kagome Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 I've been dating a separated man since april of this year. He's been separated from his wife since October. They had there problems and have a sone together who is five theyve been together 10. He say that there is no hope for reconciliation. Bit I don't know if I believe him. He spends once a week with his son and wife and they meet once a week without his son. He says he's trying to help her she was severely depressed and financially unstable. When she found out that he was dating she freaked out. Now that everything has blown over so to speak he talked with her and asked if he tried to have a relationship would she freak out. In a sense she said she most likely would not be mature about it. We were getting close and he's decided that we should no longer date because of her answer to his question. Isn't it selfish of her to say that? Why would he ask her such a thing? what about me? He says they used to be best friends and he wants to maintain a good relatioship with her because of there son and he still care for her. I feel left out in the cold I dont know where we stand and it suck because we were begining to get serious and close. Any thought on this would help a lot.
Mr Spock Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 Ok. In this case, I believe you need to respect his wishes. I would suggest not contacting him anymore-let him work stuff out. It sucks. Find something and someone else to do in the meantime. Read up on No Contact-it may help you get him back. Especially if she's really that unstable. For now, prolong the fantasy of him crawling back begging to be let into your life. By the time you realize either way what happens next you'll be over it, with someone new and not so bogged down to spend your time with.
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