SlevinKalebra Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Ok, been along time since I posted. I read a few posts (respect to those like tha Wholigan that seem to already be above all this nonsense) and and I am seeing a lot of the same stuff over and over so I wanted to sound off on a few things: 1. If you want to vent because you're frustrated, fine, but recognize you are venting (and yes I am too). I see people post in (semi) questions then get upset when people try to respond. There are people on this board that really want to help and give, from their perspective, advice. Wether or not it helps you these people are trying to help NOT ATTACK you. Read it, take it in or don't and move on. If you want to change your situation take the advice if you want to be pissed at life just write "I'm pissed at my life and nothing anyone can say will change that so don't try!" 2. I see a lot of mysoginy and misandry, espescially in the form of generalizations. Why? If men/women are such horrible creatures why are you stressing about it? Find another place to put your energy and be happy with whatever it may be. Regarding the overgeneralizations: Yes SOME men only want sex, SOME women only want $. It's stupid to say this is true of all people, unless you are willing to accept ALL the generalizations of your own gender as including yourself as well. Come on people, we have a few things in common like we want to find someone we love, we all have to walk through parts of our life alone, and we all have baggage and issues. but other than that we all live different experiences. 3. frustration that guys have to be the assertive one in a relationship. Yep, true. But did you know water is wet, fire is hot. Get over it. you can't sit in a corner and wait for Kate Upton to sweep you off your feet, you have to be a man. Does it suck to get shot down? Hell yeah. Is it going to happen more often than not? Of course. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY. In fact expect it and realize you never have to talk to that person again, so really it is no different than walking past a stranger. They may brush you off and be rude but more likely than not it will just get awkward and you'll need to laugh it off and go find someone else to talk to. 4. Everyone has stuff in their life that really sucks. Realize that you do not of the market cornered on that. No one's perfect, no one is cursed. "I'm short, I'm fat...." whatever it is that you label yourself is going to be what limits you. Most people are more concerned with themselves to really care, Unless you carry yourself like whatever trait you have is you. Walk like you don't notice anything wrong with yourself (not arrogance just don't focus on it) and others will get the impression "Cute guy/girl maybe a little (whatever) but who cares he/she seems fun." Maybe, hopefully, LS will one day return to being an advice board but using it tell the world how unfair everything is and constantly playing the victim doesn't do anybody any good. just holds you back in a pattern of anger, Let it go. 2
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