mwhitneyvi Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Long story here: http ://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/374015-break-up-i-never-thought-would-happen#post4622283 Short story: Fast moving, crazy intense relationship, moved in too soon, stress/fighting, he moved out and left me. I begged for him back, turned into crazy ex, then turned civil, now less than 2 months out of relationship he has a new girlfriend. After a few random conversations just goofing off, I deleted him on Facebook when he entered a relationship with the girl he had been seeing (after swearing off relarionships), and the past two days he will Vox me (walkie-talkie app on phone), just like hey bitch what's up? Coincidentally he hasn't been at his girlfriend's the past two nights. Tonight he just said hey bitch so I asked him what's up and he responded with why are you so boring and mellow? Being a tough guy/smartass. If I'm so boring and his relationship (which he has never mentioned/discussed with me) is so awesome, why is he even bothering to contact me!? Things didn't end amicably and I haven't seen him since the day before we broke up. Insight please? It's all pointless contact, just joking around.
thrownaway909 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 first of all, if the guys first words to you in how long are "hey bitch", dont even respond, or worry about why hes contacting you. joking or not, the guy isnt worth it.
cdt76 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Good lord and you want this winner back? Maybe you need to check yourself into a clinic to get help! And I was dumped for being too nice..... Looks like be an ass and women faun over you. Unbelievable!
gravi1 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Is it normal if he says bitch to you, This man is a total fool,if he calls you a bitch and still hopes to get with you. He is hoping that you are such a mess and just craving for his arms. Please he wants you to be a zombi that he can tramp on anytime he is on rebound. No no no lady you don't deserve this, he has crossed the line ultimately. I am 150% sure that there are men who will and can treat you with respect and true admiration, the good news is you even get to choose which one. Please get yourself together and join the market, or get a male friend whom you can talk to for starters (just talk to)
Mack05 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 You ignore. This started to go wrong when..."I met a man when I was 3 months pregnant"..Honestly this looks like an episode of Jerry Springer.."Breakup you never thought would happen"? How far from reality are you? The title of your original thread should have been "Breakup that was always going to happen". This is just a mess. Focus on the baby, get to regular therapy and avoid ALL guys for the foreseeable future. Your self worth is in the gutter and if you don't do something about this, then these are the kind of guys you will end up with...Don't you and your child deserve better? or does the toxic cycle continue and your kid ends up with a dead beat partner when they grow up...
MidwestUSA Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Get off Facebook and concentrate on yourself and your pregnancy. Have you even considered what you are going to do? Have you looked into putting the baby up for adoption? Might be a good idea considering your mental/emotional state.
veggirl Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 "hey bitch whats up" ?!?! do you...find that cute or funny or endearing or something? you know that him "jokingly"(?) calling you bitch is actually very indicative of his level of respect for you. why are you even getting these contacts, please block this jerk!!! ugh!
Author mwhitneyvi Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Pregnancy. Hormones. I'm not sure how any other woman would handle waking up one day at 6 months pregnant to your oh so loving boyfriend angrily packing his **** and waiting until he's out of there to act like a monster to you. Anywho, I'm not here to make excuses for myself. I didn't handle it perfectly. My bad for being human? Hopefully a few broken-hearted people can read my story and laugh at how pathetic it is and feel a little bit better. I'd be okay with that lol and I'm sure I will do the same once I'm through the pregnancy. Hell, I do it sometimes now. Regardless, it still hurts and still have my hard days. Life goes on.
Author mwhitneyvi Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 He tried talking to me again today, being an annoying dumbass with nothing important to say. IGNORED. He's lucky I'm not awful enough to show his girlfriend how often he tries to talk to me. Anyway, if my 33 weeks pregnant hormonal cry ass can get past this, anyone can. Really. And yes, I'm doing it alone. No friends here, only my parents. Don't lose hope
Kaza Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Good on you girl! I also think 'hey bitch' is really disrespectful even if it was joking.
Author mwhitneyvi Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 Extremely. He talks to everyone like that. So unattractive... And obnoxious. He didn't do it to me when I met him or when we were together though. Oh well, not my problem
2sunny Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Simply don't respond to him at all! He can only treat you the way YOU ALLOW him to. If he's the father - file legal papers through the court so you won't need to communicate at all. Any guy ever greeted me with "hey bitch" may as well expect to have the crap beat out of him. Block him. Get counseling to find out why you think this is acceptable and how to get a healthy boundary for yourself.
Author mwhitneyvi Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 (edited) Yeah, I came to all of those realizations lately. Thanks. Edited February 21, 2013 by mwhitneyvi
2sunny Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Yeah, I came to all of those realizations lately. Thanks. Block him! Have you done that?
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