d0620 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I have been broken up for one week today. I text him long text messages 1 time for 5 days and he never responded. I finally was tired of humiliating myself and wanted to maintain some sort of dignity and went full NC 2 days ago. I guess I was just wondering if I look like a total doormat in his eyes? Did it make me look weak? I am obviously hurting very much still, but I can't believe I embarrassed myself to the point of begging. I am pretty, educated, good job. My self esteem must be at an all time low...
Njeanne Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 First couple of weeks you'll be like that, we all are. You are strong, you stopped begging/pleaing almost instantly, most people on here (emberassing) tried for months before finally giving up. He knows you love him, there is nothing else you can do. This is the time for you only, time to heal... Begging/pleaing will only push him further anyway, and you don't want that. To answer the thread question, I begged and cried during break up, went silent next day instantly. I have dignity and he knows I love him, so nothing more I can do. I did text him after five days to do something for me, which he said he would. At 10th day he texted me saying "be brave and strong and you'll get through this ordeal, I promise" which got me furious so I kinda got mad slightly but I felt lead on for two months...but looking back at it, it was all my fault to begin with... Break up was my fault, I learned valuable lesson and he knows I didn't do it on purpose, or would do so to hurt him, so all I can do is live with the guilt and hope one day I can forgive myself. 1
EAP Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I was dragged along for three months.. I begged and pleaded and asked for a conversation to discuss the matter... I ended up leaving him when he admitted he had feelings for another person and had already slept with them. I'm literally just beginning to recover from that so take my advice and keep with the NC. Block their number, erase them from your social sites, busy yourself or else you're going to end up like me, emotionally damaged beyond repair. 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 we all do this pretty normal. Just act like you have some self-respect even if you don't right now. It will help you rebuild it in the long run. I did the begging back for over 3 months...:-( 1
todreaminblue Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I have been broken up for one week today. I text him long text messages 1 time for 5 days and he never responded. I finally was tired of humiliating myself and wanted to maintain some sort of dignity and went full NC 2 days ago. I guess I was just wondering if I look like a total doormat in his eyes? Did it make me look weak? I am obviously hurting very much still, but I can't believe I embarrassed myself to the point of begging. I am pretty, educated, good job. My self esteem must be at an all time low... no contact with someone i care for or like is extremely hard for m e, i break it eventually, i havent really been put in a postion where i liked someone or cared about them and gone no contact.......with my ex out of necessity i moved interstae adn had complete no contact fro six months...he broke it....i like to maintain dignity at all times...i can be a vilnerable goof when i trust someone, but my dignity has been taken from me by others and it is an aspect of my life i like to have control over, i hav ebeen degraded enough in my life....in saying that humiliating others or making them feel uncomfortable is not in my nature, i am respectful...because i know what it feel slike to be made fele humliated uncomfortable and desolate.....its not in my nature to get revenge....and treat soemone else th esame....so maintain yrou dignity...you will know when you have reached yoru limit do not cross i tand yoru self esteem can remain steady....best wishes.....deb
cavalier99 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Only begged and pleaded to hang out 1 more week before the last day we decided to see each other. So we knew we were breaking up but pretended best we could things were normal. Still i felt like a idiot asking for that week and she agreed even though it was over. I wish i didn't lose my self respect that way and just walked. Anyway, NC gets that self respect back. I wont break it and go back into the pit.
all_cats_rgray Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 A point when i realized it was messed up was when i tried to set up a meeting with him... In my head I would drop everything, EVERYTHING. To met with him, to be with him. I would drive to his place, speeding, at the very second. But, he wanted to set a time...said he was busy at the moment. Made me realize, he did not care. I used to think id take a bullet for him... he would not even drop everything out of fear of loosing me.... lol because he left me. How can two people feel so different.
KatZee Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I didn't beg or plead at all. He wanted to leave? I held the door open for him. The night he broke up with me was the last night he ever saw me. That was almost 9 months ago. I refuse to make myself look stupid for someone who has no interest in being with me. I lost my relationship but I refused to lose my dignity.
iouaname Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I didn't accept things for like... the first two weeks. I just couldn't understand what was happening. Then, I accepted it but there was this bizarre back and forth between he and I where neither of us was letting go. Finally, I went no contact I think around the two month mark, give or take a little. I'm sure that my actions after the breakup came off as pathetic. Hell, they did to me. He never called me pathetic and he was always there for me but I could tell that he wanted me to just feel better and stop trying to get him back, so I did.
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