: by the ex

[stupid_ex]

Ex is Capricorn, I'm Libra.

 

My Ex broke up with me 8 weeks ago. The longest we stayed in no contact was 8 days, usually with him contacting me. I would reply and he would pull back.

 

first 3.5 weeks of the break up, I tired to talk to him but he pushed me away. Said he didn't want to talk to me anymore and doesn't want to be in a relationship.

 

4-5 weeks, I started no contact, after 6 days he messaged me. I messaged back, called him and we spoke for 2.5 hours. He wanted to meet the day, I agreed. called the next morning to confirm afternoon meeting, he said ok. closer to the meeting, I messaged him and he said... It isnt a good idea to meet up.

 

We met up, the meeting was fine, he questioned if I was meeting other people. I said no. He also said, he doesn't know what he wants, then he said, he doesn't want to be in a relationship.

 

6th week, he wanted to meet with me. I met up, had a nice 1.5 hour drink and chat. Asked again if I was meeting people and he said if I was, he wouldn't stop me. He also was offering to buy me stuff like clothing etc. When we ended the meeting, he asked if I wanted a hug, I said yes and he walked off. I didn't hear from him.

 

Valentines day I sent him an unsigned card filled with confetti hearts. He new the card was from me, out it on facebook and instagram and also updated his facebook "he was happy.

 

He texted me, we chatted more and all was nice. Sunday night, we chatted on Whatsapp for ages, it was calm nice conversation.

 

On Monday, I text him to meet up. he agreed. We spent 3.5 hours together. We laughed and had a nice time. he won me a plushy toy and we joked around. All was calm. He asked me again, if I was meeting others, I said no. he said he is just chatting to guys he met online. (This hurt me but I stayed calm and showed him no emotion). I said, anyone special you going to date. He goes, NO. We are just chatting, I have no time to date someone else.

 

When we ended our meeting, I walked him to his school. He shook my hand and walked off. He said nothing. No I had a nice, I will contact you etc....

 

It's been two days no and he hasn't contacted me or been on Whatsapp.

 

I am not contacting him, I am waiting for him to contact me.

 

I am totally confused. He has said he loves me and cares for me very much and always will. He said he is attached to me. I was the first person he has connected with.

 

I am confused as to what is happening. He doesn't want to let me go and he still has emotions towards me but something is holding him back getting back in to a relationship. (I didn't cheat, I didn't lie, I was very good to him, supported him) etc. We would argue now and then because I felt the relationship wasn't balanced. Our fight when we broke up was out of frustration and I kind of pushed him to leave me.

 

Any ideas? Thank you.

[destroyed4sho]

 

I am totally confused. He has said he loves me and cares for me very much and always will. He said he is attached to me. I was the first person he has connected with.

 

I am confused as to what is happening. He doesn't want to let me go and he still has emotions towards me but something is holding him back getting back in to a relationship. (I didn't cheat, I didn't lie, I was very good to him, supported him) etc. We would argue now and then because I felt the relationship wasn't balanced. Our fight when we broke up was out of frustration and I kind of pushed him to leave me.

 

Any ideas? Thank you.

 

Yep, he has dumped you and all that activity was him friendzoning you. He shook your hand..hahahaha....sorry, that is so awkward. Does that mean anything to you? He does not want you back as his bf only as his friend. He says he loves you and will always love you...he is already using future tenses...he is over you, ITS DONE. My ex did/said the SAME exact thing. They say they love you bc either: 1. That is their very weak definition of love (quit pathetic) 2. They want to let you down easy 3. They feel guilty about the break up and want to feel better by saying/believing that. ITS A LIE. Sorry it hurts but the quivker you accept the truth the faster you will.move on.