tomtheman1234 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Long story short I have been out with this girl 2 times. Each time not really a date. I have got to the stage in life now in my mid 30's where I have enough friend in my life I do not really need a new friend I am looking for a partner to settle down with and be my girlfriend. How many times each week should we see each other to get to know if we are right for each other and how many times should you text? When do you know if you are just going to be friends or if you will be more than friends? I do not want to rush this but at the same time I do not want to take this to slow. Also is it ok to go out witrh someone on a few dates and if someone you think might be better comes along who really likes you ask her out for a drink to find out if she might be better for you? If you see what I mean.
Krieger Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Also is it ok to go out witrh someone on a few dates and if someone you think might be better comes along who really likes you ask her out for a drink to find out if she might be better for you? If you see what I mean. I think the rule when dating two woman is once you have sex with one you need to let the other one go . Nothing wrong with dating two woman to see what ones a better fit.
todreaminblue Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 (edited) Long story short I have been out with this girl 2 times. Each time not really a date. I have got to the stage in life now in my mid 30's where I have enough friend in my life I do not really need a new friend I am looking for a partner to settle down with and be my girlfriend. How many times each week should we see each other to get to know if we are right for each other and how many times should you text? When do you know if you are just going to be friends or if you will be more than friends? I do not want to rush this but at the same time I do not want to take this to slow. Also is it ok to go out witrh someone on a few dates and if someone you think might be better comes along who really likes you ask her out for a drink to find out if she might be better for you? If you see what I mean. i think its better to not multiple date but thats a personal preference of mine...to me its better to be able to focus on one person......and when you feel that person isn't right for you you let them go and then date another if you desire to, when you are actually concentrating on what is right or fits for you you arent thinking about what is right for the other person also...if you are splitting your interest.....you arent really giving it a go....you are hedging bets...thats why when i do date someone i am committed to one, to get to know them and i give it all i have ..i am a loyal dater ...i have made mistakes in this respect once.......i have a dating laid back style...lol.....but my laid back is probably intense for another....in saying that i am careful when it progresses to dating status from friends....if i found out a guy was interested and hedging with me and another woman....i would let him go....pretty quickly....i put effort in i expect the same.... as far as texting and seeing each other goes...i think it should feel natural and not forced, it should be fun and worthwhile....not just seeing each other for the sake of it....but a genuine desire to spend time together mutually...if that mutuality isnt evident,there is already an issue......i have always been with guys who want to see me frequently....we can have long talks and them not be awkward or forced, lots of laughs, frequent contact.....and if i truly like the guy...i leave it up to him to decide when he wants or needs to see me....i am never pushy......and i have been told i am fun to be with.......it shouldnt feel like a firing squad.....dating isnt an execution...its meant to feel good...you should always look forward to seeing each other...i remember i was sick as a dog and i had a date.....i went anyway...the date finished early.....but i made that effort..so i think you should put in as much effort into dating as you desire too.....and the rewards will probably be same as the amount of effort you put into getting to know someone....i have not had any complaints.........deb Edited February 19, 2013 by todreaminblue
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