todreaminblue Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 It matters when you're 26 and she's only 15...... But it makes absolutely no difference at all when you're 45 and she's 34.... and then again, when you're 89 and she's 78... it tells again. 78 possibly becomes 89's carer.... The above was exactly my parents' scenario, BtW..... I would never want to be a burden on anyone....stick me in a home I would find happiness... i would rule the bingo games....and scrabble....tend to make my own words up so i dont have a problem with scrabble i sell the words.no one even checks the dictionary.shhhhh its a secret.....the words make sense....smilin....i would rock a wheel chair.....learn how to make it dance..and hodl wheel chair discos...with eighties retro style....tainted love by wheelchair......deb 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 as long as she is not 5+ years older than I am, shes golden. It's hard to feel like she looks up to me when she is that much older than I am. Why do you need a woman to look up to you? *Scratches head*
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Age is a factor in a relationship just like anything else. When women marry men significantly older than themselves, it might be fine when he is in his 30s or 40s but she will soon find herself taking care of him. I have found that most men dont' think age matters only when the woman is younger than himself. However, when the woman is older, usually it surely matters. However, they don't want it to matter to women when they are older. .... usually. 1
stevie_23 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 It technically doesn't matter depending on your personality types and where you each are in your lives / lifestyles / goals, etc. My partner is 16.5 years older than me (I'm 34, she's 51) and we've never had any age-related issues or problems. We got together when I was 22 and she was 38. My recent ex-online / long distance affair is 61, so 10 years older than my long term partner. This also was no problem because our personalities fitted. To me, age is just a number to represent your experiences in life. However, if you ARE at different stages in your lives relating to where you want to be, if you want kids (neither of my partners / ex want kids and neither do I), if only one of you wants to settle down, and various other things...or if the younger person involved is VERY young for their age in terms of their maturity level and the older one is old in terms of maturity level, this could pose a problem. The only other consideration for VERY large age gaps (like my ex-online partner for instance, 27 year age difference) is if you actually live together / get married or whatever, how you will feel when you're say, 50 and they are 77 and you're still arguably in the "later prime" of your life and they are on their death bed or needing 24 hour care from...you...
kaylan Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 My H. just saw your post. as a man 5 years my junior, he thinks you're talking out of the back of your bus p.ass..... I feel the same way as keenly. My strong preference at 26 is 23-26. And ill stretch it to 22 to 28 for the right girl. I dont like going any lower because I dont wanna feel like Im dating a kid, and I dont wanna go any higher because Im not in super settle down mode yet. Like Im open to a relationship...but not marriage and kids just yet. Plus I strongly prefer girls within 3 years of my own age because usually we have a lot more in common in terms of our childhoods, and many tastes.
adelia Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 For me it's more the maturity level and if we relate well
juanes Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 At certain points in an adults life they are expect to do and accomplish certain things like obtain education, job career, marriage, children, grand children, Retirement equals relaxation, free time. (not everyone accomplish all if any of the the above) But if your a 25-35 yr old working 80 hrs and going to school on line working on makeing money and making your mark on the world. It could be a conflict for your 45 or 55 year old lover whom already has everything they need in doubles and want time and attention from you. look at demi and ashtan now that their separated she is a train reck and he is doing great about to start a family and new life lol that might be extreme but that was the end result of age just being a number dating younger........what do you think? I would like to see a different angel to my thoughts please thanks ......
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