Got thru first date, what next?

[Allumere]

So I have waded back into the OLD pond. Although I still find it an odd way to meet people it worked before and as I live where there are more cows that people its my best option. So after advertising on Match and some of the other sites (free sites are really an adventure for those with high thresholds for BS and a sense of humor...yipes) I have had a few hits and actually went to dinner with a gent the other night. His resume looked good, all background checks pointed that he was real, employed, status was as stated (yes, I gather as much info as I can...not romantic but when meeting a stranger I feel better knowing something going in..although could still be a total flake) and I enjoyed our phone conversation. I had a really nice time with him. Conversation was easy, we laughed alot, chemistry was good, got the first kiss/good-night kiss in..all good. Since then we have communicated via emails and text...nothing ridiculas (no 1000 txt per day please) as we just went out to dinner last week but some fun banter and him sharing a bit of his day. I'd enjoy seeing him again but it hasn't come up. We are both doing OLD so I tend to assume its a "keep your options open" scenario as there are other women that have contacted him he would like to meet (and vice versa for me). So, making these assumptions, I assume the best thing to do is what I have been doing (fishing OLD site) and if he asks me out again fine and if not assume the friendly chats are to keep an option B around or he is just a friendly guy. Just want to hear y'alls experiences. Cheers,

[D-Lish]

My best advice on this situation is not to ever accept being option "B" in life, especially not in regard to dating someone.

 

If you went out a week ago and he hasn't asked you out again, and you know he is entertaining other options- remind me again why that's good enough.

 

It's one thing to take things slow and get to know someone, it's quite another to be an "option".

[Allumere]

LOL..I'm not holding in the option B pattern. I have no issue being friendly and since he comes across as a nice chap I have no issue chatting or establishing a friendhip. He may simply think she's cool to grab a beer with. And thats fine...every connection isn't a love connection..friends are cool.

 

Since I'm out of practice I was interested in the timeframe.....at this point I assume he isn't interested in a second date/ dating me since its been about a week but I was interested to just hear other folks experiences.