cottom Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 What i want is a gorgeous, slim, hot girl that is innocent, has had hardly between 0, 1 or 2 sexual partners ... and that means any activity, between the ages 18/19 - 21. I have found these do not exist. Every girl now has the media telling them to dress slutty and act slutty. They all base their role models of tv shows such as Jersey Shore!! Girls nowadays see it as a must to sleep with guys by the time they are 16. I was speaking to a girl my brothers age and she is the only virgin in her school aged 17 and she needs to lose it soon because it is "totally cringeworthy" to say your a 17 year old virgin. She then admitted she has been doing oral and hand work since the age of 14 which she considered old for her age. I seem to be the only person without a baby at my age (20), every girl my age either went out partying and whoring every night so got a job when they left or went to uni where they slept around. The few girls i seem to find that havent slept around all seem to get a taste of the sexual life then slag out and try out more guys and not stay on one. My first gf i slept with i was more than happy having her as my only one, she left me after 2 years saying that she wanted to sleep with about 20 people by age 20. Next gf was the second and last girl ive done anything with. She left me after 2 years saying she wanted to see what else is out there, slept with another guy and settled down with him. Same with first gf. They all seem to feel left out because the world tells them to sleep with a lot of guys and start at a young age. I seem to be looking for a girl that doesnt exist anymore. 1
mcdo Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 You've just described my ex in great detail. A gorgeous, slim, hot girl that is (was) innocent with 0 sexual partners. We met when she was 18 and I was 22. They're very rare but they exist. But she wasn't perfect. Nobody is perfect. The age gap meant that we had very different experiences and very different views on things. It also meant she still had some growing up to do and some changes to go through (as we all went through) and I had to try and adapt to that. Eventually I guess I didn't adapt quick enough and we ended. She could be quite immature, she was clingy, always in need of attention and loved to be treated like a princess (but to be honest I was cool with all that, most guys wouldn't tolerate it). Also, if you are a guy with ANY kind of jealous streak, you will never ever be comfortable with that type of girl. My ex was constantly getting approached by guys. I had no choice but to be comfortable and to fully trust her. Any form of jealousy would have killed our relationship ages ago. And my frame of mind was planning for a long life of marriage with kids, a house, etc. She was still in college so we had very, very different outlooks on our relationship. So it may seem like this kind of person would be ideal but that is not really the case.
Chi townD Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Go to church functions. There are girls there that have morals and don't care what their peers or society dictates.
drpepper1886 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 don't care what their peers or society dictates. haha, ain't that the truth.
Chi townD Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Yeah, but I think I'm going to hell now. I basically said if you want to get laid then find God.......
Own Worst Enemy Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 are your priorities over "kind, loving, intelligent, good sense of humour and 'gets me'" then more fool you. Sure you have to find them physically attractive, nobody's saying you have to go for the bog beasts. But if you are prioritising the shallow stuff, then good luck with that!
stillafool Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 You might move down south and search out rural areas. There are plenty of girls with strict morals there.
Author cottom Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Well you want to know about me? Im 20, i graduate this year with a degree in Aerospace Engineering, i work out at the gym 4 times a week, i am the star of the company football team, i am one of the best at Maths in my age group in the country (top 5), girls are always commenting on how nice i am, how good looking i am, how they love my body, and after all the work i put into myself they should. I treated my exes like they were the greatest princess in the world! id buy them everything, run around after them, they moan they dont like certain friends so i cut them out my life, she moaned i spent to long at work, i asked to not be manager anymore and be standard sales assistant etc. My problem is that i am very shy and too decent to just go hit on girls. Ive been in the situation where guys hit on a girl im with and it annoyed me so im scared to approach a girl cause she will have a bf.
SensitiveTJ Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I don't think searching for the woman you describe is a fruitless endeavor. As others have pointed out, such a person does exist. My current girlfriend was a total virgin at 19 when we first met, and we are very happy together. One strategy you could use is to "publicize" what you are looking for. What I mean when I say that is to tell your closest friends exactly what you're looking for, and then have them talk about you and your "struggles" to others. Sooner or later, your "rep" will do two things 1) Promiscuous women will stay away, because they know they don't have a shot and 2) "Good girls" will take new interest in you, because they are intrigued by your values and morals, and how you have that in common. So you keep the girls you don't want away and make yourself very attractive to the girls you do want. Sorry for the long post, but I have a LOT of experience with this subject. I was a star athlete in high school and later at a DI college. I had to fend off more than a few "jersey-chasers" for years, until I implemented the aforementioned strategy. 1
bac Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 What i want is a gorgeous, slim, hot girl that is innocent, has had hardly between 0, 1 or 2 sexual partners ... and that means any activity, between the ages 18/19 - 21. I have found these do not exist. I seem to be looking for a girl that doesnt exist anymore. You are talking about the girl like you are talking about buying a car. All the things that you care about are useless for a serious R. They are important only for sex because they are your sexual preferences. In fact, the sexual preferences are totally normal for a guy 20y.o. In fact, I also want a gorgeous, slim, hot man that is innocent, had a few partners, had a lot of money, a beautiful house, great at sex, educated, had a lot of interests in common with me, loved me unconditionally and who is the same age as I am. I also have found these do not exist for me.
Esoteric Elf Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I'm wondering if these posters demanding "hot, gorgeous, slim, barely legal and virginal" partners are the male equivalent. Are they very buff? Very muscular, chiseled, good looking? I doubt it... Look no further than... Go to church functions. There are girls there that have morals and don't care what their peers or society dictates. If they didn't care, they would not be there.
bac Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 You are talking about the girl like you are talking about buying a car. All the things that you care about are useless for a serious R. They are important only for sex because they are your sexual preferences. In fact, the sexual preferences are totally normal for a guy 20y.o. In fact, I also want a gorgeous, slim, hot man that is innocent, had a few partners, had a lot of money, a beautiful house, great at sex, educated, had a lot of interests in common with me, loved me unconditionally and who is the same age as I am. I also have found these do not exist for me. In other words, we both want to drive a new car. And, as for me, I want a ferrary.
carhill Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 OP, given the precedence of early teenage sex and molestation, young ladies who would describe as you've shared are lucky to get through puberty without becoming voluntarily sexually active or being assaulted, or both. Assault is one of the most common anecdotes I've heard from mature adult women who were 'attractive' in their youth. Discounting for attention seekers, there has been enough disclosure to quantify this as a real issue. I seem to be looking for a girl that doesnt exist anymore. If you believe this, then look for a different girl. One potential is the 'late bloomer', who appeared awkward in her youth and lived a relatively sheltered life and spent time on growing herself intellectually and emotionally when other young girls were all up into 'boys'. Everyone is different, both in how they live life and how nature and nurture impacts them. If what you're doing isn't working, try something else. Good luck. 1
hppr Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Go to church functions. There are girls there that have morals and don't care what their peers or society dictates. Yeah it just depends on what you have to offer and where you are looking.
El Brujo Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I think it's more a matter of someone not giving in to pressure from friends, media, or even their own family. Not everyone has the kind of willpower to stand up and say "sorry, but that's not what I want". I know this because the same thing happened with drugs in the '70s and '80s... if you didn't use them, people thought you were refusing one of life's great pleasures, and that made you a person who's not nice to be with. Ditto with sex. We've been hearing the same line for over 40 years now: sex is good for you, and the more the better! But I don't buy it, and I never will. Your typical sheeple would never say that.
Radu Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Brujo and carhill are spot on, you are looking for a late bloomer or someone who has strong beliefs either herself or inherited from her family. In my mind there is no difference between telling young girls to get laid quickly and to get married and have babies. While the former is in the present and many of the ones who preach it or set the tone believe in 'girl-power' the latter is set in the demonised 50's. Both are equally bad and can be reduced to one simple thing ... girls, do what we tell you !
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