destroyed4sho Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 (edited) I wouldn't say that no. But I did tell him how I felt taken for granted and felt dismissed. Now I'm crying! Been fine all week! Oh, I'm sorry!! I just meant that if you were with a Jerk, they usually see a person with self-respect as a threat. (it happened to me too) Telling him how you felt about taking you for granted was a good thing for your own mental health...you did a good thing for yourself. Sacrificing your own self-respect for someone else will never save a relationship. Edited February 22, 2013 by destroyed4sho
LostGirl11 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Oh, I'm sorry!! I just meant that if you were with a Jerk, they usually see a person with self-respect as a threat. (it happened to me too) Telling him how you felt about taking you for granted was a good thing for your own mental health...you did a good thing for yourself. Sacrificing your own self-respect for someone else will never save a relationship. No, it's not your fault. Just feel emotional all of a sudden. Not cried once this week. Can really feel the distance between us tonight. Scary. Hope you're doing ok.
Addison312 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I've received a letter post breakup when I was the dumper. I read it and it made me feel icky and creeped on...different relationship scenario from you, of course, but I wished I hadn't received it. I personally wouldn't send it. If she wants to say anything more, she will. Leave it be and move on.
Kaza Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 First, I think both of you deleting things is completely unnecessary. But I understand because I have such an urge to do little mean things for the sake of him noticing me and knowing how i feel. I would say do what makes you feel you. If she misunderstands it, she misunderstands it. If it doesn't change things, it doesn't change things. Be who you want to be. Don't do it just because you want someone to have a good impression of you or think well of you, and therefore you feel better.That's insecurity and needing other people to validate yourself.
flitzanu Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Alright thank you guys, I'm going to go ahead and stay no contact. I do wish that there was some way to show that I'm not a bitter and spiteful prick but I guess there's no way to do that without looking desperate and pathetic. Maybe I should contact her sometime in the future? Perhaps in 3-6 months? In reality my situation doesn't seem so bad. I mean, she hasn't screamed at me telling me to stop contacting her and that she hates me so it could be a lot worse, right? Sometimes I get the feeling that I've messed up bad and that she hates me but other times I feel like I'm not in such a bad position. What would you guys say? If I just leave her alone now for a while is there hope for reconciliation in the future? It was a long distance RS and there was never any arguing between us, she just fell out of love but I gave her a hard time and probably stressed her out a lot. she doesn't care if you're a bitter and spiteful prick. 1
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