Keto Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 So my girlfriend of two and a half years told me that its over and to forget about us. My main issue is, we have been having problems for about 3 months now constant arguing and fighting over little things, I have indulged in porn, but its a once in a while thing, she scolds me for it. But she is attracted to women and she has tons of naked and half naked pics of them. Well we both have made mistakes in the past, but recently shes has been so distant from me. She talks to my friend about our relationship, and now has been even more distant since. Im not perfect neither is she but we roommate right now and she is working and im looking for a job, all she can say is how im nothing, a loser, and calls me alot of names on top of that. She told me that since I messed up that i had to prove myself to her in which i did, i do everything i can for her. When she gets home from work i make dinner, i clean, i tend to her needs as much as I can, and its like it never is remembered nor appreciated. She threathens me, always telling me that she should leave and that it would be easy for her to do so. But then turns around and tells me that she loves me and still is in love with me, and then doesnt show it, she just remains distant and whatnot. She still has sex with me but it doesnt feel like love anymore, she says that she doesnt feel it from me when i put my heart into the love making process. And then when we wake up she is just constantly on me harping over everything from my past mistakes to my life before us. And she doesnt want to spend time at all with me anymore. She cheated once in the beginning but now hasnt at all i know that because she doesnt have time. She goes to work and then comes home its just she doesnt want anything to do with me only when it suits her it seems. And now she broke up with me i have no clue what to do at all. Help! Keto.
BarbecueMan666 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Don't want to leave you hanging at all. Just went through a breakup, similar scenario. Was with my ex for 1.5 years - she an aspiring opera singer studying long distance, as well as making youtube videos with moderate success. - I successful in my own field of mini internet celeb stuff - we meshed well. We got on perfectly at the start, things faded within a year of being together to the point where she was distancing herself from me, and just seemingly getting agitated and such. We broke up momentarily for less than a week, in which we got back together - I still loved her, but 1 day she messaged me and said she wanted to see me, she came over and we got back together. Time went by, she moved away to LA (we initially were long distance - she moved in with me around 4-5 months into our relationship, and lived with me for 6 or so months) - during this time she was still cool. She started distancing herself again, hanging with new friends and didn't really have too much time for me. - She was wrapped up in studies at school, and further wrapped herself up in youtube. If I'm very honest, I was just low on the totem pole in the world of my ex. She told me she didn't see things working, after 2 weeks I convinced her otherwise (again, only for a brief stint of time, and I guess bought her affection) - but things were inevitably falling. Sex was still good, but it wasn't as passionate. We just didn't mesh as well anymore, and despite me loving her like crazy, I sensed her fading away, and I guess she was out of the relationship despite being in it before I knew really. We ended it on new years day - she said again she didn't see it working, and that was it pretty much. So to say I know what you're going through would be a long shot, but recently went through a very hard breakup myself with the thus far love of my life, and am finding it hard to cope with. She recently released some youtube video "A Breakup Ballad" which featured her being rather close with a guy I've never seen before, and dumping him - it was meant to be comedic, and she messaged me before it got released to tell me it's not about me at all. But a few things that were said during the video were very much aimed at me. Breakups suck man, you're gonna go through a tough period of time blaming yourself, maybe even thinking you suck - but at the end of the day, no matter the reasoning or what ever, you guys just didn't mesh anymore and that's pretty much that. It took me a while to figure that out too, doesn't make the pain any less or the process any easier, but it's a start to the process. 1
GSB81 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Been in your shoes many times. They want you until they dont want you, then they throw you away. I remember telling one that she was the loser in the situation. She lost a guy tgat thought the world of her, while i simply lost a girl that didn't want me. You ask for helo, but im afraid there insnt much to offer you.
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