JamesM Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Wow, JamesM. This was a really powerful post. So brutally honest. Thank you. I tend to be that way here. As you know, I post my feelings as they are, and it gives some people the wrong impression. I have been down the road that this poster has been...almost. Honestly, if the right woman had presented herself at the right time, then perhaps I would be him. As I said, I understand WHY he did it...and I don't fault him for choosing an affair, but I cannot condone it. Nor could I if I had been him. I agree with the poster who said the OP on this thread has left the building but perhaps your words are not for nothing. Sometimes posters do not leave the building even if they are no longer posting. And you are right...perhaps someone else made it to LS looking for help. I always hope that something I posted may be of help. Your situation is a common one. Yes, it is. The question is why. There are a lot of lurkers here and other members reading even if they aren't posting right now. My hope is that your frank honesty here will make another about-to-be-WS stop and reassess the decisions they are about to make. My hope as well. If they could read my threads, then they would see that I don't condemn anyone for choosing an affair. I have defended OWs, OMs, and WSs many times for the situation they chose. While I don't condone the choices, I never say that I am above them nor that they are somehow a different class of people because they are "cheaters." Thank you for what you wrote. You are a good man, James. I wish my H had been as strong. Your wife is so lucky to have you. You are welcome. And thank you....I am very lucky to have my wife despite our roller coaster ride over the years. Many of YOUR posts relating your H's thoughts and your pain have been very helpful to me. Your advice to me has been very much appreciated. And while your H weakened at that time, he seems to have resolved to fix his marriage which as you can see here, is not so common. That of course has alot to do with you as well. I would say that you are an extraordinary woman and your H is very very lucky to have you and to have kept you.
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