carhill Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 How do/would you feel about your significant other having close friends of the opposite sex? I think it's fine, generally. What circumstances would you be OK with and what ones would you not? Shared interests, transparent communication, social interaction as couples in addition to friend/friend interaction would be OK. Exclusive relations would be not OK. Are there "boundaries" you would set for the friendship? The main one would be inclusion of the marriage/couple in the friendship. Concurrently, there would be no ambiguity about the spouse's/partner's priorities. Lastly, marital/relationship business remains within the marriage/relationship. 2
Treasa Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 My boyfriend is friends with his ex-girlfriend, who's currently engaged. They could go out to dinner together, alone, and I don't think I would care. I know without a doubt that my boyfriend wants only me, and he showers me with so much love that sometimes I almost need to get away from it. Also, his ex is really nice and really into her fiance. 2
ThaWholigan Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 My boyfriend is friends with his ex-girlfriend, who's currently engaged. They could go out to dinner together, alone, and I don't think I would care. I know without a doubt that my boyfriend wants only me, and he showers me with so much love that sometimes I almost need to get away from it. Also, his ex is really nice and really into her fiance. I must admit, I'm not a fan of the whole "you CAN'T be friends with an ex" thing - I don't see why not. At least for me, I don't imagine being at loggerheads with one.
NervisPervis Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 It's interesting how some people labour under the delusion that just because they can't do something, nobody else can. Chick, right?
Els Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Chick, right? Totally, along with carhill, GravityMan, ThaWholigan, and Sox. We're allllll chicks. 1
Soxfaninfl Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Totally, along with carhill, GravityMan, ThaWholigan, and Sox. We're allllll chicks. Are you talking about me?
gaius Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 (edited) Maybe men can't because maybe men don't ever really value women for other qualities the offer over sex. But I think women can be friends with men they don't find sexually attractive because they know men have more value than that. Ha. I've lost count of the women I've run into that encourage or flirt with men they wouldn't bang if their life depended on it because they enjoy the attention. One of my friends is hung up on some girl who can only manage to let him jerk off in front of her despite him doting on her for 5+ years straight. She can't stand anything more than that. :sick: Such a two way street. I think I have to call my male friends about this and ask their opinion. Maybe even meet up for drinks or something. Dem be fightin words.... Edited February 21, 2013 by gaius
sillyanswer Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 How do/would you feel about your significant other having close friends of the opposite sex? What circumstances would you be OK with and what ones would you not? Are there "boundaries" you would set for the friendship? If it's genuine friendship then I don't have a problem with it. I have some female friends with whom I share some common interests and hobbies, so I spend time with them either doing those hobbies or sometimes just over a drink talking about those hobbies. The girl I'm currently dating (probably about 10 dates now) has met some of them. I didn't ask if she approves, though. If she doesn't then the door is over there -->> I don't know if she has any guy friends. Probably does.
Ladybugz Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 you cant trust amen with female friends. beside they most know that once he have a gf they need to back off. anyway you should kind of people manage to know who both of you have as friends anyway. dont be like i cant stand her so let me stay home and let him go out with them.
SadSouls Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 My two best friends are female, it does annoy my girlfriend to an extent but at the end of the day she'll have to put up with it because I've known one since the age of four and if anything were going to happen it would have by now.
tbf Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I can GUARANTEE that you and all 6 people who liked this post are chicks. "Purely platonic". Read my lips: No. Such. Thing!Just checked the likes. There were male members too. Not every male is a...NervisPervis. 2
RogerWallace111 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I'm fine with my lady having male friends, and she needs to be fine with my female friends. BUT, I'm not gonna date a girl who insists on spending time alone with other guys. And I'm not saying that hypocritically, I just default wouldn't be hanging out alone with my female friends while in a relationship. Invite them all to hang out with you as a group. Typically when there's a need for privacy, something's not quite cool.
RogerWallace111 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 And I don't mean it's always something physical, but simply that theyre sharing some level of mental/emotional intimacy that I want to be the only man enjoying. She can get her male input from me, and her intimate friendship, venting about me:), etc from her female friends.
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