Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) Ah, she was part of the 2012 bunch ^^. But I love your honestly Katzee! Edited February 20, 2013 by BarbecueMan666
Simon Phoenix Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Ah, she was part of the 2012 bunch ^^. But I love your honestly Katzee! Here's 2012. Sure, I'd sex them, but there's nothing on there that is out of this world. Pageant Update - Miss Oregon USA 2012 Top Five
JamesM Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 So of course we are all curious which she is, but honestly if this is an anonymous forum, should we be told? We have it down to five women, and we all are going to have opinions as to who is beautiful and who is not. Odds are that most guys would date any one of them. It all boils down to the fact that we agree on one thing: beauty is more than skin deep. She may be outwardly great for the eyes, but reality is..she isn't a good match for you. The next one may appear even more beautiful because her personality and her outward appearance go together to make her a perfect match for you.
KatZee Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Here's 2012. Sure, I'd sex them, but there's nothing on there that is out of this world. Pageant Update - Miss Oregon USA 2012 Top Five Again, I'd go with OK on #3 and #5 with the 2012 girls. Again, not super models here. You'll find another attractive female if you just get out there and do your thing. You obviously were able to get one of these women, so you're probably not a busted man here.
KraftDinner Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I have friends better looking than all of those women. I promise, OP, you can and will do better! I seriously doubt you feel any differently about your ex than do millions of other men who are broken up with by non-pageanty women. Don't worry. (Seriously, those girls all look like regular pretty girls, and I'm really honest about other women's looks.)
cdt76 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Dude, the response from her about spending money only on people you are going to spend the rest of your life with......HELL F-ING YES, IF IT WERE SO EASY TO MAKE MONEY YOU WHORE, YOU WOULDN'T HAVE TO SPEND MINE! My thoughts on the matter, becuase I had one similar. I wouldn't pay for her tuition to start school so therefore, she had to work and all hell broke loose after that! So yeah, you money grubbing, superficial, dim-wit! She will spend her whole life chasing some fantasy dream about what she is supposed to look like and then end up looking like Roseann Barr! And the doctor will jack up her nose so she looks like a horse! I work for a living you sicafantic slut! I go to work every day at 5 and 6 a.m. and work 10 hours a day to pay for your shi$$ and you are going to be so unthankful! I would punch her right in the babymaker! Dude, she is just like my ex. Maybe I should put you in contact with her, she would love you spending money on her and taking care of her so she didn't have to work and then she could just suck you off all day and be happy! HOLY MOTHER OF ALL THAT'S HOLY I"M PISSED! 1
cdt76 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Luckily I have boxing tonight and I'm going to knock the sand out of the bags~!!!!!!!!! FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Well again, thank you guys - I mean as silly as it sounds, you guys relaying that "she's good looking/attractive" but nothing beyond worldly makes me feel better. Was the main point of this thread to kind of help me get over the idea of my ex being the most beautiful, dazzling creation of them all you know? - And even though I say silly, it definitely helps bring me down to solid Earth hearing these things. As for which one she is, well I think it'd be rude if I said exactly which one, it isn't the most flattering picture of her, and tbh - I look at the pictures now less fondly than I did a while ago. I've removed her newsfeed, and unfollowed on twitter etc etc. It's a tough grueling process, but your words definitely come at a time when I needed them . Some days I actually feel pretty good, others I tend to home in on the "good" times in which, they really were good, but I guess she was just after something she wanted (not sure if that's the healthiest way of looking at it actually? - looking at what she did as to benefit herself, or rather a gesture out of kindness?) - Other days, I realize she wasn't that cool for me mentally or emotionally. Wouldn't talk when I wanted to, wouldn't really go massively out of her way to help me if I needed it (If we had a quarrel or disagreement, I liked to talk it out to come to a reasonable conclusion - she'd roll her eyes constantly, huff and puff and refuse to talk or just get insatiably frustrated. I know they're are lovely ladies out there (that's something else that I forgot for a while ) - I was just very happy that this particular one liked me. Obviously time goes on, hearts heal and such and I'm a good looking young fellow, who's more than pleasant and rather silly. I just yeah, I needed this, so again thank you. I wish I could just open up my wholeeeeeeeee story and reveal it as I saw it, and just have other people look at it and call it as they see it. I was definitely blinded by love, but overall I had a pleasant time with her and learnt a lot I guess. And I can quite happily say - I never did anything remotely bad for her, and I'm pretty darn sure I made her life a lot better too.
cdt76 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 I wish I had your ability to deal with being used. I work my ass off for what I have which isn't much anymore. You have a good attitude about things.
destroyed4sho Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) Again, I'd go with OK on #3 and #5 with the 2012 girls. Again, not super models here. You'll find another attractive female if you just get out there and do your thing. You obviously were able to get one of these women, so you're probably not a busted man here. Well,they are all pretty young women NOT beautiful. There are better looking women out there than those 5. In my opinion, 2012 right? #1. average face, not a nice smile, body ok #2. not a pretty face, body unproportioned, she looks mousy #3. average face, nice body #4. wide on the hips, not a nice smile, elf ears. #5 pretty face, nice body.... #5 is cute. If that is her, well she is pretty and young...but there are plenty of girls on her level of looks and even better looking. Bigger boobs, bigger butt, etc... (if your into that sort of thing). Plus. wouldn't you just rather be with someone that has Real love for you vs. a pagaent contestant.. Edited February 20, 2013 by destroyed4sho
destroyed4sho Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Ah, she was part of the 2012 bunch ^^. But I love your honestly Katzee! How do you not know off hand what year her pageant was in? You must of been sleeping...
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Well, they did the most recent pageant in November, and that based on this is the "2013 Miss Oregon USA" - I just remembered by which year the competition was held, not for which year they were in "power" so to speak :S
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Well,they are all pretty young women NOT beautiful. There are better looking women out there than those 5. In my opinion, 2012 right? #1. average face, not a nice smile, body ok #2. not a pretty face, body unproportioned, she looks mousy #3. average face, nice body #4. wide on the hips, not a nice smile, elf ears. #5 pretty face, nice body.... #5 is cute. If that is her, well she is pretty and young...but there are plenty of girls on her level of looks and even better looking. Bigger boobs, bigger butt, etc... (if your into that sort of thing). Plus. wouldn't you just rather be with someone that has Real love for you vs. a pagaent contestant.. ^^ - well it wasn't #5, I think I've said somewhere on this forum which place she came, but I appreciate you just looking at it "matter of factly". I guess I'm not even going to look at it as a problem anymore. Her faults as you've listed physically were also there, I just didn't notice them, looked on her faults as extra bits of her beauty. This wasn't the best sample set of photos of her by any means (infact, she really hated it!) I don't really want to get off topic besides "getting over the beauty" side of things, as from what I'm gleaming from all of this is - time heals, yada yada - Someone you'll find equally or more beautiful will turn up when I'm ready which is fantastic. I guess I just found her very impressive, what she does (Opera singing) - the fact she makes videos on youtube and that she was very interested in me. I was a sucker for flattery .
destroyed4sho Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 ^^ - well it wasn't #5, I think I've said somewhere on this forum which place she came, but I appreciate you just looking at it "matter of factly". I guess I'm not even going to look at it as a problem anymore. Her faults as you've listed physically were also there, I just didn't notice them, looked on her faults as extra bits of her beauty. This wasn't the best sample set of photos of her by any means (infact, she really hated it!) I don't really want to get off topic besides "getting over the beauty" side of things, as from what I'm gleaming from all of this is - time heals, yada yada - Someone you'll find equally or more beautiful will turn up when I'm ready which is fantastic. I guess I just found her very impressive, what she does (Opera singing) - the fact she makes videos on youtube and that she was very interested in me. I was a sucker for flattery . Sorry I am so matter of fact...I think that is just the way I think. I am very good with math, logic and science...maybe not so good with expressing feelings (even though I am a sensitive person). Yeah, i just wrote that so I can knock her off the pedestal you put her in.
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 Sorry I am so matter of fact...I think that is just the way I think. I am very good with math, logic and science...maybe not so good with expressing feelings (even though I am a sensitive person). Yeah, i just wrote that so I can knock her off the pedestal you put her in. No, don't be sorry at all! No apologies necessary what so ever. This as I've said was my first long term real relationship with a woman who I deemed I guess too good for me. It's been a rocky roller coaster going from talking with close friends and family whom either loved her/hated her - thought she was good for me/terrible for me and yeah, it's just been a crazy period of time. I really appreciate you trying to knock her off the pedestal for me, as I put her so high up upon a plateau that she'd fit in on mount Olympus, the Aura and everything. That's one of the main things that's been hounding me, just the thought that - I lost the best thing ever, when in fact, so many people here have told me so much negative stuff about her (despite not knowing her, just me sharing what's happened). You've all helped me see things much more clearly, and while this breakup will most likely continue to be horrible and hard (it's almost 7 weeks since Breakup) - I'm definitely less of a sucker than I was .
TouchedByViolet Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I know what you mean. To me it's mostly about the face. When I like someone their face is the most beautiful one in the world. It's hard to look at another women and feel love. The emotion is gone.
gravi1 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I am convinced that what you felt was not love, its just pure desire and at worst lust. To love someone you have to compromise, compliment and supliment all their physical and emotional traits and character, meaning you are not audience to her beauty you participate in it. Her beauty to you was only in relation to what the next guy will say or think and that it made you feel like a conqueror. You needed the adoration and admiration for having her at your witts. If you realy loved her, your post would have started with a little girl cry out about how broken your heart is and how much you love her, not her looks or how beautiful she is. All women are beautifull and I sincerely mean it, you have to find one that your heart will sing to my friend, you will be far happier and you will admire her. Like they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder 1
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 I am convinced that what you felt was not love, its just pure desire and at worst lust. To love someone you have to compromise, compliment and supliment all their physical and emotional traits and character, meaning you are not audience to her beauty you participate in it. Her beauty to you was only in relation to what the next guy will say or think and that it made you feel like a conqueror. You needed the adoration and admiration for having her at your witts. If you realy loved her, your post would have started with a little girl cry out about how broken your heart is and how much you love her, not her looks or how beautiful she is. All women are beautifull and I sincerely mean it, you have to find one that your heart will sing to my friend, you will be far happier and you will admire her. Like they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder Good post, and I guess I do come across shallow in this thread, and I won't try and argue otherwise. I was definitely in love with this woman, to great great heights, and I guess seeing my other threads or posts would help you understand what I've gone through over the past 2 months. I'm by no means healed, but I'm on the road to recovery. I was flattered for sure that this woman "loved" me or showed significant interest in me, I also know I had esteem issues before meeting her, and they seemingly were instantly fulfilled with our crossing of paths. I loved everything about her, be it her "faults" which I didn't class as faults, I supported her every decision and well, it got to a place where I was fighting for her, against herself (depression). This thread alone was just about dealing with 1 aspect of what I'm going through, which yes was purely physical. Emotionally though is where i've been hit the hardest, as I truly saw me and her working out, and working out great. I'd tune back to the "good times" and didn't really understand how things had changed. Luckily this forum has allowed me to see things through un-tinted glasses and I'm amazingly grateful. I do however appreciate your post, and maybe the love I feel now, isn't so much the same as when we were together. In fact I'm trying to deter away from it, and so if that is how I am perceived in this thread, well that's a start.
gravi1 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I must say that I did not study the context dear friend, now I do get your drift, I myself had a run at this feeling. Well mine was more like, why does she run around, am I not enough for her, is my size not sufficient for her needs, have I not mastered the art etc. But its all the same you and I thinkin we lost our beauty queens, its just self pity man. The way I see it, it shouldnt be I love you because you are beautiful, it should be I love you and you are beautiful to me. I am sure a sought after girl is not meant for us steady loving types. She is in demand chief, comments and desire is all she hears all day, characters will go to great length to score with her with money, juju, hypnosis (sory spelling) etc. Do you realy want your heart to be in for this pounding, her beauty is what gave it away in the first place. She was your priced collector's item but now she is a floating troffy. There are too many beautiful ladies and you will eventualy get one that fits your profile, that I know, but this time let your love make her beautiful and not her beauty make you love her.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 The guy I broke up with 2 months ago was gorgeous, and I put the photos and videos of him away so I wouldn't moon over him. I actually wish he hadn't been so gorgeous, because then he'd almost certainly be less vain and arrogant, and it probably would have stood a better chance of working out. I think his arrogance is his major downfall, and from what he's told me, it's gotten in his way in relationships more than anything. Him being handsome was nice, but many of his other qualities were way more important to me than that (intelligence, honesty, work ethic, adaptability, etc.).
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 I must say that I did not study the context dear friend, now I do get your drift, I myself had a run at this feeling. Well mine was more like, why does she run around, am I not enough for her, is my size not sufficient for her needs, have I not mastered the art etc. But its all the same you and I thinkin we lost our beauty queens, its just self pity man. The way I see it, it shouldnt be I love you because you are beautiful, it should be I love you and you are beautiful to me. I am sure a sought after girl is not meant for us steady loving types. She is in demand chief, comments and desire is all she hears all day, characters will go to great length to score with her with money, juju, hypnosis (sory spelling) etc. Do you realy want your heart to be in for this pounding, her beauty is what gave it away in the first place. She was your priced collector's item but now she is a floating troffy. There are too many beautiful ladies and you will eventualy get one that fits your profile, that I know, but this time let your love make her beautiful and not her beauty make you love her. No worries - It's a tough roller coaster right now for me. Yesterday I started to feel really good at the prospect of not having her in my life, I even booked a counselling appointment on the 28th roughly a week ago as I felt very low, and was considering cancelling. Then last night I fell asleep, only to dream of her and how happy we were and such - and woke up feeling quite miserable. I'm just slowly picking away at the idea of being with her and being happy, while they coincide, my happiness does not depend on being with her, and that's one thing I'm trying to process.
cdt76 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Don't for a second think you didn't love her. You did. All the reasons you loved her are yours and you can hold those dear. I loved my last because she was beautiful, sexy, a little naive, and treated me like I've never been treated before. Finding out I was just used for money, hurt like hell but it doesn't diminish the fact that I bought an engagement ring and wanted to make her the happiest girl on the planet for the rest of my life. Now your original post is how do we find that same intensity, desire and passion in someone else? I don't know. Maybe we don't. But we can look back and say we had it once and if God has it planned it will be so again. Through all this I found faith. I'm working on it every day and though I wanted her to be the ONE, she simply wasn't. Which means we have to find those qualities we loved in the ex minus the negatives. She is out there. I believe it. So should you.
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 The guy I broke up with 2 months ago was gorgeous, and I put the photos and videos of him away so I wouldn't moon over him. I actually wish he hadn't been so gorgeous, because then he'd almost certainly be less vain and arrogant, and it probably would have stood a better chance of working out. I think his arrogance is his major downfall, and from what he's told me, it's gotten in his way in relationships more than anything. Him being handsome was nice, but many of his other qualities were way more important to me than that (intelligence, honesty, work ethic, adaptability, etc.). I think looks definitely got in the way of my relationship also. Totally disregarding my view of her, and being as unbiased as I can possibly be - She practically got everything she wanted. Be it because she was pretty, or just could be very charming. Her parents would pay off huge bills for her, Ex-boyfriends would buy her anything she wanted, and she got into lines of work that depending on how pretty you were, you got more money for it. Her whole life while potentially could be seen as easier because of her looks, I think it definitely hindered growth in some of her qualities I could have admired even more such as Kindness or just being more considerate. I was put in a position where I almost felt I owed her I guess. Initially it wasn't like that though, which is what makes it hard - she made the effort, was self conscience and I guess I just helped her out a lot. Eventually though, It got to the point for her where I just wasn't giving her enough money wise. I brought up conversations about "Hey, I don't think that's fair, sure I earn more money, but it doesn't necessarily mean I have to spend it all right now does it?" - In which she wasn't too pleased, I remember when we were both earning decent money, I'd still be the one spending on the both of us. Finally we had a conversation which went along the lines of - She expects me to spend money on her, and I pretty much said I feel I give more to this relationship within every regard, emotion, time, love and money. She just didn't feel as strongly as I did eventually. After thinking a lot about the relationship and her, I think she's kind of incapable of feeling deep love. - There's always something she's after, very driven, but only to her own gain, or those that she think will ultimately help her out.
cdt76 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Omg. I think her and my ex went to the same school! The "I use men for my benefit" school. So many similarities. You have to understand that there is nothing you could do to make her happy. She wasn't happy with you, she was happy with your money and what it did for her. There is always someone out there who has more and she is the type to abuse it all. She looks at you like a movie ticket. It will get her in to any movie but only one. So she has to go out and find others to give her more tickets. Now you are much better at accepting her for what she is. I am not. I want my ex to take a bath in acid so that she will never be pretty and she will then learn some humility. But hey we all deal with stuff differently. Your girl and mine were like strippers. They find a regular to pay for their lifestyle then when he gets too close they move on t the next.
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