tealwindex Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Hi. So, I'm a guy that this past weekend had my 3rd and 4th date with a guy that I like lots, and we took things to the next level. He told me that "I'm Amazing" and that he had "the best night of his life." Since then, I've invited him to attend a group hangout for my birthday with some friends, and he called me last night to discuss that, and that resulted in him telling me he wants to slow things down. He said he likes me a lot, and wants to keep seeing me, but he's not ready for a relationship, and he's not ready for people to know that he's in one. He said it's not fair to me to keep doing physical things that are meant for people in a relationship, and for me to not get to be in one, so he wants to pull back a little, and just hang out more and get to know each other better for a while. He was also very unsure about attending the birthday hangout, because he thought going to a group event with my friends was a big step that he wasn't sure he wanted to take, and we discussed that at great length, and he decided he would still come, as long as I let everyone know what page we're on, and that we're not officially in a relationship, and just hanging out, and all that crap....So, what I'm wondering is....what's happening here? Is it something to slowly end what we have going on? Or is everything exactly as it seems? Should I be scared? Should I be excited?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 He's basically telling you to read between the lines- he doesn't want a relationship with you and he certainly doesn't want to meet your friends but he has no problems sleeping with you. You shouldn't be confused, but you should guard yourself. If you want a relationship you don't settle for second best. So if you decide to stay date him, don't sleep with him. And don't fall for him either. You are allowed to date other people.
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