butterflylover Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Do you think age really matters?Or is it just a number to you?I say it's just a number.What are your thoughts on this?
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Do you think age really matters?Or is it just a number to you?I say it's just a number.What are your thoughts on this? Just a number.
MrCastle Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I think it certainly matters. For a hook up, not so much. For a relationship, absolutely.
FitChick Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 You sleep with the person, not their birth certificate. 1
Silly_Girl Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 It depends on the dynamic of the relationship, the people in it and what they want. It certainly can matter. 4
todreaminblue Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 i think it matters on maturity level and lifestyle...if you have opposing lifestyles, it will cause problems....if you have different goals and aims, values and ideals because of the gap ....major issues...in saying that.....it is possible to make a gap relationship work if you are on the same page.......deb 3
Damia Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I'm really hoping it matters in the long run ,for purely bitchy reasons. My soon to be XH (50)an his AP/girlfriend (31) Having my nose rubbed it their "soulmate relationship" seeing it fail would be epic 2
cocorico Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Do you think age really matters?Or is it just a number to you?I say it's just a number.What are your thoughts on this? It matters to me. I would never consider any guy my age or younger than me as anything but a friend, and I would never engage romantically with a guy who wasn't at least ten years older than me. I'm just not sexually attracted downward. For some people, race matters, or religion, or gender, or nationality. For me, it's age.
TaraMaiden Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 It matters when you're 26 and she's only 15...... But it makes absolutely no difference at all when you're 45 and she's 34.... and then again, when you're 89 and she's 78... it tells again. 78 possibly becomes 89's carer.... The above was exactly my parents' scenario, BtW..... 1
Life'sGood Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 For a serious relationship? It matters to me. I prefer someone older than me. At least 5 years older. For friendship, age does not matter.
Silly_Girl Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I always went for men older than me, preferably 8-10 years, but now I'm with someone just 5 months older than me (it's his birthday NOW!!) and it feels perfect to have those cultural references and childhood memories in common.
Radu Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 It can deffinitely matter, but from what i've seen it matters more on LS than in RL.
candie13 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 It depends on people / character. If you're someone stable, you can successfully date younger as well as older people. If you have a more youthful character, you may prefer younger to older people - my sister is that way. If you're more fragile and need more protection, you may go for someone more stable and understanding, irrespective of their age (younger ones may not be mature enough, older may be less inclined to take all the mood swings and need of reassurance). No rules- It's people and characters more than their past experiences, in my book. 1
EasyHeart Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Of course it matters. How much it matters varies from person to person.
MyPoutine Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 +18, that's all that matters. And to an extent if you wish to have children
HKcolon Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 It matters to me. I wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone too young or even my age. I prefer a ~15+ year age difference.
Keenly Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 as long as she is not 5+ years older than I am, shes golden. It's hard to feel like she looks up to me when she is that much older than I am.
TaraMaiden Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 My H. just saw your post. as a man 5 years my junior, he thinks you're talking out of the back of your bus p.ass.....
Radu Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Hitting the young ones TM ? When you were 18 he was 13 ... you naughty girl !
TaraMaiden Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Yeah.... however, we met when he was 41 and I was 46......
Shardish Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I think age matters to a certain extent. As a 24 year old I am prepared to date as low as 20 and as high as 28, anything younger or older is a no-no for me. 1
JackD4niels Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 The mental level of maturity of both partners is more crucial than the actual age difference. 1
pink_sugar Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Age does matter, yes. My max is about 10 years. I'm sure there are people with a 20+ age difference, but to me that is a generation gap right there. There are definitely going to be generational differences, such as different values, the worldliness that only comes with age, different music tastes etc etc. I have friends 20+ years older than me that I connect with, but for practical reasons, I couldn't date anyone more than 10 years older.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 i think it matters on maturity level and lifestyle...if you have opposing lifestyles, it will cause problems....if you have different goals and aims, values and ideals because of the gap ....major issues...in saying that.....it is possible to make a gap relationship work if you are on the same page.......deb Completely agree with this. I think being in the same life stage is far more important if you're hoping for relationship longevity. That's not to say, it's impossible otherwise, just a hurdle that most relationships don't weather. Being in the same place emotionally is also critical IMO. +5 years means very different things at 17, 37, 62, or 82 for most people. We all have other more superficial preferences that, while important to us in a partner, have nothing to do with relationship success. Rigid age brackets, hair color, height, etc. fall into that category.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Yeah.... however, we met when he was 41 and I was 46...... You said in another thread that you've been married 27 years. Is that right?
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