EAP Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 My ex and I were together for a year and almost three months. I wouldn't count the past three months though because he treated me like I wasn't his anymore. He stopped telling me he loved me and just recently he told me he slept with another person.. I think he was waiting for me to break up with him so he didn't have to do it and when I did he responded like I was nagging him and told me to leave him alone. I keep thinking about the past and how much time we spent together and how invested I was in our relationship. We used to be really happy together... in love you could say. I keep breaking down.. even when I'm busying myself with work. I don't know how to cope and I feel like I need someone to be with because this is really painful.
316 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) My ex and I were together for a year and almost three months. I wouldn't count the past three months though because he treated me like I wasn't his anymore. He stopped telling me he loved me and just recently he told me he slept with another person.. I think he was waiting for me to break up with him so he didn't have to do it and when I did he responded like I was nagging him and told me to leave him alone. I keep thinking about the past and how much time we spent together and how invested I was in our relationship. We used to be really happy together... in love you could say. I keep breaking down.. even when I'm busying myself with work. I don't know how to cope and I feel like I need someone to be with because this is really painful. This guy sounds like an ass hole... You dodged a bullet! Nobody who is truly in love with you does all of those mean things you said he did. You sound like a nice person. You deserve much better than him. Give yourself time to heal and go find a man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Oh and above all make sure you stay NC! You'll heal faster and feel better about yourself if you do. Right now you just need time everything you're feeling now is natural. Post on this forum more if you need some more advice or if you just need someone to talk to. Edited February 20, 2013 by 316 1
bluefairy812 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 i'm so sorry to hear that, you really do sound like a nice person. my ex did the same. made me break up so he wouldnt do it (COWARD) so when i came back he said no. its hard, i know, the most painful thing ever, but you need to go NC if you havent already, and need to start doing things for yourself. gain control of your life, find yourself again, and occupy your mind as much as possible. it might sound cliche, but it works. see if you can hang out with family/friends, get a pet, etc. and anything you need to talk about us loveshackers will help you. it's a bad and horrible thing to deal with but you WILL get through it. it takes time. little by little you will see the sun shine again. hang in there!
Love Bytes Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I know it's hard now, but you'll soon realize how much better off you are. There are good guys out there...why settle for a loser? Instead of saying I'm sorry, I'll say congratulations...you're on your way to a better life.
Seeking Happiness Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I'm sorry to hear about you going through this, it's sad. You do seem like a very nice person who deserves so much more than what you had received from this man. The fact that he slept with someone else is reason enough for you to be a bit angry (it's only natural). I can understand that you are hurt but this is the time in which you should respect yourself enough to just walk away with your head held high!. You can't control what other people do. You can control your own actions and your own feelings. You are so much better off without this person because he destroyed any trust that you two had in the relationship. It's a Deal Breaker. Do not contact him and if he contacts you, you should ignore him. Take pride in yourself and having the ability to recognize a bad situation. By doing this you are taking control of your life. When you heal through time things will get better for you. You can eventually start to look for what you really want in a partner as opposed to what you do not want and (that's a Cheater). I hope this helps
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