Author snilljente Posted September 2, 2004 Author Posted September 2, 2004 I've mainly heard that women should wait for the man to approach them from other women and from books....they say that the man likes to do the chasing and that if you approach him, it will, in addition to seeming desperate, take away the chase and make you less interesting...Maybe I have been reading too many books, but I would like to get better at approaching if it is appropriate....
moimeme Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 You'll want to check the publication dates of those books.
Anais Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 1) Bus stop…married- one child, …divorced 2) Internet…mistake… left 3) Internet…married…happy
DerangedAngel Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 You'll want to check the publication dates of those books. I agree. What have you been reading? 'The Rules'? -DA
EIN Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 I try to meet them at my current workplace (laundromat) but the idea of me working there is a big turnoff but I still try. With every failure brings me a closer chance of getting the one. Striking up a conversation with a stranger but not the approaching type of conversation, I usually talk about something that is happening we were are and then lead towards a approaching conversation. As for my personal, it is getting frustrated that I am going to really access where I am at and know where to go.
Author snilljente Posted September 2, 2004 Author Posted September 2, 2004 You crack me up! They were all recent books...Yes, The Rules, and about a dozen others...I am drawing a blank....I rounded them up about two weeks ago and put them in a box to donate because I was starting to wonder if I was jinxing myself by reading them/having them around...I just don't remember dating being this complicated when I was younger, before I got divorced....two people liked each other, they hung out, if they continued to like each other, they continued to hang out...end of story...these days, it seems so complicated....What do you girls think about these books, ?? think Relationship Rescue was another one of them, What Smart Women know...I will post the names as they come to me....
abiyes Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 Although I was originally against office dating, I met the man I love there. But I soon left this workplace when I found another job in my field of work. Another good place I think would be school, if you are still studying. I guess the good thing about meeting someone at work/university is the fact that you can get "references" on the person by talking to his friends or collegues, like if he is married, seeing someone, the type of person he is, etc, before making the decision to go further with him/her. Just my 2 cents...Good luck! Marie
DerangedAngel Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 I think just about everything in 'The Rules' is bulls***. I have not yet read 'Relationship Rescue' or 'What Smart Women Know'. -DA
Author snilljente Posted September 2, 2004 Author Posted September 2, 2004 Yeah, I know, that's why I decided to get rid of them..it was just too hard to know whose rules to follow..I just decided that I have to be myself and if some guy doesn't like it, then so be it...so I am going to try and do a better job of approaching....I'm 35..I am tired of this stuff, but guess it must be done if I am going to meet Mr. Right...so if you are at the gym and you see a cute guy..what do you say...?! "Great butt!", or "I realloy like your biceps?!"...Ok, I am being a smarta#%, but I haven't a clue as to how to do this "naturally", he he
moimeme Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 "Relationship Rescue" is actually quite good. Pull it out of the box. 'The Rules' are supposedly geared to the sort of lady who clings to the telephone and cannot live a life without a man. They are supposed, I'm told, to get those women pried off the non-ringing telephones and living fuller lives. However it seems that's not how most folks take it. 'Rules' can be about manipulation and game-playing and both are dishonest. If you are a clingy sort, pretending you aren't is only bait-and-switch. People will not be deceived for long once they get to know you. So if you're clingy, be clingy and see if the fellow you like likes clingy gals. Or else fix it - but don't play games.
Author snilljente Posted September 2, 2004 Author Posted September 2, 2004 No,I am not into games, and don't tolerate people who do....I am not clingy...actually the opposite, very independent...I will give Relationship Rescue another try....thanks
hugznkisses21 Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Ya.... I made the first move ...and come to think of it the second, and the third!
Author snilljente Posted September 3, 2004 Author Posted September 3, 2004 Ok people...I am turning over a new leaf and am going to try and do more approaching....first I have to find someone interesting to approach!! I will keep you all posted as to how this goes...he he
honey2005 Posted September 4, 2004 Posted September 4, 2004 I met my boyfriend over the Internet . One of my best friends also met a guy online, he moved down here, and now they are engaged. They seem more in love than any other couple I have ever met and when they are together it is so sweet:).
rogueless Posted September 4, 2004 Posted September 4, 2004 college, work, through friends, family reunion (just kidding, but I am from Arkansas....)
einahpets Posted September 4, 2004 Posted September 4, 2004 in one of my apts . in college he moved in across the hall. our roommates started dating each other. he pursued me for over a year while i swore up and down to everyone that he wasn't my type. we became best friends and while he was gone for a weekend i realized that i loved him. we said our first i love yous 2wks later and moved in together 5 mos. after that. we have been together ever since. and our old roommates are still together too.
ziggue Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 I met my current boyfriend at a Club. Near where we both live. Didn't think I will find the most decent boyfriend I have ever had in a place like that! . After dancing and a little making out. We both ended up hanging out a bit and talking. He seemed like a nice guy. Gave him my number. The next day he called and ended up meeting him that afternoon. . 6 months later and still going strong. . Met people through friends of friends too. Make sure you get every single detail you can about the person you are meeting. I've gone out with some shockers meeting people in that catagory. That surprises me when I think about it! .
shamen Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 Going backwards in the last 9 years... 1) Bar, pool hall 2) Bar, pool hall 3) Bar, pool hall 4) Job Fair 5) Bar Sorry to be of no help. Maybe that's why I've had no luck. Wait, 2 of them wanted to get married and I ran away! Seriously, my best SO I met in my aparment building. I stay away from people I work with at all costs.
ladyangel Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 Have you ever noticed how some people just come into threads like this, interject stuff, but never answer the thread question themselves? That's kind of strange. Here's how I've met mine: school party work
moimeme Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 Have you ever noticed how some people just come into threads like this, interject stuff, but never answer the thread question themselves? Have you ever noticed how people who ask questions like this do exactly the thing they b*tch about?
shortbus74 Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 1.strip club 2.strip club 3.strip club I see a pattern emerging here
ladyangel Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Originally posted by moimeme Have you ever noticed how some people just come into threads like this, interject stuff, but never answer the thread question themselves? Have you ever noticed how people who ask questions like this do exactly the thing they b*tch about? Excuse me? I DID answer the thread question. Me thinks someone suffers from PMS...Pretty Much Senseless. I doubt there's a cure for that.
krbshappy71 Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 The internet, the internet, and through a best friend who ended up sleeping with him too. I hate when that happens. Apparently she decided she wanted him for herself instead. Um before that, through work. But I prefer the internet. (chat rooms, personals, dating service, etc.)
arnicka Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 For me it's been through work mostly ...not quite as bad of an experience as I would've thought! Oh, through school too -- but I guess that's a given! btw I'm new Hi
moimeme Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I DID answer the thread question Was not just referring to this thread.
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