Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 So there's this gorgeous girl in one of my classes. She always laughs at the silly jokes i make and always acts really happy to see me. We made a Facebook group for the class and she added me before we even knew one another's names. We talked after and have talked in class everyday thenl I got her number. We texted a little bit before but nothing special. She's acted interested in me, still laughs at my jokes, walks with me when we go to class, and my friend has caught her eyeing me from across one of the dining commons. She does things that I notice are to catch my attention such as one day sitting in front of me with very good smelling/strong perfume. The other day, I was siting at the dining commons alone doing homework and as she passed behind me, her friend nudged my jacket and I turned as they were walking off and her friend looked at me and they both kept walking. So today, I asked my friend for advice who said I should send her a cheesy pickup line just to be funny and sort of hint at my interest. I sent her "if I had a nickel for every girl I saw a cute as you, I'd have 5 cents :)" but to no avail, cause she did not reply. What should I do? Did I mess up? I'm normally pretty good with girls, but she's one heck of a girl, cool and pretty. Can I get help? If she's playing hard to get, why? Anything to make this more understandable.
Author Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Well she replied with "hahahah good one" and that's all. Idk, she's a different kind of girl. I usually don't go for the cute/innocent type, but she makes me laugh a lot so idk. Haha
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 So there's this gorgeous girl in one of my classes. She always laughs at the silly jokes i make and always acts really happy to see me. We made a Facebook group for the class and she added me before we even knew one another's names. We talked after and have talked in class everyday thenl I got her number. We texted a little bit before but nothing special. She's acted interested in me, still laughs at my jokes, walks with me when we go to class, and my friend has caught her eyeing me from across one of the dining commons. She does things that I notice are to catch my attention such as one day sitting in front of me with very good smelling/strong perfume. The other day, I was siting at the dining commons alone doing homework and as she passed behind me, her friend nudged my jacket and I turned as they were walking off and her friend looked at me and they both kept walking. So today, I asked my friend for advice who said I should send her a cheesy pickup line just to be funny and sort of hint at my interest. I sent her "if I had a nickel for every girl I saw a cute as you, I'd have 5 cents :)" but to no avail, cause she did not reply. What should I do? Did I mess up? I'm normally pretty good with girls, but she's one heck of a girl, cool and pretty. Can I get help? If she's playing hard to get, why? Anything to make this more understandable. Have you asked her out? If not, then how is she playing hard to get? It sounds like you haven't expressed any interest in her. 1
ja123 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 When you see her again, ask her out!!! Do it in person. 1
Author Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 I mean, I've made it clear by my actions that I'm interested in her. Kind of by just talking to her and sort of not talking so much to her friend and walking with her to class and just making her laugh. I planned on asking her out tomorrow when I see her. 1
ascendotum Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 When you see her again, ask her out!!! Do it in person. That's what I reckon. She responded favorably to your jokey txt so I don't know why you are worried. You said she was the innocent type, so she wont be asking you out. I'm sure she will be all smiles the next time you see her.
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Yes, ask her out on a date. Make sure she knows it's a date.
Author Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Haha you'd call "hahahah good one" favorable? I guess I'm just different in that aspect. I just said "thanks :)" and I WILL ask her out tomorrow. For sure.
Keenly Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I know how you feel man, I have a girl like that in my life too. I wish I could offer some practical advice, but every time I see her I turn into a babbling idiot with nothing interesting to say. Sorry =(
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Hmmmmm....you can go one of two ways on this one. If she's hot, she's probably used to having guys tripping over themselves to get to her. Don't be that guy. Play it cool. Act like you are interested in a detached sort of way, like you can take it or leave it. Talk to her but leave her wanting you...leave her a little desirous and unfulfilled. Make her wonder. Don't go jumping around all over like some tweaked out chimpanzee. Just be cool, and confident. Just thinking as I type here.... You know what? Screw this girl. She obviously likes you. Let her come to you. Just dangle enough of a carrot to keep her chasing. I initially cringed at your cheesy text, but now if you just play it cool, you'll get her chasing you. She's probably waiting for you to do something desperate or stupid. Do neither. Hang back. Let her see you talking to another girl. Haha^ OP, Barnacle-Bob is just joking. Right, Barnacle-Bob?
Author Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Hmmmmm....you can go one of two ways on this one. If she's hot, she's probably used to having guys tripping over themselves to get to her. Don't be that guy. Play it cool. Act like you are interested in a detached sort of way, like you can take it or leave it. Talk to her but leave her wanting you...leave her a little desirous and unfulfilled. Make her wonder. Don't go jumping around all over like some tweaked out chimpanzee. Just be cool, and confident. Just thinking as I type here.... You know what? Screw this girl. She obviously likes you. Let her come to you. Just dangle enough of a carrot to keep her chasing. I initially cringed at your cheesy text, but now if you just play it cool, you'll get her chasing you. She's probably waiting for you to do something desperate or stupid. Do neither. Hang back. Let her see you talking to another girl. Hahaha cringed? Well I mean, she replied to it meaning it had some sort of effect on her. I'm not doubting that she likes me, she definitely has manifested those sort of actions to affirm it. I seriously play it as cool as possible when in person with her, just that one text to get a little laugh and it seemed to work. She knows I wasn't seriously using that line, it was just a joking way of kind of implying that I think she's cute, which I feel like would make her happy since I've never openly called her attractive. And she's seen me at the bars having a good time hanging out with girls and chatting with other girls in class and at lunch. So she knows I've got options.
Author Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 I mean, I'd call myself confident and I'd consider myself an attractive guy, but I feel like being too detached would just make her kind of annoyed until she decides she should move on. I haven't done anything desperate or stupid, I just show interest in other ways than directly telling her that she hot or by following her around. She definitely thinks I'm confident cause I make jokes in class that are directed at the teacher, who laughs too. So she knows I've got balls hahahaha
ascendotum Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Haha you'd call "hahahah good one" favorable? I guess I'm just different in that aspect. I just said "thanks :)" and I WILL ask her out tomorrow. For sure. Well when it comes to txting sometimes its hard to really know the emotions behind the txt. I admit, getting a :-) with it would have made it better, but I first thought she ignored you. Its possible she is being a little sarcastic because she thinks your txt is really corny and you use it all the time OR maybe she liked it and was happy you think she's cute. If she is as into you like you allude, then I don't think its going to be bad for you if you play it cool when you see her. (don't mention the txt unless she does)
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I mean, I'd call myself confident and I'd consider myself an attractive guy, but I feel like being too detached would just make her kind of annoyed until she decides she should move on. I haven't done anything desperate or stupid, I just show interest in other ways than directly telling her that she hot or by following her around. She definitely thinks I'm confident cause I make jokes in class that are directed at the teacher, who laughs too. So she knows I've got balls hahahaha Asking someone on a date is not a sign of desperation. How do you think most pople get together? Wait for the right time and ask her out. 1
Author Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Asking someone on a date is not a sign of desperation. How do you think most pople get together? Wait for the right time and ask her out. So you think tomorrow would be unfitting? I planned on casually asking her during a conversation since we talk in class on the days we have the class. And either way, I think she'd be happy to see me considering I know she's interested, I just thought that the message was gonna eff it up. Hahaha
ja123 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Hmmmmm....you can go one of two ways on this one. If she's hot, she's probably used to having guys tripping over themselves to get to her. Don't be that guy. Play it cool. Act like you are interested in a detached sort of way, like you can take it or leave it. Talk to her but leave her wanting you...leave her a little desirous and unfulfilled. Make her wonder. Don't go jumping around all over like some tweaked out chimpanzee. Just be cool, and confident. Just thinking as I type here.... You know what? Screw this girl. She obviously likes you. Let her come to you. Just dangle enough of a carrot to keep her chasing. I initially cringed at your cheesy text, but now if you just play it cool, you'll get her chasing you. She's probably waiting for you to do something desperate or stupid. Do neither. Hang back. Let her see you talking to another girl. This one's on her. Let her be the guy....you be the hot chick. Let her do the work. No reason for you to chase her. You threw her a bone with your text, now let her wonder. Oh my word! Barnacle-Bob! I've never seen this side of you before! You scare me ... good thing you're not here, you might be too much man to handle! 1
ja123 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 So you think tomorrow would be unfitting? I planned on casually asking her during a conversation since we talk in class on the days we have the class. And either way, I think she'd be happy to see me considering I know she's interested, I just thought that the message was gonna eff it up. Hahaha Honestly, the message was pretty lame. The fact that she responded is more than enough evidence that she likes you! Personally, I'd ask her out the next time you see her if the moment is right ... done "casually", as you say. So, if tomorrow is the next time you'll see her, then I say, "Go for it!"
Author Jakesmith20 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Honestly, the message was pretty lame. The fact that she responded is more than enough evidence that she likes you! Personally, I'd ask her out the next time you see her if the moment is right ... done "casually", as you say. So, if tomorrow is the next time you'll see her, then I say, "Go for it!" Hahaha yeah, I kinda knew it was lame, but that's the point of that message was to be really cheesy. I kind of knew that her replying meant that she was interested, cause any normal person would've ignored it. But I plan on asking her out and not setting a date, more like telling her to go to lunch with me, and that she should text me when she's free to go, So it puts the ball in her court.
Archgirl Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 This one's on her. Let her be the guy....you be the hot chick. Let her do the work. No reason for you to chase her. You threw her a bone with your text, now let her wonder. You have got to stop giving out this sort of advice, totally screwing with my game Don't listen to him everyone! Keep doing all the work for the nice pretty lady 2
pbjbear Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Well she replied with "hahahah good one" and that's all. Idk, she's a different kind of girl. I usually don't go for the cute/innocent type, but she makes me laugh a lot so idk. Haha Yeah I would stay away from you..."shes so gorgeous" "oh but I dont usually go for the cute/innocent type" you sound like a major D-bag
RedRobin Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I dunno. I've never 'folded' by a guy acting distant and cool. Doesn't pique my interest at all. ... and I don't keep tabs on whether he has options or not. If he hangs out with women and seems flirty, then I assume he's playing the field and I lose interest. Like, instantly. I don't compete for men. Only insecure ones and drama queens do. There is something that is called 'reciprocation'. If you are the one initiating everything, that wouldn't be wise in any situation... friend, business, romantic, etc. You could give her a chance to reciprocate. That isn't playing it cool. That's just common sense. 2
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 So you think tomorrow would be unfitting? I planned on casually asking her during a conversation since we talk in class on the days we have the class. And either way, I think she'd be happy to see me considering I know she's interested, I just thought that the message was gonna eff it up. Hahaha So did you ask her out?
kimberlydoll Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 we all know you are going crazy only because shes goregous haha
Keenly Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Just gotta ask her out. You should make it sound smooth and effortless. " so when do I get to be graced by your presence over some drinks? " Damn my game sounds so much better when its spoken and not typed.
Archgirl Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I have no vested interest in people's dating and relationship endeavors, but I swear to God, if this guy chases this girl down and asks her out, I am gonna be pissed. I'm gonna beat him over the head with his stupid Jansport backpack. A capitulation of that magnitude will set masculinism back decades. Is it weird that I just got a lil turned on? 1
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