ATXgirl Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Let me first say that I realize my responses to this are going to be "Move on." "Dont message him again" ect. I suppose I am venting more than anything. So my story begins that I had a really bad break up six months ago. I really dont want to date, as I am afraid of getting hurt again. Regardless, I met a guy on a dating site. I had talked to many guys on this site but never took it seriously. When I met him however, I was drawn to him right off the bat. I added him on FB, and we started talking constantly. He is Italian, and everything he said was amazing, kind, and always making me feel like a princess. After about three weeks we decided to meet in Ireland. I was ecstatic. About a week or two after that, out of the clear blue he said he was lonely. I said he didnt have to be anymore and he said he prefers it that way. HU??? I said he should let me go if thats how he feels. He back pedaled and told me he was attached to me. The next day however, he tripped out and said he was stressed about things going on with him and about us. I said once again if I was stressing him out to walk away. This time he was all for it. More talks, and more back pedaling. Another month goes by, and he has stopped with the "your amazing" and "we will meet" but for themost part was still sweet and wonderful. Then he started doing weird stuff like reading a message and ignoring me all day. When I would say something about it he would jump all over me. Eventually I felt crazy and felt like he never cared at all. So I finally ended it, and he was fine with it seemingly. Then I asked him to take me off his FB and he asked if he had to. I said if everything was broken and he didnt care to repair it then yes. He said it was silly but ok and did it. I sent him a message telling him I felt manipulated, but later apologized and said I just needed some space to clear my head. So I waited a week or so and messaged him to tell him I missed our laughs and talks, and that if he wanted to talk I would not take it as him trying to repair anything more than the friendship. He read it and ignored me. The destruction of our relationship was both our faults, and I owned up to my part. I just wish I could discard him as easily as he has me. Did he ever care at all or am I a victim of someone who does this to women for his own personal amusement? Tell me to go away, tell me you never cared, but dont IGNORE me. Its such a cowardly thing to do.
justwhoiam Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 It seems you invested more than it was required... I mean a "date" after 3 weeks, and things didn't click as he was probably expecting. You can feel attached to someone, as a friend, without being attracted to them. But he knew you were looking for more, being on a dating site, so he drew back. But he could have been fine with having you as a friend. For you, it was all or nothing. So now don't slap yourself... You both will find someone else.
Silly24 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Oh sweetie, it sounds like he was a hopeless romantic, possibly bi-polar and definately controlling. He loved, then hated you, then loved you, then felt indifferent, then hated you, then loved you.... This is an attempt to control you so he knows you're waiting alone home for him. Mean while he's doing exactly what he wants to do and you'll never know what that is.
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