CKenway Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I got out of a short-term relationship (month and a half) that ended out of the blue. I'm 22.5, she recently turned 21. We had fun together, made each other laugh, had similar views in life, never an awkward silence or dull moment... We did have different interests as to what we were into (such as the frequency we read books, listened to music, which genre of movies we liked, where we lived (Maryland and New York)... Anyways the relationship ended out of nowhere saying she thinks I'm a great guy, she's been thinking about it for a while, and she didn't see a future. I have no idea what went wrong. One thing that keeps popping out at me is that every time I'd mention a female (whether she was a woman who worked at the Uni's post office or just a friend my age) she would get all defensive. People would often smile at me while I was with her and she noticed, saying "that girl gave you a BIG smile" or "I don't know that girl, but she just smiled at us" (that girl was a friend of mine). I don't mean that to sound cocky. When I would drop her at her apartment, and a girl from her school walked in or out, she would always ask me if I knew them. I didn't attach any meaning to it, but now I think it was either jealousy/ or, pessimistically, as I've seen happens, calling my attention to other girls I could date. I really don't know what it could've been. Anyways - is it worth giving it some time to cool off and trying again later? Is that even a possibility? I don't know how much dating experience she's had, and she may have freaked out that things were getting serious. She has plans to move in with her friends next year in a super nice apartment, and she just wants to live life and not be tied down in marriage yet. I've never met a girl like her, and I have no interest in dating anyone now. I liked her too much and don't want to give up.
destroyed4sho Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Yeah, cool off a little bit. What reason did she state about not seeing a future together? If she didn't specify, it probably has nothing to do with you. It could be a million reasons, she could be scared and inexperienced, interested in someone else, wants to be free, she could be gay and doesn't know it yet...who knows... Don't waste your time...eh your young in college...god too many girls to get hung up on this one.
Author CKenway Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 Thanks for the reply! This is my first post ever here, but I've been reading a lot of posts just to get some perspective. She didn't give a reason. She seemed hesitant to do it, and her voice was shaky (well... breaking up is a nerve wracking experience). I didn't fight her on it. Fighting only makes a bad situation worse. She just kept repeating about two or three times that she's thought about it for a while and that she didn't see a future. Talk about twisting the knife deeper each time. I figured I would go NC for now, and revisit the idea with her or speak to her cousin to see what's doing and where she stands on it. I know there's hundreds and thousands of girls, but this was honestly the first girl I've dated that I truly liked and wanted to keep things going. So it goes...
destroyed4sho Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 This was a very short relationship. Do you really want to continue if it is not working out so early on. I think you are pushing for something that is just not meant to be. Trust me I do have experience and the first few months are about discovering the person, their body, honeymooning, enjoying each others company, infatuation, etc. Seems like she didn't even want to get to that phase. Don't bother at this point.
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