Goodbye letter for my ex... this is the end of the road.

[msalek89]

Hey guys... So my ex and I broke up 2 months ago. I broke up with him in theheat of the moment. The next day I reached him to explain myself. The fight wasboth of our faults and i wanted to correct my mistakes. He decided to ignoreme. I fought for a month for this relationship and nothing. I tried NC for amonth, but he was making it impossible. I saw him a week ago and I realizedthat there is nothing left and if i kept this going it was just going to besex. I am moving like an hour away from this city, fresh start and before i go Iwrote this letter that I plan to leave at his door. After these I will blockchange my number and since he doesn’t know where I am going to leave he won’tbe able to find me or bother me anymore.

 

I know most people write goodbye letters hoping for that person to comeback, but I am not hoping for anything. To me this is goodbye. This is theletter I will appreciate it if you guys give me your opinion on it. If i sound pathetic, needy or whatever in some parts please feel free to tell me. Thanks.

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"It's weird how you go from being strangers, then friends, then more than friends, thenstrangers again.” – Unknown

 

You should be familiar with that quote and Icouldn’t agree with it more. For all I know this letter might seem stupid,immature or whatever word choice you prefer to use, but for me it’s a way ofexpressing my feelings and reflections. Hopefully, you take the time to read itand just not set it aside. I will start by saying that I miss you. However, Idon’t miss the John from our relationship; I miss the John that was once my friend.

 

Yesterday I sat back and remembered howthings used to be. Ah man, thinking about those times puts the biggest smile onmy face. How ironic right? I found you to be amazing, unique, inspiriting andnumerous more qualities that I can’t explain. To my eyes you were worth somuch, I mean that from my heart. It didn’t matter what we were doing, havingyour company was like a breath of fresh air. Never felt that connection withanybody before. I will never take back any of those moments because they aretoo precious for me.

 

You did numerous things in which I am stillthankful about and all those actions were the ones that led me to believe anddiscover who you really are. I miss that guy, those moments and I will miss themforever.

 

I really did not know what to expect from ourrelationship. I just wanted to engage into it to make you happy and for once behappy myself. I felt like we were each other’s opportunities to break from thatnightmare and make it a dream come true. I guess we got too excited for our owngood.

 

I think about it and try to find out where wewent wrong. Maybe it was the fact that we knew too much about each other;however, that’s what trust and honesty is for right? I felt like we settledthose things before we got into our relationship. I confronted you and youconfronted me. I know that I told you that I would never do to you what I didto him and so did you, but sometimes words are not enough.

 

Maybe it was the fact that we couldn’t let goof the past. All those unresolved problems, doubts, and lies from those pastrelationships were passed on to ours. To be honest with you, never in my mind Isaw you and me under those circumstances. All the arguing, fighting, disrespectingeach other, they were flashbacks all over again.

 

I could say that at the beginning of this relationshipI was myself with you. However, all the words and problems led me to becomesomeone that I was not. Honestly, I sit back and think to myself what in theworld I was doing. I felt like part of me changed because I was not getting thesame effort from you. All the things you said to me and how you would alwaysfind something wrong, that killed me.

 

I am passed that and I have promised myselfto never feel or let anybody make me feel that way again. I know how much I amworth and that gives me bliss. I suggest that you think before you speak, younever know how much your words can hurt. Not all the individuals in this worldare strong or heartless you know. There are sensitive individual’s out therethat one word can mark them forever.

 

I always said that you can’t change a personand I will keep saying it because when you love somebody you accept them forwho they are. However, sometimes there are things that you can do to makeyourself better. I wouldn’t tell you to change because I wanted you too. All Iwanted was for you to stop and think that you can be so much better; not for meor anybody, but for yourself.

 

Disregarding all the words that have beensaid when we are upset; I mean every one of these words. I loved you and Istill do, but it’s worthless. It’s not worth loving you anymore because you andI will never be together again. It hurts letting this end because I had suchhigh hopes for you and me, but things don’t always work out the way you expectthem too.

 

I am walking away without an explanation ofwhy there is no second chance because you can’t be mature enough or set yourpride aside to communicate with me, but it’s for the best I guess. I just can’tbelieve that you are letting me walk away, that it wouldn’t hurt or matter toyou if I am with somebody else. It’s like you are just giving up without tryingand that really shows how much I meant to you and how much your love was worth.

 

I can’t say that I didn’t try to prove myselfto you; I did everything I could and that gives me some peace of mind. I mademy mistakes and I hope you forgive me for them. However, I never cheated onyou. I never did anything compared to what others have done to you. Truthfully,that throws my mind off, but what’s the point.

 

The day I stayed over, I didn’t recognizeyou. You have changed, but not into a better man or maybe that’s how you wantme to see you. I guess that applies to both of us because I have changed too. Iwon’t lie about going out and all other stupidities, but besides that I havemade changes on my person and my life. I feel like I have grown up in just twomonths and for the best. Of course, you won’t see those changes but the nextperson will. That’s what you are supposed to do when you break up with aperson. You inhale all the negative actions and exhale positive ones; you liveand you learn.

 

So I lived and I learned with you and now Iam just letting go. I felt like you never really understood how much you meantor how much you were worth to me. I will say it again, you were the world to meat one point and I never took you for granted. All I ever wanted was you, thereal you. I only had it at the beginning and I got tired of waiting to thepoint that I realized that that person won’t return, so I just give up.Sometimes I wonder who the real you was. That question will remain foreverunanswered.

 

You don’t need anything from me and I feellike you don’t need anybody. No more hold on, we can make it. There is nothingleft. I will never forget all the moments we shared. I will keep each memory ina special place of my heart. I will always wish you the best and I hope thatone day I can see who you have become.

 

I ask that you don’t call, text or try tokeep in touch with me. I see that what you deeply want is for this to be over;I understand, accept and respect your decision. I ask for the same so I canmove on and find my happiness. I resolved the money situation with your mom;speak to her about it.

 

Good luck John.

Edited February 21, 2013 by msalek89

[na49]

I hate this letter actually. I know it's to "make you feel better" but you're going to feel worse if you send it. I know you don't want to get a reaction out of him, but if you don't want a reaction then you wouldn't be sending it.

 

I want to send my ex an email right now. An email that explains everything I've done since the BU and how it was only for me to move on. That I only hate what she did, and I don't hate her (even though I should). I want to try to tie up the loose ends and not have to walk around campus worrying about bumping into her and having to live with the awkwardness. and I could tell you, "I'll send it for me. Just so I get it off my chest. I don't want to do it for a reaction". BS! I want a reaction! I want her to read it and tell me something I want to hear.

 

If you want to express your feelings, express your feelings. Don't write him an essay unless you don't want him to read it. You have a lot of self pity and sound like you want him to feel sorry for you in this letter. Like it's his fault and he's the one who's wrong that he doesn't want you back after you dumped him. If anyone should feel sorry for anyone, it should be you feeling sorry for him.

 

If you wanted to be with him, you shouldn't have broken up with him. Being broken up with hurts. Bad. and if you were willing to break up with him over a stupid argument when things got hairy, who's to say you weren't going to do it again? Drop the letter off though. Do what's best for you.

[mishy]

Goodbye letters are always abad idea

 

No matter what you tell yourself,you will be wanting a reply and when it doesn't come you will feel a million times worse

[Simon Phoenix]

Way too long.

[destroyed4sho]

Idk...the letter made me teary...kinda the same things I want to say to my ex.I think that if it will make you feel better than send it. But, don't expect a reply. Would a generic reply kill you? I think it would kill me. It depends if you are strong enough to handle it.

[cavalier99]

GOOD idea blocking, going NC, disappearing. BAD idea sending letter.

[Seeking Happiness]

I have to agree with most on here, I wouldn't send him that letter. There was just way too much information in it.

 

You are pouring your heart out to someone who is ignoring you. You will feel better about yourself if you just accept this break up and try to move on.

 

I wouldn't give him the satisfaction that you give a s--- about him!. It will just feed his Ego and you are showing him just how much your not over him!. He doesn't deserve it!.

 

Take pride in yourself and tear up that letter and never look back. You will feel better about yourself and that's the first step in order to heal from a break up.

 

I hope I wasn't too hard on you!. I really hope this helps

[msalek89]

Thanks guys... I can see that not sending the letter is my better choice. Right now i have the upper hand and by sending the letter i will be putting myself out there again. I appreciate the advice.