I find it hilarious that some girls think just because they were born with........

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Boobs and a vagina, they don't have to put much effort into

 

1. Getting to know a guy

 

2. Writing a Online essay

 

 

Getting to know someone is that both people should be doing not just the guy. And these woman need to understand that they are not the only who have a vagina, many of other girls have them too LOL

 

I'm going to avoid my usual sarcastic response and give you something a little more sincere.

 

What kind of effort would you like a woman to put in, in getting to know you? What should she do and what questions should she ask that would signify this for you?

[PhillyDude]

The fact is women typically don't "withhold" sex from men they enjoy having sex with. It's not a hard thing to do if you don't really want the man you're withholding it from.

 

 

I'm referring to when a woman is mad at him for something and calls herself punishing him when she is really punishing herself

[PhillyDude]

I'm going to avoid my usual sarcastic response and give you something a little more sincere.

 

What kind of effort would you like a woman to put in, in getting to know you? What should she do and what questions should she ask that would signify this for you?

 

 

Show interest in his likes and dislikes and not just stuff like

 

His occupation

His career goals

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Show interest in his likes and dislikes and not just stuff like

 

His occupation

His career goals

 

Yeah I can actually understand this. I am sure it can be annoying for guys when all a woman seems to care about are those two things.

 

PhillyDude, I actually think you would have gotten more positive responses to your issue if you had presented it a little better. But you kind of started off with being antagonistic toward women.

[MidwestUSA]

What about a girl with a rhinoceros horn growing out of her forehead and big eagle wings sprouting from her shoulder blades and big furry panda bear paws on her hands but with big mag wheels for feet and machine guns mounted on her forearms and ears like Dr. Spock and heat-seeking missile launchers on both shoulders and zebra stripes?

 

If her online essay is good, heck yea!

[EasyHeart]

This is kind of a silly premise.

 

Women will put in a huge amount of work in trying to attract a guy --- if the guy is worth the effort.

[PhillyDude]

This is kind of a silly premise.

 

Women will put in a huge amount of work in trying to attract a guy --- if the guy is worth the effort.

 

 

But why is she automatically worth the effort??

[xxoo]

But why is she automatically worth the effort??

 

Good question. Guys?

 

I'm putting my money on the boobs and the vag.

[PhillyDude]

Good question. Guys?

 

I'm putting my money on the boobs and the vag.

 

 

I think I will put my March Rent on the Vag LOL

[Quiet Storm]

I'm referring to when a woman is mad at him for something and calls herself punishing him when she is really punishing herself

 

Because at that point in time, denying his pleasure trumps the pleasure she gets out of sex.

 

If most women are like me, when we are mad at our man, we don't want to have sex. Our desire is very much tied to our mood. Trust me, when we are plssed we aren't fighting our desire. Sex would be the last thing we would want at that moment.

 

Now make up sex, after we have worked out our argument, that's another story.

[todreaminblue]

But why is she automatically worth the effort??

 

 

i dont know any woman who doesnt want to feel appreciated and worth the effort....speaking fro myself, when you have had guys devalue all your effort on a guys part it is appreciated and respected by women........when guys show effort back even better to give it first.........so for that reason making someone feel valued is a wonderful thing to do.....right now i want to say sorry fro beign a smart ass, i would like to apologize to a friend of mine who i was a smart ass yesterday..i was attempting dep speak i guess that he has no idea about........but i cant....so ill apologize to you instead..because i am a chicken....you're easier to apologize too...so sorry..deb

[MrCastle]

Good question. Guys?

 

I'm putting my money on the boobs and the vag.

 

Ass*

 

Fixed it

[JuneJulySeptember]

Boobs and a vagina, they don't have to put much effort into

 

1. Getting to know a guy

 

2. Writing a Online essay

 

 

Getting to know someone is that both people should be doing not just the guy. And these woman need to understand that they are not the only who have a vagina, many of other girls have them too LOL

 

I do kinda know what you mean. I've spent a lifetime talking to women who have brushed me off. And some of these women are what most men would consider FLAT OUT unattractive. Maybe I am boring. But were they cool or interesting? I dunno, because they weren't really giving me anything.

 

To me, this goes way beyond men and women and dating.

 

How many times have you gone to a wedding and sat a table with strangers and tried to talk someone up, man or woman?

 

And how many times have you gotten 2 minutes of conversation out of them before they start ignoring you?

 

Simply told, MOST people only want to be surrounded by those that can give them something.

 

So, the way I see it you have 2 choices.

 

1) You can try and give these women what they want so they will chase you as much as they chase them (this might not be possible).

 

2) Don't play the game. Next time a woman responds to you favorably and DOES give you some attention back, talk her up even if she isn't your type. The game exists at such a strong level because nobody wants to compromise their needs.

[SJC2008]

I don't think a woman who doesn't meet a mans needs or understands that relationships are ABOUT meeting eachothers needs' is consciously thinking that "I have the vag so my job is done". They just don't know how to show affection or see men as humans who need affection. My uncle says something like what you did in your title. He says "If women didn't have holes between their legs they'd have nothing to offer". So why does he say this? Becuse he picks the wrong women who are controlling and don't know how to show affection and don't think a man has needs. So what's the "remedy"? Meet woman who are good natured and know how to show men affection and see a relationship as a partnership where you're supposed to meet the others needs.

[kimberlydoll]

I don't think a woman who doesn't meet a mans needs or understands that relationships are ABOUT meeting eachothers needs' is consciously thinking that "I have the vag so my job is done". They just don't know how to show affection or see men as humans who need affection. My uncle says something like what you did in your title. He says "If women didn't have holes between their legs they'd have nothing to offer". So why does he say this? Becuse he picks the wrong women who are controlling and don't know how to show affection and don't think a man has needs. So what's the "remedy"? Meet woman who are good natured and know how to show men affection and see a relationship as a partnership where you're supposed to meet the others needs.

 

Maybe she used it as a tool but its likely he thinks this way because many men do. Many men really only value women for their looks and how they can get them off. Thats why people say men only befriend women they are interested in sexually...women can see that men they arent attracted to have other good qualities to benefit from....men dont care about this

 

Sorry, there are some good guys today but not that many. I find many men have this attitude but some are better at hiding it than others.

[kimberlydoll]

 

How many times have you gone to a wedding and sat a table with strangers and tried to talk someone up, man or woman?

 

And how many times have you gotten 2 minutes of conversation out of them before they start ignoring you?

 

Simply told, MOST people only want to be surrounded by those that can give them something.

 

So, the way I see it you have 2 choices.

 

1) You can try and give these women what they want so they will chase you as much as they chase them (this might not be possible).

 

2) Don't play the game. Next time a woman responds to you favorably and DOES give you some attention back, talk her up even if she isn't your type. The game exists at such a strong level because nobody wants to compromise their needs.

 

I do that all the time. Just because Im not attracted to somebody doesnt mean I wouldnt like talking to them.

 

This is not always a good thing...Im friendly and nice to everyone because I genuinely like people and making new friends/acquaintances. But I have had so many guys convinced I liked them because of this when I wasnt interested...

[PhillyDude]

Maybe she used it as a tool but its likely he thinks this way because many men do. Many men really only value women for their looks and how they can get them off. Thats why people say men only befriend women they are interested in sexually...women can see that men they arent attracted to have other good qualities to benefit from....men dont care about this

 

Sorry, there are some good guys today but not that many. I find many men have this attitude but some are better at hiding it than others.

 

 

Any straight man who sees an attractive woman in public he is thinking about having sex with her. Not "she looks real sweet I would like to get to know her better"

[kimberlydoll]

I also never understood how a woman can withhold sex when she enjoys it too LOL

 

Men use women for sex and lie about it...thats why

 

I love sex but I constantly fear what happens afterwards. Even with guys I think wont do it, they lose interest or their true intentions come out

[kimberlydoll]

Any straight man who sees an attractive woman in public he is thinking about having sex with her. Not "she looks real sweet I would like to get to know her better"

 

Hence why most men apparently are attracted to all their female friends and want to get with them...they dont have the depth to care about them underneath

[Mme. Chaucer]

I think you're right. If I didn't have these annoying boobs and this pesky vagina, I'd be writing essays online right and left.

[serial muse]

What about a girl with a rhinoceros horn growing out of her forehead and big eagle wings sprouting from her shoulder blades and big furry panda bear paws on her hands but with big mag wheels for feet and machine guns mounted on her forearms and ears like Dr. Spock and heat-seeking missile launchers on both shoulders and zebra stripes?

 

Well, this thread took a turn for the awesome.

[FitChick]

Where can I find a guy who has a vagina and a dick? And boobs too?

 

Ask Eddie Murphy. Or Danny Bonaduce.

[Archgirl]

Do you even bother to read the stuff you post? This may be the most hypocritical post we've seen to date. Women are supposed to put effort into putting together an online essay to appease you, when you can't even put together two reasonably coherent sentences?

 

You've got to be ****ing kidding.

 

If genitals didn't determine sex a la Mr Castle, and you had dude bits, I would totally marry you, you're awesome!

[Phoebe]

Boobs and a vagina, they don't have to put much effort into

 

1. Getting to know a guy

 

2. Writing a Online essay

 

 

Getting to know someone is that both people should be doing not just the guy. And these woman need to understand that they are not the only who have a vagina, many of other girls have them too LOL

 

 

Any straight man who sees an attractive woman in public he is thinking about having sex with her. Not "she looks real sweet I would like to get to know her better"

 

I just want to make sure that I've got this straight.

 

You find it hilarious that attractive women think that they can get by on their looks and body parts? You sound bitter that an attractive woman is not putting enough effort into getting to know a man and yet several comments later you're saying that all a man is thinking about is sex and not getting to know the woman?

 

Is it really so suprising to you that with apparently all the straight men thinking this way and trying their luck that a woman might get a little jaded with time? That you may need to do something to distinguish yourself from all the other straight men contacting her with their minds on sex.

[EasyHeart]

But why is she automatically worth the effort??

She isn't.

 

But she is worth the effort to a guy who is attracted to her and thinks they will be compatible. Why would a woman be interested in anyone who isn't interested in her?

 

The point of dating isn't to attract thousands of men (or women). The point is to attract one person who is compatible with you.