Author LoverOfDance Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Unless you want to court him I'd say drop it. IME when a woman initiated first online she bailed first too. They're more proactive so you're already on thin ice so to speak. Sorry but I don't really get what you're trying to say. Could u explain better? Who's more proactive and why?
Quest Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Do I text him to see how he's doing or do I just move on since he doesn't seem to want to make any effort to initiate at all? He doesn't sound interested. You 'talked' about going out and then he went incommunicado ... It's possible he wants to be sure you're interested and so is letting you push for a date, although personally it doesn't sound like that to me. However, if you really want to be sure you've given this thing every chance there's no harm in texting him with a suggestion for a date. Don't make it vague and 'how are you doing?' Give him something he has to respond to. Either he'll ignore you or you'll get the answer you want. Just don't expect too much, if anything ... be realistic about the possibility he's not interested.
Author LoverOfDance Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Thanks for the reply guys. So I thought about it and decided to text him. It's true, I don't think he's that interested. I think maybe he just wants to be friends and I'm cool with that. I need more friends in my life anyways:) 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I feel like his pride is not letting him initiate. It seemed like he liked me when we were texting back and forth. He was the one who even started talking about us meeting like he was eager to meet me. I just don't understand why he just won't pick up the phone and initiate. I feel like if I do nothing, he'll just leave it at that and do nothing as well. Like he won't make an effort to try to keep things going. Sigh, not sure what to do. Sorry, but I think his lack of interest in you, not his pride, prevents him from initiating anything. He was bored and no one he was interested in was responding. Why not while away a little time responding to your messages and texts while he continues looking for what he really wants? 1
Drseussgrrl Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Thanks for the reply guys. So I thought about it and decided to text him. It's true, I don't think he's that interested. I think maybe he just wants to be friends and I'm cool with that. I need more friends in my life anyways:) So - you're not looking for a relationship? He doesn't want to "just be friends" with someone he's never met. He simply doesn't care. He fell off the radar and this happens all the time in OLD. When will women stop deluding themselves about what "he" wants, and they want, just to chase a man? 2
todreaminblue Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Oh here we go. here we go here we go here we gooooooo...singing off key....choking on sunflower seeds
Author LoverOfDance Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 So - you're not looking for a relationship? He doesn't want to "just be friends" with someone he's never met. He simply doesn't care. He fell off the radar and this happens all the time in OLD. When will women stop deluding themselves about what "he" wants, and they want, just to chase a man? No, I'm looking for a relationship but he's not looking 4 anything serious cause he just got out of a 2 yr relationship. He told me he was looking 2 date short term and was also looking to meet new ppl too but "u never know". His words not mine. Like I said, I don't think he's that interested. I'm at a point in my life rht now where I feel like all my friends have disappeared so I really don't mind being his friend and making myself a new friend. Just so u guys know, he hasn't replied 2 my text so I guess he just doesn't care and doesn't want 2 be friends either. Well, at least I know where I stand.
PhillyDude Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 He is talking to others girls on OKCupid. It's called life in the Online Dating world 1
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