Dangraystyle Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) Let me just state that with some hard work, ive become quite attractive, not 10/10 by any means, but recently ive been getting some comments about my body or being a pretty boy, which ive never had in my life until now(22 years old). Anyway, I think my GF of 3 months is becoming insecure about me finding someone else or not finding her attractive. The last time we had sex almost a week ago, we changed positions and I lost my erection in the process and instead of getting me going again, she rolled over and stopped talking to me. After a couple of hours of sleep, I brung it up because it was really bothering me. Apparently she felt that because I lost my hard on I obviously dont find her attractive and she doesnt turn me on. Which is not the case at all, I find her very attractive and I told her this. This was the second time I couldnt get hard, it happened over a month ago too, but she was very understanding back then. In the past when we first tried having sex, she backed out at the last second because apparently she was scared of me leaving her like every other guy after sex. Ive stuck with her all the way since weve had sex. She tells me she wants to lose weight and she once told me about a month ago she had a dream that I was going to leave her because I found a girl that was prettier and nicer than her. Now most recently I might have made her jealous and parnoid because I went on a long weekend about 100 miles from where I live and went out clubbing and got back really late. I got really drunk and slept in a hotel. Anyway we were texting and I sent her this about being drunk and dancing: "Yeah but all anxiety 100% gone. Not a single care. I remember just talking to one of the girls for ages. It's amazing how the conversation just flows. It's like my brain doesn't even need to think. I don't know why I'm describing the obvious effects of alcohol haha" After this text I noticed the quality of her replies dropped off alot. Its annoying me, because I have my own insecurities. I wonder to myself, am I boring her? Is she interested in somebody else? I wish I was more exciting etc etc. Ive given her zero reason to feel insecure, other than what she might have conducted in her head. Edited February 20, 2013 by Dangraystyle
kimberlydoll Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) Lets see you -have all of a sudden become hot -lose your erection during sex with her -participate in activities centered around hot women -send your girlfriend worrisome texts about how cocky youve become -post pictures of yourself online showing off your body (attention whore behavior) And you wonder why shes become insecure? Sorry hun, this is a no brainer. I can tell you are 22 and you sound immature and kind of idiotic. I would be quite worried if I were her too. Just saying the truth here You probably will leave her for someone else. I say this based on the things I wrote above and the fact that you are 22 and dont understand your girlfriends feelings and make it seem like the problem is her Edited February 20, 2013 by kimberlydoll
SpiralOut Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Anyway we were texting and I sent her this about being drunk and dancing: "Yeah but all anxiety 100% gone. Not a single care. I remember just talking to one of the girls for ages. It's amazing how the conversation just flows. It's like my brain doesn't even need to think. I don't know why I'm describing the obvious effects of alcohol haha" Don't ever say something like this to your girlfriend, especially when you know damn well that she's insecure already. Seriously, I can't help but wonder if you are making her feel jealous on purpose and enjoying it. 2
dj572 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Short answer yes but it sounds like you are not making her feel secure. Most people not just women are insecure to a degree but from what you described she has good reason to be.
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 "Yeah but all anxiety 100% gone. Not a single care. I remember just talking to one of the girls for ages. It's amazing how the conversation just flows. It's like my brain doesn't even need to think. I don't know why I'm describing the obvious effects of alcohol haha" WTF? You said that to her? No wonder she is worried. I would be upset too if my boyfriend did that.
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