Is my girlfriend jealous and insecure?

[Drseussgrrl]

I made another thread about a week ago, concerning the fact that she was leaving and how it made me feel. I just forgot to add it this time.

 

Please understand everyone that im obviously insecure in myself, but im trying my best.

 

Ok - I get that. And it wasn't really your post that tipped me off to that - it's your profile pic. Nothing screams insecure to me like a dude who has to take his shirt off and flex for a camera. Even when I was online dating, regardless of how awesome his profile was I would immediately pass if I saw that.

 

Your text to her also screams insecurity. It's great that you find it easy to talk to women but you don't need to tell the woman you're seeing that. It's like you're trying to hard, or trying to make her jealous, or trying to prove something that is just simply irrelevant. Feel good about it but keep it to yourself.

[Dangraystyle]

on the other hand, 5 months is a long time, a lot can happen

 

Well, I want to be with her, because I really like her. I mean how often do you come across someone you connect with in many ways and that feels strongly back too.

[Emilia]

Sorry Emilia but your advice IS reinforcing his selfish behavior.

 

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.but I have dated several men where that tactic does not work and I have to act like a raging bitch to get anything resolved even the slightest. He is most def immature...

 

What he wrote was offensive to women in his other thread...I really love how everyone is ignoring that. That behavior is NOT okay and anybody who encourages him to continue in that manner has crappy character

 

First of all, what teaches better behaviour when someone isn't learning is getting dumped. If he is that far gone, that's the only lesson that will teach him. Screaming SCUM at him won't. Trust me.

 

Secondly, I know a lot of guys at his age and I know the first thing they think of is 'how is this going to make me look' so you have to look beyond the facade they put up and judge what the hell is going on really. Sometimes you need to read between the lines. If he is that bad, he will get punished for it in real life.

[Dangraystyle]

Ok - I get that. And it wasn't really your post that tipped me off to that - it's your profile pic. Nothing screams insecure to me like a dude who has to take his shirt off and flex for a camera. Even when I was online dating, regardless of how awesome his profile was I would immediately pass if I saw that.

 

Your text to her also screams insecurity. It's great that you find it easy to talk to women but you don't need to tell the woman you're seeing that. It's like you're trying to hard, or trying to make her jealous, or trying to prove something that is just simply irrelevant. Feel good about it but keep it to yourself.

 

Well OK you can think that, but building my body has been become the one shining beacon of light in my life that I can always depend on. So take that, what you will.

 

I dont find it easy to talk to women at all, or anybody new in general. She knows this. I was telling her alcohol can change all that.

[Keenly]

The true gauge of the quality of a relationship is not how you two act when you are happy.... but how you act when you are upset.

 

 

Try to win her back. Prove to her she is the only woman you ever think about through your actions.

[normal person]

Well OK you can think that, but building my body has been become the one shining beacon of light in my life that I can always depend on. So take that, what you will.

 

I dont find it easy to talk to women at all, or anybody new in general. She knows this. I was telling her alcohol can change all that.

 

Here's a tip for you. When you highlight the fact that alcohol allows you to talk to "other girls" and not just "other people," naturally she's going to get wary. When you specify that "hot" girls talk to you, rather than just "girls" or "other people," (for whatever reason it is that you do this) you're just begging her to get mad.

 

Some insecure/jealous people will take the smallest, most insignificant thing and turn it into WWIII because they read way too much into it. If you're dating a person like this, you may have to downplay your relationships with your female friends, downplay how exciting a particular place that she isn't at is, downplay how many girls start talking to you, etc. The big rule is never act like you're enjoying yourself without them, the only way you'll enjoy something is if it's in their presence. It's smothering and exhausting, but once you figure this out, you'll know never to blatantly rub something in her face like that. I'm not saying your girlfriend has those extreme levels of jealousy, but I can sure tell why she was put off by it.

 

I won't bore you with my own stories of overblown trivialities.

[Dangraystyle]

OK were texting atm. Lets see where this goes.

[Drseussgrrl]

Well OK you can think that, but building my body has been become the one shining beacon of light in my life that I can always depend on. So take that, what you will.

 

I dont find it easy to talk to women at all, or anybody new in general. She knows this. I was telling her alcohol can change all that.

 

Oh I understand, trust me. I used to be chunky and working out/lifting/eating right has completely transformed my body and I understand how much work it is.

[William]

We'll clean this up later. Thanks.