Lostint Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Not sure this is a good place to post this since everyone on here seems to be grieving a break up... But, for any of you who are in successful relationships - what do you think made it work compared to all your previous relationships? - is it that you found someone with whom it is 'easy'? - or, did you reach a stage of maturity where you are willing to work through all the problems that come up?
Positivelyhappy88 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 My husband and I have always agreed that Knowing yourself is what makes it work. Once you know who you are, what you want, and what your limits are in a relationship you will be able to figure out what type of person suits you. Also no relationship games a lot of people play games instead of simply getting to know each other. 1
Apolodor Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I think there are many thinks that could contribute to a successful relationship. First, it is important that both the man and the woman have similar general aspirations in life. Second, they need to have a similar level of formal instruction (i.e., if you went to grad school, it is unlikley that you'll be able to hook up for something serious with the girl that flips hamburgers at McDonald's, etc).Third, both partners must be prepared to make compromises for each other. And there are a million of other small things like, for example, the chemsitry between them in the bedroom, etc, etc. The rest is just small stuff.
marklarsson Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I think there are many thinks that could contribute to a successful relationship. First, it is important that both the man and the woman have similar general aspirations in life. Second, they need to have a similar level of formal instruction (i.e., if you went to grad school, it is unlikley that you'll be able to hook up for something serious with the girl that flips hamburgers at McDonald's, etc).Third, both partners must be prepared to make compromises for each other. And there are a million of other small things like, for example, the chemsitry between them in the bedroom, etc, etc. The rest is just small stuff. I think compromise is a very big part. Too often in unsuccessful relationships there is always a failure to compromise. It's always do this or else and rather than saying no to something it is always good to let your partner know of a different way that you are more comfortable doing.
marklarsson Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Understanding each others personalities is also one of them. Like for example With me I'm a very layed back person in many of my approaches. I cool calm and collected. So for example if someone cooks me a nice meal and I take a spoon full and then I take another spoonful they don't need to ask me if I thought it was nice. Because if I didn't think it was nice I would not have taken the second spoonful. Sometimes people think about how they will react to something and think that's how you should also react because they tend to forget that everyone is different. And even though they may react differently their meanings are the same. It's all about understand your partner. This really helps to limit frustrations
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