joel Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 we all now the first date who ever asks and it is usually the guy that asks that we pay. ok fine. but how about after the first date who pays? to the guys after how many dates do u expect the girl to chip in and say this is on me. and how often do u expect the girl to chip in-this is 50 to 50 or swap. i for one think if a guiy has to pay for every date it can be expensive-especially if u don't make lots of money and u live on ur own and have to pay rent. i even had one classmate before tell me he rents and is not rich , takes the bus he is in his 30's and said from his dating experience there are some women who like rich guys-and he said if ur rich u can get any women u want
mugirl213 Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 I personally offer to pay ad nauseum when I first start dating someone and they usually refuse. This goes on for about 3 months...and then I end up starting to pay for things...and we usually fall into a 50/50 pattern. I.e. dinner and a movie, he buys dinner, I buy a movie. Usually I pay for less...simply because I make less.
surfergirl Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 Hey Joel... Personally, the guy has always paid for the first 2/3 dates and then if the chemistry/friendship/attraction is there then I turn the tables and take him out. There's nothing wrong with the girl paying, provided she can afford it.... if not then choose to do something else...like a picnic in the park or take a blanket to the beach and have drinks...there are alternatives. If you ask her out first then be prepared to pay for the first few after that it's ok for her to pick up the tab. If she asks you out, by all means, she should pay!!!! Just my little ole opinion.
mehim Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 almost every guy i have dated, have always paid for me. no matter after how long it has been, although i always offer to pay, and they refuse to let me pay. my current bf, i have never paid a penny out of my pocket, and its been more than a year and a half, but we dont always go out on dates, we could just hang out, but he always pays, he would never let me pay. one exeption, i dated a guy recentely, (i was broken up with my current bf, then we got back togetrher) who had a job when we first were dating, but then he didnt, so he paid for the first two dates, then i started offering to pay, or paid half, after that we werent interested in each other. but otherwise most of the guys pay for me.
UCFKevin Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 For the first two or three dates, I'll pay, after that, if the girl keeps expecting me to pay everything or never offers to pay, I'll know what kind of chick she is and it'll be over. If a girl offers to pay, screw it, I'll take her up on it. I don't refuse that.
DerangedAngel Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 I always offer to pay at least half, and they usually take me up on it. I like it that way. -DA
Author joel Posted September 3, 2004 Author Posted September 3, 2004 UCFKevin i totally agree with u. are u a male in his 20's i believe most younger ppl in their 20's in this day of age are thinking like us 2 to 3 dates on us after that swap or 50 to 50. Originally posted by UCFKevin For the first two or three dates, I'll pay, after that, if the girl keeps expecting me to pay everything or never offers to pay, I'll know what kind of chick she is and it'll be over. If a girl offers to pay, screw it, I'll take her up on it. I don't refuse that.
rogueless Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 The guy has always paid whether we've dated 2 months or 2 years. If its a spontaneous thing and he has no cash, I've offered and paid before, but that seldom happened. I always leave a nice tip when we go out. I am a thoughtful person though. I think by my actions and efforts, he receives compensation in other ways, lol. No, I'm not referring to sex. I mean I'm thoughtful in picking him up gifts for no reason or occasionally purchase things I notice he needs for the house, ie soap, tp, laundry detergent, or a nice homecooked meal. I don't think its about who pays, I think its more about the give and take of the whole relationship. Now, if all the girl does is sit on her butt and expect him to do everything, thats a crock.
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