erin8 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I don't know why I do this but I seem to be attracted to people that aren't good for me. Wether they have a crappy job (not about the money in buying things, its about not being stable in financial circumstances), or into illegal things, or have hate for the world, or emotionally unavailable... while I'm all the opposite. I recently was in a relationship with someone with some of these things. It continues to be a trend, then I really like them for themselves and not for what they do, and in the end it doesn't work out. I know its not good for me but yet I still feel really sad about parting ways. I should feel happy I am not going down a bad road if I'm not dating them, but yet I still feel like I want that person. I know I'm my heart logically its the right choice to part ways, but emotionally I'm super depressed. I know thats natural, all break ups make you hurt in some form, but I can't seem to weigh the good out from the bad. I think about how it could have been worked out and the good times whilst ignoring red flags. Why can't I find someone who is good for me. If they are, I seem uninterested. I really miss him.
Inviv_girl Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Hi, if you complaining about that in forum do you think you can get "that" person? I'm sorry but complaining about it wont change the thing. The "right" person is all about the compatible and perfection in a way your heart desire. No body is perfect, and there is nothing wrong with you if you ended up with "those" people. Set a goal in your life, what kind of person you wannabe with, but first you have to know "who you are". If you happy with yourself and accept yourself as it is, you will find someone who will see you as you are, and you will see them the same. Keep in mind that someone with great job, lots of money, good looking doesnt always mean he/she is "right" person. Even if you are with someone with crappy job but if the chemistry, love, loyalty, and have acceptance of eachother then he/she is definitely the "right" one. Time will bring us to meet "that one person" so cheer up and be positive. This is just my point of view. Maybe you looking for someone perfect in your world that doesnt exist in real world.. I dont know..
Simon Phoenix Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I don't get the concept of "I like them for themselves and not what they do." What a person does says a lot about who they are. You can't separate the two. Maybe you need to learn this.
Author erin8 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Im sorry, I think you are mistaken. Im not looking for someone with lots of money, that just sounds materialistic and Im definitely not meaning it in that way. I mean someone who can afford to feed themselves. And Im talking about people where lets just say if Im around them I can get myself in trouble with the law.. even if somethings not my fault and want nothing to do with it.. I can get a record and thats really really bad for example.
d0620 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) I pasted in the wrong thread Edited February 20, 2013 by d0620 Mistake
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