How should I go about getting some "older women?"

[MightyHeracross]

This is my first thread, so it would be great to get some help right off the bat!

 

First off, just note, I am going to be calling these attractive older women in their 30s, 40s, and sometimes 50s, MILFs. Its just easier to type 4 letters than attractive older women. Don't like it? Oh well. I would never go say that to their face, EVER.

 

Anyways, I'm 18. Im in college, but I still live with my parents... Theres a university pretty close to my house. I have never had a GF and I have a TON of trouble approaching girls my age, let alone having a conversation with them for a little bit. I think I mustve missed the lesson on how to flirt and make small talk, as well as the class before about approaching girls lol.

 

Ive figured that since its so tough for me to meet girls my age, I could go after MILFs. Ive heard they're easy to talk to. Don't think that this is just a "consolation prize" since I have trouble in my own age group. Its not. I see them everywhere, but mainly at stores like Target, WalMart, and grocery stores.

 

How can I approach them? What do I say? I really need to know! How can I keep a conversation going with them? What should I talk with them about? What happens after I approach them? I really need a step by step guide lol

 

PS. I would prefer a MILF over a cougar. Theres kind of a distinct difference, but this page will explain it perfectly! To be honest, I though they were kinda the same until I read this! The Bachelor Guy » MILFs and Cougars: A Practical Guide

 

Also, don't lecture me about not being old enough. Im plenty old. Im quite mature for my age. Its not my hormones talking. Don't just answer on this to get the points, unless you're being sincere.

 

Lastly, its not a deal breaker if they've got kids. Doesn't matter.

 

Thanks guys!!

[clia]

Ive figured that since its so tough for me to meet girls my age, I could go after MILFs.

 

Why do you think older women will be any easier to approach than women your own age?

 

How can I approach them? What do I say? I really need to know! How can I keep a conversation going with them? What should I talk with them about? What happens after I approach them? I really need a step by step guide lol

 

Women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s are PEOPLE. You approach them, talk to them, and converse with them like you would any other PERSON. Honestly, your post makes it sounds like they are some sort of alien life form or something. It isn't rocket science.

 

Lastly, its not a deal breaker if they've got kids. Doesn't matter.

 

You know what the "M" in MILF stands for, right?

[pteromom]

If you have trouble talking to girls your age, you aren't gonna be getting older women until you get past it.

 

Because the ONLY way a typical 30/40/50 year old woman would notice an 18 year old is if he is very confident and friendly. And manly looking vs. boyish looking.

[StanMusial]

First off, just note, I am going to be calling these attractive older women in their 30s, 40s, and sometimes 50s, MILFs. Its just easier to type 4 letters than attractive older women. Don't like it? Oh well. I would never go say that to their face, EVER.

 

Anyways, I'm 18. Im in college, but I still live with my parents... Theres a university pretty close to my house. I have never had a GF and I have a TON of trouble approaching girls my age, let alone having a conversation with them for a little bit. I think I mustve missed the lesson on how to flirt and make small talk, as well as the class before about approaching girls lol.

 

Ive figured that since its so tough for me to meet girls my age, I could go after MILFs. Ive heard they're easy to talk to. Don't think that this is just a "consolation prize" since I have trouble in my own age group. Its not. I see them everywhere, but mainly at stores like Target, WalMart, and grocery stores.

 

How can I approach them? What do I say? I really need to know! How can I keep a conversation going with them? What should I talk with them about? What happens after I approach them? I really need a step by step guide lol

 

PS. I would prefer a MILF over a cougar. Theres kind of a distinct difference, but this page will explain it perfectly! To be honest, I though they were kinda the same until I read this! The Bachelor Guy » MILFs and Cougars: A Practical Guide

 

Also, don't lecture me about not being old enough. Im plenty old. Im quite mature for my age. Its not my hormones talking. Don't just answer on this to get the points, unless you're being sincere.

 

Lastly, its not a deal breaker if they've got kids. Doesn't matter.

 

Thanks guys!!

 

You're in college numbnuts. Why would you be interested in women old enough to be your mother?

[MidwestUSA]

Oh for cryin' out loud, not

 

I'm going to ask you the same question I asked yesterday's poster, why do you want an older woman? What do you think you have to offer her?

 

His virginity?

[coltsfan1]

You need to wait another 7 to 10 years if you want to chase a woman in her 30's/40's. You can barely vote and by smokes, you can't even take a LADY not MILF to dinner and drinks yet.

 

If you want to chase older women you have to have something that sparks their interest. Know art, fine food, different music, be travelled, and most of all two things! Know how to pursue a lady and lastly know how to hold her attention. I am 32 and dating a 45 year old woman, I caught her attention because I am NOT like other 32 year old males. I don't spend all my free time at the local pub, I take her to plays, or food tastings. I pursue her and in turn she does the things I need. It isn't anything like dating a girl in her mid 20's fresh out of college who wants to be treated like a lady but act like a club rat.

 

Just be patient cause you have a slim chance to get a MILF now. Your time will come, have fun with your college girls, that should be like shooting fish in a barrel.

[FitChick]

You're in college numbnuts. Why would you be interested in women old enough to be your mother?

 

For the same reason some college girls like much older men -- to pay their tuition.

 

OP, doesn't your mother have friends?

[MightyHeracross]

For the same reason some college girls like much older men -- to pay their tuition.

 

OP, doesn't your mother have friends?

 

Haha Yeah. She's got friends. Most of which I know and doing something with them would ruin any relationships I previously had with them, or this children, usually my friends.

[MightyHeracross]

You need to wait another 7 to 10 years if you want to chase a woman in her 30's/40's. You can barely vote and by smokes, you can't even take a LADY not MILF to dinner and drinks yet.

 

If you want to chase older women you have to have something that sparks their interest. Know art, fine food, different music, be travelled, and most of all two things! Know how to pursue a lady and lastly know how to hold her attention. I am 32 and dating a 45 year old woman, I caught her attention because I am NOT like other 32 year old males. I don't spend all my free time at the local pub, I take her to plays, or food tastings. I pursue her and in turn she does the things I need. It isn't anything like dating a girl in her mid 20's fresh out of college who wants to be treated like a lady but act like a club rat.

 

Just be patient cause you have a slim chance to get a MILF now. Your time will come, have fun with your college girls, that should be like shooting fish in a barrel.

 

I can do all those things you can. Im sure once I meet her, I could, at least. Im questioning how to meet her. In a store like Target or a grocery store, how can I strike up a convo and keep it going to get their number? Thats really what I need to know!

[MightyHeracross]

Oh for cryin' out loud, not another one...

 

Stop reading these stupid articles. Many of us in the age range you're talking about have children older than you, which pretty much renders you "asexual" to us...especially if you're talking about MILFs rather than cougars. For a woman in her 40s, a man in his 30s is a "younger man".

 

I'm going to ask you the same question I asked yesterday's poster, why do you want an older woman? What do you think you have to offer her?

 

Its not really what I have to offer. This isn't about a job... I fix your toilet, you fix my stove type thing. Its relationship. Im not just going to be involved with her so she can provide me with things or I can offer her things. Ihappen to be considered quite mature for me age. What I'm wondering is how I can approach her in a store or something, then how can I keep it going?

[clia]

Its not really what I have to offer. This isn't about a job... I fix your toilet, you fix my stove type thing. Its relationship.

 

How do you define a relationship? What are you looking for out of this? Dating? Sex?

 

Let's say you do get to the point of a date with an older woman. Where do you plan to take her on dates 1, 2, and 3? Do you have a job? Do you have a car?

 

What I'm wondering is how I can approach her in a store or something, then how can I keep it going?

 

If an 18 year old boy approached me at Target or the grocery store, I would think one of three things was happening:

 

1. He needs help finding something;

2. He is begging for spare change; or

3. He is going to rob me.

 

(I'm 38, by the way.) I don't understand why you think it will be easier to approach older women than girls your own age. In my opinion, more 18 year old girls than 30/40/50 year old women will be interested in an 18 year old boy. It just seems like you are really limiting your dating pool. I can't think of a scenario where I would even entertain the idea of dating/relationship/sex with an 18 year old. I think there are Cougar online dating sites -- maybe you should sign up for one of those. Then at least you are targeting a group of women who might be interested as opposed to cold approaching women who might just find it a hilarious event to post about on Facebook.

 

But honestly, approach women is pretty much the same, no matter what their age. If you don't have game with the younger women, it is going to be 100 times worse with an older women. You have to understand that your main competition (for a Mrs. Stiffler type) will be men in their 30/40/50/60s who are financially secure, have a car, have a job, have their own house, and are able to take the woman out on the town.

[Emilia]

You think just because you're a kid with a never-ending erection that qualifies you to be with an older woman? That's what vibrators are for, and they're a lot less hassle and expense - and they don't come with angry parents.

 

To be fair, I prefer a never-ending erection attached to a human being to a vibrator.

[Emilia]

How can I approach them? What do I say? I really need to know! How can I keep a conversation going with them? What should I talk with them about? What happens after I approach them? I really need a step by step guide lol

 

The best would be if you got a job that involved interacting with older women. That way you would get the chance to get to know them and eventually when you are confident enough, flirt with them. Even a small part-time or weekend job.

[rocketman122]

your age clearly shows. still a little boy. get over your milf fantasy. come back when you get older and have something to offer.

 

"I worked really hard all week at McDonalds so I can take you out to a movie and buy some popcorn as well"

[Drseussgrrl]

Do you have mommy issues?

[MidwestUSA]

To be fair, I prefer a never-ending erection attached to a human being to a vibrator.

 

If only the pharmaceutical companies hadn't put out all those stupid warnings about "four hours". Heavy sigh.

[Emilia]

If only the pharmaceutical companies hadn't put out all those stupid warnings about "four hours". Heavy sigh.

 

haha just realised what you meant.

 

if that's any consolation, I was only joking

[2sure]

I swore I was never going to participate in a thread regarding this subject, but ...I just have to add some clarity

 

Myself and my friends are all in the MILF and Cougar age ranges. Most are either single , divorced, between marriages.

 

The whole much younger guy thing is a trend that everyone wants to try at least once. Remember when bisexuality was so popular? Everyone gave it a whirl. Anyway, we arent any different.

 

Now, these woman dont shop at Target, they are not soccer Moms , they dont drive chevys. I am more down to earth than most of them - but believe me, they are a different breed.

 

The younger guys they (and me , twice) have been 25 ish . Exceptionally good looking. Exceptionally. Athletic. Charming, confident and fun. Mostly hot though.

 

These women are not easier to get to.

[FitChick]

The best would be if you got a job that involved interacting with older women. That way you would get the chance to get to know them and eventually when you are confident enough, flirt with them. Even a small part-time or weekend job.

 

Become a hairdresser.

[MightyHeracross]

How do you define a relationship? What are you looking for out of this? Dating? Sex?

 

Well as much as I hate to say it, I guess just sex for right now. Im not sure why, but Im just really attracted to women in the MILF category. I don't have much to offer, which is why Im looking to online forums for help. Honestly, if I had things to offer, would I really be here? NO! Id be out there offering my stuff.

[MightyHeracross]

I swore I was never going to participate in a thread regarding this subject, but ...I just have to add some clarity

 

Myself and my friends are all in the MILF and Cougar age ranges. Most are either single , divorced, between marriages.

 

The whole much younger guy thing is a trend that everyone wants to try at least once. Remember when bisexuality was so popular? Everyone gave it a whirl. Anyway, we arent any different.

 

Now, these woman dont shop at Target, they are not soccer Moms , they dont drive chevys. I am more down to earth than most of them - but believe me, they are a different breed.

 

The younger guys they (and me , twice) have been 25 ish . Exceptionally good looking. Exceptionally. Athletic. Charming, confident and fun. Mostly hot though.

 

These women are not easier to get to.

 

What exactly do you mean by these moms at Target aren't soccer moms? Also, thanks for giving your input being on the other end of this fantasy of mine

[debber01]

Do you have mommy issues?

 

OMG. Was thinking the same thing. I've recently been thrown back into the dating pool, and only 'serious' bites I've had were from two 24 year olds and a 19 year old. I am 49 for *ucks sake! While flattered, it's also pretty creepy. Seems like there's a whole generation out there with Mommy issues. And yes. All three of them knew my age. <shudder> 10 years younger? Sure. 15 years younger? Maybe. But you'd have to be something pretty special, AND VERY mature, but 25-30 years younger?! Uh no. I've already raised my kids, thanks. Not looking to raise another. Frightening....

[coltsfan1]

How do you define a relationship? What are you looking for out of this? Dating? Sex?

 

Let's say you do get to the point of a date with an older woman. Where do you plan to take her on dates 1, 2, and 3? Do you have a job? Do you have a car?

 

 

 

If an 18 year old boy approached me at Target or the grocery store, I would think one of three things was happening:

 

1. He needs help finding something;

2. He is begging for spare change; or

3. He is going to rob me.

 

(I'm 38, by the way.) I don't understand why you think it will be easier to approach older women than girls your own age. In my opinion, more 18 year old girls than 30/40/50 year old women will be interested in an 18 year old boy. It just seems like you are really limiting your dating pool. I can't think of a scenario where I would even entertain the idea of dating/relationship/sex with an 18 year old. I think there are Cougar online dating sites -- maybe you should sign up for one of those. Then at least you are targeting a group of women who might be interested as opposed to cold approaching women who might just find it a hilarious event to post about on Facebook.

 

But honestly, approach women is pretty much the same, no matter what their age. If you don't have game with the younger women, it is going to be 100 times worse with an older women. You have to understand that your main competition (for a Mrs. Stiffler type) will be men in their 30/40/50/60s who are financially secure, have a car, have a job, have their own house, and are able to take the woman out on the town.

 

 

Thanks to this post, Just a poster, and 2sure. All proving my post!!

 

OP you have to accept that your not even in the running with 30-40 year old ladies that are established. I have a great career, nice home, decent car and I am a decent looking guy. You can't do the things I can. I can fly myself and my lady to Vegas for the weekend, or hop on my Harley and take a road trip to a scenic spot. We are not saying your a lame ass kid, just that right now your aiming too high. Learn to attract an attractive younger gal, and hold her attention then in a few years you may be ready. All the ladies on here have all but told you what you should do over the next 5 to 7 years!! Go to school, learn to approach women, stay active and in good shape THEN in your mid to late twenties start pursuing old woman if that's what you want. Its really just that simple!

Edited February 21, 2013 by coltsfan1

[Snowman219]

First off, just note, I am going to be calling these attractive older women in their 30s, 40s, and sometimes 50s, MILFs. Its just easier to type 4 letters than attractive older women. Don't like it? Oh well. I would never go say that to their face, EVER.

 

Anyways, I'm 18. Im in college, but I still live with my parents... Theres a university pretty close to my house. I have never had a GF and I have a TON of trouble approaching girls my age, let alone having a conversation with them for a little bit. I think I mustve missed the lesson on how to flirt and make small talk, as well as the class before about approaching girls lol.

 

Ive figured that since its so tough for me to meet girls my age, I could go after MILFs. Ive heard they're easy to talk to. Don't think that this is just a "consolation prize" since I have trouble in my own age group. Its not. I see them everywhere, but mainly at stores like Target, WalMart, and grocery stores.

 

How can I approach them? What do I say? I really need to know! How can I keep a conversation going with them? What should I talk with them about? What happens after I approach them? I really need a step by step guide lol

 

PS. I would prefer a MILF over a cougar. Theres kind of a distinct difference, but this page will explain it perfectly! To be honest, I though they were kinda the same until I read this! The Bachelor Guy » MILFs and Cougars: A Practical Guide

 

Also, don't lecture me about not being old enough. Im plenty old. Im quite mature for my age. Its not my hormones talking. Don't just answer on this to get the points, unless you're being sincere.

 

Lastly, its not a deal breaker if they've got kids. Doesn't matter.

 

Thanks guys!!

 

I'll give you the lesson you missed. At that age, expectations are extremely high and borderline sociopathic, and at an older age expectations are lower. You can basically talk to an older woman the same as a younger one. The only difference is the older woman will actually communicate back.

[iKING]

Put on a deer costume.

Cougars love to pounce on deer.

 

You could try cougar life or something, otherwise you'll have to find the right woman. They're pretty hit-or-miss.