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February 19, 2013

so i have broke up with my girlfriend 3 days from now, and i was wondering if we could maybe be friend or be together again, is that possible or any chance of us being together again ? i pray everyday to want her back or do anything i can .

but for what i've know is that my ex girlfriend told me before when we were together that she will not be friend or even get together with her ex boyfriend and since the both of us have officially broken up, and i just spoke to her friend about this problem and her friend tells me the same answer, once she made up her mind, she will never turn back or want you back in her life anymore, ya im sad and i cried after i heard this, i dont know what to do. all i can say is my fault, and my stupidness.

What i want to know is that, will there be a chances maybe i could be friend or get back together with her again ? i tried to do research on the internet watch videos, many of them said you may have a chances to get her back by NC her for maybe 1week~3months and after she think about it she will come back to you because maybe she regret breaking up. but after all she said and her friend, i would just like to know if i could maybe get back together with her again in the future or we could be friend again ? not now but usually is how long ?

what i've know from her is that she still kept all the things i give her in a box or maybe threw them away i not sure, but she block me on facebook, twitter and etc, the picture we used to have she deleted all away in her phone.

And for what i've read and see from this website is that, maybe people intend to get back together after a officially broke up. because he/she regret, but what about mine situation, do you guys thing that i could get back with her or even be friends again ?

the last time she talked to me was today because i asked if i could pass her a book that contain all our old picture and i said i'll wait for her to come no matter how long it takes me to wait. so she called me and scold me that i was so stupid that since we already broken up, why do i still do all this things, i said because i love you, but she was so angry she said, no matter what you do we will never gonna be together again(she sound really very pissed off)

Many people said when your girl want to leave you should pull her back, but for my situation i tried to pull her back and said things and make funny face for her hoping she will smile or laugh, she just hate it. because she said can you stop being a burden and stop pulling me and hold me back. she said i dont love you anymore, the reason why i stay with you is because i dont love you, but i got feeling for you since we're together for 2year and i keep crying and really acting so poor thing in front of her, that is why i stayed. but i dont believe because on the valentine day, she made nice food for me and im so touch by her, if she doesn't love me why would she made me the food in the first place, she can just buy or maybe get me some cheap stuff but she didn't she made me nice food. the reason we break up 3days ago is because, she catch me lying to her about going out with my friends and didn't told her or let her know first before i went out. she cried in front of me im so guilty and stupid, so she walked away NC me for 3 days ever since she found out the things i lied to her many times and all is the same thing but sometimes it's jealousy and sensitive and i said i would change but i go back to what she hates about me again. i've really learnt my lesson, all i want is to get her back, but it was too late. she seem so happy now without me and she said im happier without you really feel better when you're not with me and she could hang out with her friend guy friend and do what she wants. i just hoping she would come back to me one day is that possible ?

i just need some advice please . do you think that we could be friend or get back together again ?

Sorry if its very long.

Edited February 19, 2013 by unluckyperson

February 19, 2013

Mate listen to her, and her friends. Actually absorb what she is telling you...

"once she made up her mind, she will never turn back or want you back in her life anymore" and "no matter what you do we will never gonna be together again" and "i dont love you anymore".

She doesn't want you as a boyfriend anymore. Noting you can say or do will ever change that. This is something nearly all of us have to go through. It's a horrible gut wrenching feeling. That feeling of someone we love slipping through our fingers. That feeling of being completely powerless to change the mind of someone we love.

Friendship between ex's rarely work. Why can't we be friends. After a breakup the work each person has to do is lose the couple identity. Each person needs to establish again his or hers identity and no longer see themselves as part of the couple they once were. Therefore being friends in the aftermath of a breakup is a complete NO NO! The atmosphere is too emtionally charged. You both need time to get yourselves together. If you leave each other alone initially you may come back later as saner, more grounded people with a better chance of being friends. But right now you need to concentrate on yourself and your healing..

Friendship could only work after a a lot of time has passed and both have no more relationship feeling for the other. You are a million miles away from this. You are hoping if you hang together she will be reminded of your existence and that she might change her mind. This will not happen...She probably wouldn't agree to friends. If she did agree to friendship you would either drive/push her away by smothering her OR you would see her move on to a new guy, with little regard for you

YOU HAVE TO LEAVE GO.........There is nothing you can do and you need to accept this. We have all had to leave go on this site. It's brutally hard, but you have to accept her decision...

February 19, 2013

You're gonna get the same answers no matter how many times you post the same story.

Bottom line is you are young - I know it hurts to lose someone you love regardless of age and time together, but you need to stop worrying about how to get her back. Focus on YOU. This is about YOU making changes for yourself to be a better person, to learn from your mistakes - this is not about trying to get her back. The more energy you spend worrying about getting her back is less energy spent on making you a better person.

February 19, 2013

well thanks really a lot guys, i guess. i really should just move on. since i got no chance or hope anymore.

February 19, 2013

so i have broke up with my girlfriend 3 days from now, and i was wondering if we could maybe be friend or be together again, is that possible or any chance of us being together again ? i pray everyday to want her back or do anything i can .

but for what i've know is that my ex girlfriend told me before when we were together that she will not be friend or even get together with her ex boyfriend and since the both of us have officially broken up, and i just spoke to her friend about this problem and her friend tells me the same answer, once she made up her mind, she will never turn back or want you back in her life anymore, ya im sad and i cried after i heard this, i dont know what to do. all i can say is my fault, and my stupidness.

What i want to know is that, will there be a chances maybe i could be friend or get back together with her again ? i tried to do research on the internet watch videos, many of them said you may have a chances to get her back by NC her for maybe 1week~3months and after she think about it she will come back to you because maybe she regret breaking up. but after all she said and her friend, i would just like to know if i could maybe get back together with her again in the future or we could be friend again ? not now but usually is how long ?

what i've know from her is that she still kept all the things i give her in a box or maybe threw them away i not sure, but she block me on facebook, twitter and etc, the picture we used to have she deleted all away in her phone.

And for what i've read and see from this website is that, maybe people intend to get back together after a officially broke up. because he/she regret, but what about mine situation, do you guys thing that i could get back with her or even be friends again ?

the last time she talked to me was today because i asked if i could pass her a book that contain all our old picture and i said i'll wait for her to come no matter how long it takes me to wait. so she called me and scold me that i was so stupid that since we already broken up, why do i still do all this things, i said because i love you, but she was so angry she said, no matter what you do we will never gonna be together again(she sound really very pissed off)

Many people said when your girl want to leave you should pull her back, but for my situation i tried to pull her back and said things and make funny face for her hoping she will smile or laugh, she just hate it. because she said can you stop being a burden and stop pulling me and hold me back. she said i dont love you anymore, the reason why i stay with you is because i dont love you, but i got feeling for you since we're together for 2year and i keep crying and really acting so poor thing in front of her, that is why i stayed. but i dont believe because on the valentine day, she made nice food for me and im so touch by her, if she doesn't love me why would she made me the food in the first place, she can just buy or maybe get me some cheap stuff but she didn't she made me nice food. the reason we break up 3days ago is because, she catch me lying to her about going out with my friends and didn't told her or let her know first before i went out. she cried in front of me im so guilty and stupid, so she walked away NC me for 3 days ever since she found out the things i lied to her many times and all is the same thing but sometimes it's jealousy and sensitive and i said i would change but i go back to what she hates about me again. i've really learnt my lesson, all i want is to get her back, but it was too late. she seem so happy now without me and she said im happier without you really feel better when you're not with me and she could hang out with her friend guy friend and do what she wants. i just hoping she would come back to me one day is that possible ?

i just need some advice please . do you think that we could be friend or get back together again ?

Sorry if its very long.

To be honest I doubt she will get back with you. I know it hurts but it seems like she is moving on with her life without you. Your best bet is to cut all contact now and go NC for a long while. Then maybe one day you two could be friends, and from there you may reignite the old spark. However, for the time being you should put no hope/faith/stock into what I just said about you possibly rekindeling things. You need to brace yourself for a life without her. I know that will be tough. We've all been through break ups, some harder than others. Yet, we are human. Over time we lose those feelings for ex, and meet someone new. Therefore, I would recomend purging your ex from your life, entirely. Get rid of her number, her email, her photos etc... Do not try to contact her. Every time you feel like you must contact her go outside for a few minutes, get a breath of fresh air, and think about other things and think about how contacting her will give you more pain. You should aslo try to keep busy. I do not know your age, so I can't give you specific age related advice. If you are in high school or college focus on your studies and join some new clubs. Hang out with your friends as often as possible. Vent to your friends. If they are truly your friends they will have your back. If you are not in school and or are older, start hitting the gym, and or get involved in an activity that you've wanted to do but never found a reason to do it. Maybe, you've always wanted to give Karate a try, but never had a reason to? now is your chance. Or maybe you've always wanted to try acting, but have felt scared or ashamed of doing so... well now is your chance to try and act in a local theater, or work as a techy. The possiblities are endless. If you work throw yourself into your work. The goal is to keep your self so busy with something mentally or physically taxing, or involved, that your ex fades from memory. I've done these things before and honestly it works like a charm. It will still take time to get over your ex, but with NC and keeping busy it will help ease the pain and help you get over her faster. The worst thing you can do now is to contact her and mope around in your room and look at things that remind you of her... I've been there, it makes things much harder.

Good luck!

February 19, 2013

since her birthday is coming, should i also wish her or just dont care ?

February 19, 2013

since her birthday is coming, should i also wish her or just dont care ?

Well of course you care. Most people would say stay NC and they are probably right, but I am a softie when it comes to birthdays. If it were me, I would send something like the following text.

"I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday. I hope you have a great day. So that you know, I have accepted your decision and I will not be contacting you in future. I apologise for my role in the demise of the relationship and I wish you nothing but happiness for the future. Take care, (your name) x"

You then make a promise to yourself to leave her be. No matter how hard NC is.

February 19, 2013

her birthday is about a month from now, so its okay if i just text her what you tell me ? cause a months from now, do you think the (i have accepted your decision and etc) ? because since the broke up have been a months ago already

February 19, 2013

hhmmmm a month I would leave it to be honest and not text her. I thought it was coming in a few days. A month, I would let sleeping dogs lie..

You need to let go now mate. Leave her be.

February 19, 2013

her birthday is about a month from now, so its okay if i just text her what you tell me ? cause a months from now, do you think the (i have accepted your decision and etc) ? because since the broke up have been a months ago already

How bad was the break up, and the relationship? if it was bad, I'd say don't say a word. However, if it was an "ok" break up/relationship just send her a text, a short, quick text saying "happy birthday (insert name)". Nothing more. If she sends you a text saying "thanks" or something like that... do not text her back. If it is more in depth, text her back but do not get emotional, lengthy, and do not text her too much. Once the texting is done, go back to NC. Also, go tit for tat if you end up texting her. She sends you a text, you send her one... no more than one! also if she says stuff like "ok" or "k" or "cool" but that is it, that means text time is over and go NC. Or if she says dismissive responses, or responses that obviously sound like she is not asking you anything or trying to end the convo, then go your own way and stop texting. An example would be "Thats good" or "alright. Have fun" etc...

February 19, 2013

so what i should do is just, happy birthday and if she say thank you. i just say you're welcome and NC ?

sorry but do you think in the future we could get back together ? sorry i really missed her so bad right now. i do some many stupid things, like i miss cuddle with her since it's going to be her birthday is a months. i just screw up the chance of getting closer to her, im so stupid wasted.

February 19, 2013

so what i should do is just, happy birthday and if she say thank you. i just say you're welcome and NC ?

sorry but do you think in the future we could get back together ? sorry i really missed her so bad right now. i do some many stupid things, like i miss cuddle with her since it's going to be her birthday is a months. i just screw up the chance of getting closer to her, im so stupid wasted.

Don't even say you're welcome. Just leave it be. Only respond if she asks you a question. If she says "Thank you. We haven't talked in a while. How have you been?" respond with something along the lines of "I've been good" you may or may not want to ask how she is. If she responds and says "I'm good" but doesn't ask you a question in return, leave the conversation be. Don't respond. You will want to respond. Every fiber in your body will want to respond. However, think of it this way, by not responding you are showing her you can live your life with out her and you are not dependant on her affection. If she in fact still has feelings for you, this tactic should drive her up a wall, and eventually she MAY give in and start trying to contact you more. After all, we want what is hardest to get/what we can't have. If you two get back together eventually I can see that as being the most prominent way. However, I doubt you two will get back together, so you need to brace yourself for that reality. When texting her, and only text her on her bday, not before... do not expect a text back. That way you are pleasently surprised if you get a text, but if you don't you realize that that was going to be the most likely outcome and that you are being let down.

good luck! but remember NC for 99.9% of the time.

February 19, 2013

alright i will. sorry. if i say happy birthday to her and if she didn't reply me ?

And if i said happy birthday to her and she reply me thank you. then the next step i have to do is NC all the way, until one day she comes back to me ?

February 19, 2013

alright i will. sorry. if i say happy birthday to her and if she didn't reply me ?

And if i said happy birthday to her and she reply me thank you. then the next step i have to do is NC all the way, until one day she comes back to me ?

If she doesn't reply she doesn't reply.

She is not coming back. Please let her go....

February 19, 2013

Alright, I'll do it with my dignity and move on. It's hard I know, but I know I can do it

February 19, 2013

Dude. IT IS OVER. None of this stuff matters about her. GO 100 PERCENT NC

Never send anything or respond to anything..eg no bday text nothing. It is pathetic. IT IS OVER. Sorry. Cav

February 19, 2013

Alright, I'll do it with my dignity and move on. It's hard I know, but I know I can do it

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