Hyouri Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Hello! I'd like to ask a quick question about "how the female mind works". Me and my gf are in LDR currently. She wrote an sms that her earphone broke and what should she do. Funny thing happened, because I just called her while I didn't know that she wrote that sms (to my other mobile). She raised the topic soon while I was talking to her. I told her many scenerios. 1. We can order a new one for her -> Not good, she wants a new NOW. How will she listen to her music tomorrow? 2. I can lend one of mine to her ->Not good again, same reasons above 3. She should buy a new one. ->Not an option since she doesn't have money. 4. Try to spin the cable so the broken lines would "connect" -> Not good, she alway takes out her Ipod and switches music. 5. Listen to the other half -> Not good, it doesn't feel alright for her. 6. She doesn't want to borrow it from someone else. Conclusion? I'm unable to help her at all/I'm useless. What kind of crap is this? Why does she blame me, when she is the one who can't solve her own problem and came asking for help. What kind of thinking raises her to the position to "blame the only person who would do something for me". This is total BS. Why does she think she can just act so "high&mighty" for no reason? Can someone explain this to me?
clia Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 This is not a "female mind" issue. Your girlfriend sounds like a lunatic. Either that or she's mentally disabled in some manner. You named off every solution that exists to her "problem" and none are good enough? I put "problem" in quotes because I can't even believe this topic warranted discussion. You break an earphone, you buy a new one. If you can't afford to do so right away, you save up until you can do so and learn to live without your precious earbud. It's not rocket science. I don't even see why she contacted you to ask your opinion on the matter. Too bad; I guess she has to live without her headphones. 1
HKcolon Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Are you sure she was asking for you to fix her problem? Maybe she was just complaining. They are actually called 'headphones' by the way
Estate Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Hello! I'd like to ask a quick question about "how the female mind works". Me and my gf are in LDR currently. She wrote an sms that her earphone broke and what should she do. Funny thing happened, because I just called her while I didn't know that she wrote that sms (to my other mobile). She raised the topic soon while I was talking to her. I told her many scenerios. 1. We can order a new one for her -> Not good, she wants a new NOW. How will she listen to her music tomorrow? 2. I can lend one of mine to her ->Not good again, same reasons above 3. She should buy a new one. ->Not an option since she doesn't have money. 4. Try to spin the cable so the broken lines would "connect" -> Not good, she alway takes out her Ipod and switches music. 5. Listen to the other half -> Not good, it doesn't feel alright for her. 6. She doesn't want to borrow it from someone else. Conclusion? I'm unable to help her at all/I'm useless. What kind of crap is this? Why does she blame me, when she is the one who can't solve her own problem and came asking for help. What kind of thinking raises her to the position to "blame the only person who would do something for me". This is total BS. Why does she think she can just act so "high&mighty" for no reason? Can someone explain this to me? She doesn't want you to fix the problem, she wants you to be there when she has a problem. Trying to fix something you can't and getting frustrated isn't the way to go.
pbjbear Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 This girl is irrational. You say its a LDR..I would say this girl is not worth it personally...I cant tell you what to do but dont stay with someone who makes you so unhappy Im saying this based off of your "im the useless one" remark 1
Quiet Storm Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) She sounds like a three year old with a broken toy. She is very immature and self centered. Probably not good relationship material. Instead of trying fix her problems, just listen and sympathize. "It sucks when something you really need breaks. I understand that you must be very frustrated because there is no easy solution". Edited February 20, 2013 by Quiet Storm
laaddict Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I initially wanted to agree with everyones posts, then I saw that everyone was on the same terms, and Im kinda eccentric. So here goes.... I think maybe she is just sad that you arent close to her. I just recently started to develop feelings for a girl that Ive known for a long time, but as soon as she came she left. Now I dont see her and I hate the fact that we dont talk ALL the time. It makes me mad at her, and I have to consciously (this takes a lot of effort BTW) restrain myself from throwing my hands in the air and saying bad words to random people including her. I need to remind myself that she makes me happy whether or not she is my girlfriend and that I am better off with her in my life as just a friend then as nothing. Try to see it from her point of view. She needed you to talk to and release her emotions. Now you are not there, at least not face to face (skype doesnt count) she cant touch you or smell you or kiss you or hold you. She also doesnt get to be touched by you, she doesnt get to look into your eyes. In fact, you may also be frustrated and not know it. That touching and staring into each others eyes is better than sex, or at least in my opinion, not that Ive had sex but whatever. If she wasnt long distance, would she behave this way? If you dont think so, or you know she wouldnt, DO NOT OVERREACT, you may have a really good thing, dont screw it up because then you will just have one more regret and no mate/friend/lover to share with and grow with.
laaddict Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I think your best option, if you know its the long distance, is to do the following and use these exact words. say: "I hate that you are far away, I want be near you. I love your everything, because you are my world. When you are angry, I am hurt. I will do anything to make you happy, I love you." You can even add that you will personally go buy a brand new phone (the best one there is) get a plane ticket and go to her so that she can have a new phone and you can have her.
todreaminblue Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Hello! I'd like to ask a quick question about "how the female mind works". Me and my gf are in LDR currently. She wrote an sms that her earphone broke and what should she do. Funny thing happened, because I just called her while I didn't know that she wrote that sms (to my other mobile). She raised the topic soon while I was talking to her. I told her many scenerios. 1. We can order a new one for her -> Not good, she wants a new NOW. How will she listen to her music tomorrow? 2. I can lend one of mine to her ->Not good again, same reasons above 3. She should buy a new one. ->Not an option since she doesn't have money. 4. Try to spin the cable so the broken lines would "connect" -> Not good, she alway takes out her Ipod and switches music. 5. Listen to the other half -> Not good, it doesn't feel alright for her. 6. She doesn't want to borrow it from someone else. Conclusion? I'm unable to help her at all/I'm useless. What kind of crap is this? Why does she blame me, when she is the one who can't solve her own problem and came asking for help. What kind of thinking raises her to the position to "blame the only person who would do something for me". This is total BS. Why does she think she can just act so "high&mighty" for no reason? Can someone explain this to me? is you gf really yougn ro immature...lol...i woudl get so depressed if i ditn have headphones that worked.....i can work that issue out myself though......i wouldnt expect a boyfriend to solve my issues..i might ask fro advice ....but i am clued up to solve many of my own issues..........its not your responsibility that is why i asked her age?
2sunny Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 She needs to grow up and learn to earn her own money and solve her own trivial issues. Stop dating such an immature, unappreciative brat.
Author Hyouri Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 is you gf really yougn ro immature...lol...i woudl get so depressed if i ditn have headphones that worked.....i can work that issue out myself though......i wouldnt expect a boyfriend to solve my issues..i might ask fro advice ....but i am clued up to solve many of my own issues..........its not your responsibility that is why i asked her age? She's 20yo. Lone-kid with daddy issues(mother raises her alone), self-centered as you can see.
Author Hyouri Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 I think your best option, if you know its the long distance, is to do the following and use these exact words. say: "I hate that you are far away, I want be near you. I love your everything, because you are my world. When you are angry, I am hurt. I will do anything to make you happy, I love you." You can even add that you will personally go buy a brand new phone (the best one there is) get a plane ticket and go to her so that she can have a new phone and you can have her. I already said this at her other problems, not worked as one would think.
laaddict Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I already said this at her other problems, not worked as one would think. Then she sounds like an emotional drain. I think if you cut her off she might beg you to stay... and you might mistakenly, for your ego (lots of people would do it for the same reason), get back together with her. Does she do more bad then good? I would think now is a time for a pro-cons list. BTW Im really curious to know, when you said that to her, how did it not work? What did she do?
Author Hyouri Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 Then she sounds like an emotional drain. I think if you cut her off she might beg you to stay... and you might mistakenly, for your ego (lots of people would do it for the same reason), get back together with her. Does she do more bad then good? I would think now is a time for a pro-cons list. BTW Im really curious to know, when you said that to her, how did it not work? What did she do? She said it doesn't matter if I'm not with her, and later (when I was with her at home) she said she does not listen/nor care about our "chattalk". Making a pro-cons list? Good idea, that I'll do. Last time when I was home for Valentines she even mentioned that our relationship is not a priority for her and I shoudn't invest so much energy in it, nor does she wants to do it. I think the relationship run it's course. She's young, I'm her first love. Probably "grass is greener" syndrome. I'm a bit sad, because I still love her, even in LDR, but I know what I have to do if these things continue.
ChatroomHero Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Sounds like my ex-fiance. She lost her car, I let her use mine temporarily but she was upset with that and said she didn't like using mine. Said her credit was bad she couldn't get a loan for a car. She had no money to buy a used one. Didn't want to borrow money from her mom (although she did for everything else). It ended up somehow generally being understood that the only option left was for me to buy her a car. Maybe it doesn't apply here but what I determined was that she wanted to get me to pay for it without "asking" me to pay for it because 6 months later when sh*t hit the fan that was her argument, "I never asked you to pay for anything"- despite her agreeing to and then never making a payment on the car. Maybe this girl just wants to use you by leading you into buying her a new one out of pity. Then again maybe she is just crazy. Probably crazy.
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