then in middle/high school no girl liked me at all most of them were shallow they only cared for guys with money/popularity/body looks so to tell the truth back in the day I never had a chance or opportunity to do something with a girl like nothing at all but didn't mind because there was always Porn plus a lot of guys back then were in the same situation so I just hung out with em and moved with my life.

 

So you're probably asking yourself what does that have anything to do with this thread? well I want answers/help from people even tips how or where to lose my v-card I don't want a relationship why? because most girls love *********s & jerks which I'm not that's why I end up friendzoned all the time I'm like the support when my friends are sad you know what I'm talking about? I've had A LOT of love dating profiles for 4 years and nothing ever happen so pretty much I didn't give up in love I just don't want to wait till I settle in (IMPLYING THAT'D EVER HAPPEN) that'd be so a miracle though A lot of girls have told me I'm cute or like they'd have sex if I lived near by that's just online so It's not helping anyway but it does feel good that at least there's someone out there who would date or have sex with me if I lived near by.

 

When I reached 20yo I wanted to be a daddy and have a family, I'm like those weird guys who don't want to go in a ****ing spree like any ordinary guy would do and brag about it for example I only want 1 girl to be my lover/GF/companion/wifey etc but things are complicated I'm not complaining about being Single I like being Single if that's my destiny I'll take it! right now I just want to lose my v-card I'll list a few places I've heard people telling me about that would not work for me at all:

 

>bars/raves/parties/events = that's the most common option but sadly I'm not the social type of guy, back in middle/high school I only hung out with like 5 guys & like 3 guys from high school which was a minority because the classrooms were huge as low as 30 and higher as 43 students, to put it simple I wouldn't be able to talk to a stranger less likely a girl I don't even know (UNLESS SHE CAME FIRST TO TALK TO ME which would probably want something in return like money or something) OH did I mention I don't drink alcohol or do drugs? bet some of you people would find me boring but It's my life and I choose what to drink/consume etc other reason I wouldn't go there, there's drunk girls everywhere I'm not the kind of guy who would **** a girl while she's drunk I'm not that type even if she didn't remember.. some guys wouldn't give a **** but I do because that's mean to take advantage of girls whether they were older or younger it's the same awful thing.

 

>brothels = I've had a lot of money when I was 18-20yo but was always paranoid to go for a hooker because you don't know if they have STD's/AIDS plus you can't makeout/eat out a hooker unless you want to get sick real bad I just don't want to lose my v-card like that, I want something special that I'd remember forever it must has passion too! like hugs/kissing/rubbing/exploring pretty much a hooker wouldn't do it for me I know not every hooker is infected but you never know. (Besides the only brothel I'd feel safe going would be those from Las Vegas which are clean and check on the girls but yeah 0$ income at the moment + expensive planning) Also thought about escorts but they are too pricey and don't trust the ones in my area so it's a No.

 

>malls/restaurants/beaches/churches/libraries/gyms/streets/parks/etc = Okay I know I'm shy to talk to strangers but seriously even if I wasn't I know most girls would call me names like "perv" or "creep" if I asked a girl out in those places maybe they'd be like "go away you freak or I'll call the cops" It's not as easy as asking a girl to have sex and she'd say yes and like go to the nearest motel otherwise there wouldn't be so many virgins out there the main reason I would never ask a girl out in a public space it's because they'd just reject me plus what if she's underage? or what if she has a Boyfriend already? that'd be awkward as hell so it's another No.

 

Let's do a recap those places I listed above don't work for me what do I need to get a friend with benefits? or just someone I could lose my v-card with? that's the real question & main reason of this thread I want real advice take your time to write it I'll read it for sure I once heard of this site where virgins can register but they asked too many personal info so I closed it, dating sites didn't work for me + when I tried to ask in Imageboards I always got dumb answers and people mocking me that's why I decided to ask here and see how it goes.

 

Awhile ago I talked to a guy my age in Omegle, he was a bartender he told me a lot about girls it was like he was my own teacher sad he stopped talking about few hours and never came back it's like he knew his ***** very well I'll tell you guys what he told me regarding douches I told him I'd become an ********* - jerk just to have a relationship he told me "Don't do it, you have to be yourself if you have to change for others to like you it's not worth it and you'll regret it think it thru before you be someone that isn't you" so I did think it thru and was like OK I'll keep being nice and sweet as usual since pretending to be someone that I'm not wouldn't make me happier that's why I still keep ending in friendzone whenever I met a chick online plus I'm too weird as **** so a chick wouldn't actually find me interesting or love me unless she was a freak too. (here I'll share a real fail relationship attempt I had on 2012)

 

I went out with a girl last year I met online she was 20yo seems that she wanted to be my GF but in the end if felt like a friend than a GF that's why I don't consider her my real first GF first day she wanted to makeout and I chickened out afterwards I tried to convince her but she was upset (FFS GIVE ME A BREAK IT WAS MY FIRST DATE GOING OUT WITH A REAL CHICK) though it was fun to go watch movies together/eat together and go to the stores and see stuffs it really didn't go well since she made me ask her out thru phone once I got back home (though I've wanted to go out with her since 2011) we saw each other 4 times total the other 3 times we had no privacy at all eventually she dumped me because she said I was shy (WTF she was expecting me to talk like a parrot I'm not like that kind of guy I'm the kind of guy who listens and would stay for hours listening to my GF/FRIENDS/WIFEY/ETC I did talk a lot when she talked It's not like I was mute) well technically she doesn't know what she wants as one of her friends secretly told me she's immature and acts like a kid when it comes to love/dating she also never allowed me to do anything like BF-GF romantic stuff like I said it felt like a friend thing only hugs/normal kisses she never told me she loved me it felt like there was no connection between us except physical attraction still she never did anything with me I know it might be because she's BI and is not sure of her sexuality.. but yeah that's my failed attempt on going out with a chick ^

 

Pretty much you guys know I'm shy to talk to people, I mean it takes awhile once I get to know them for awhile shyness goes away just like it did with one of my online ex's who I talked to A LOT thru phone after being friends for so long she never cared about how I talked so it was like a good thing so any help/advice/thoughts/experiences you can give me to lose my v-card? or like special websites/places I could meet people for that? I don't care if she's 50yo or 18yo age is irrelevant to me also I don't care if she's a virgin or not I just wanna lose it have a great time like something special you know? at least do these things for my first time = giving my first kiss/makeout, hug/cuddle, explore/touch, smell/feel, giving oral & receiving oral, giving anal sex to the chick, and of course the vaginal sex (hope I'm not asking much) I do have fetishes like most people do and ****ed up fantasies but just mentioned the common stuff because that's what most people do when they barely know each other

 

I'm not the kind of guy who bails after the first thread so I'll let the thread open for awhile maybe days? see if I get at least 1 or 3 replies that would be enough for me as long as they give good help/advice/thoughts

 

thanks in advance!!

[Fallen Petals]

First off - don't expect the wide spectrum for your first time. Kissing/cuddling, yes, sex, yes, but oral and anal and all that...you don't know that you'll get a marathon for your first run. Especially with a girl you hardly know and where there's no emotional attachment. The thing is, if you really just want a girl to mess around with the once, you need someone who WANTS to teach a virgin the ropes, or you need someone who is just looking for a good time...if you get the former she'll be all about you - yes. But the latter will want some give in return. And tbh, if you want to be a good lover, then her pleasure needs to be very important to you too. If you can't derive pleasure from giving it to her then you will be lacking something in the lover department.

 

As for meeting people, there are a litany of sites, dating sites, sex sites, craig's list causal encounters, etc...

 

First times are the ones we remember above all others, which is why most people try to make it special. You shouldn't do it just because you feel like you're being left behind. I can promise you I know plenty of girls who would find it an endearing trait to find a man who was waiting for love.

 

Maybe I haven't given you much advice...but hopefully you find what you're looking forward to.

[plethora]

Stop referring to it as a 'vCard' will help

[James661]

Thank you for the replies, but to be honest f-uck love! that shi-t doesn't exist I've got 2 plans already planned for this year 1 that I cannot say in this forum at all - the second plan is save money and ask my friend to find me a cheap Brothel at VEGAS or a cheap escort locally ~ I'll just live life and be single for the rest of my life bitches come a dime a dozen if nobody want me to be their hubby then just f-uck it, f-uck the world, f-uck this place, f-uck society, I'M OUTTA HERE haha!