thompson Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 My ex gf and I broke up January 29th and have remained Facebook friends occasionally liking each others posts or funny pics or whatever, but really no other contact. I noticed a few dudes trying to get her attention now that I am technically out of the picture. Anyway, the other day I posted some personal family stuff on a fb and right after that I get a text from her (havent had a text from her since January) saying she read what was going on with my mom (health issues) and wanted to know if I would want to have lunch with her some time this week and she ended the text with "I'm still your friend, even if you don't think I am" I was so taken back by this, mostly because our last phone conversation did everything, but make me feel like a friendship was possible. Besides they don't work anyway. I responded back a couple hours later with a "thank you :)" and left it at that. Correct me if I am wrong, but it appears it's just another way of her wanting to get back together? I still love her and would love to have her back, BUT I'm no fool. Still I don't know how to approach this. HELP!
Jono85 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 i read some of your past threads. no offence but this girl shouldn't have even been called your girlfriend. she didn't treat you like a boyfriend at all (only going by since when you guys got back together). she goes distant for weeks? where she doesn't call you? that's not a relationship. she wants to be your friend now b/c that's all she's wanted from you for some time it seems like. a friendship. ignore her from now on and don't pay her any mind. maybe you guys can be friends after a lot of space. you obviously have feelings for her. she doesn't for you.
TaraMaiden Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Now she wants to be friends? I don't get it!! It's ok. We do. Leave it to us, we'll explain it to you..... Read the NC Guide, it's all in there. Every lying piece of crap of it.
Author thompson Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 I disagree with she was not my girlfriend. She was and announced it to everyone that I was on many many occasions and treated me as such when out out at friends or public or whatever. She has done this in the past with the last 2 guys before me, who I knew. However if its friends she wants and thats it, well, I have plenty of friends and dont need her as a friend. I'm not one of these guys with self esteem issues or who doesnt have a life outside of her and whines about why he loves his abusive b*tch of a girlfriend even though she treats him like crap. Its a tough call and not as easy as all that. We have a lot of mutual friends together. So there is value in my question.
Chi townD Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 "I'm still your friend, even if you don't think I am" That should speak volumes for you. Does she miss you? Perhaps. But, she misses the friendship more than the relationship. I love your reply with "thank you". It gave her nothing to work with and it really doesn't tell her where your mind is at. I would say, back to NC. I have a feeling you're not interested in the friend zone and this is exactly where it's headed.
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