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I'm in a celibate relationship! Don't know want to do?

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I known this guy for two years and recently we became exclusive and im getting frustrated because he hasn't tried to have sex with me. And I have been giving him hints and tried to get it started but nothing and I sleep in his bed every weekend. I asked him he says he wants to take it slow. And then He changes the subject. What does that mean? I been patient for two years.

I NEED sex. I don't know what to do.. Every time I tried talking to him either he doesn't want to talk or change the subject.

What does this mean? Is he not interested or do i believe him when he says he wants to take it slow.

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How old are you both? Have you slept with him before? Is he a virgin? Do you know if he wants to wait for marriage? How recent is recent?

 

I would say believe him when he says he wants to take it slow, but that's with very limited info. If he has made things exclusive with you recently I would assume he's interested in you.

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I'm 23 and he is 29. We became exclusive about 2 weeks ago. He is not waiting for marriage. And he says his not a virgin because he told about his sex history.

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Do you have a sexual relationship in ways other than intercourse? Does he go down on you? Do you give him oral sex? Do you two kiss and cuddle?

 

If not, you sound more platonic than romantic.

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Radu Established Member

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Is he a guy who puts women on pedestals ?

Do you do anything sexual ?

Do you spoon often ?

Have you tried asking him why is he treating you different from the other women he was with ?

Is he religious ?

What is his family history ?

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I known this guy for two years and recently we became exclusive and im getting frustrated because he hasn't tried to have sex with me. And I have been giving him hints and tried to get it started but nothing and I sleep in his bed every weekend. I asked him he says he wants to take it slow. And then He changes the subject. What does that mean? I been patient for two years.

I NEED sex. I don't know what to do.. Every time I tried talking to him either he doesn't want to talk or change the subject.

What does this mean? Is he not interested or do i believe him when he says he wants to take it slow.

 

 

I say get out! i was in a 28 year marriage always one excuse after another. It got harder after i had two kids. I guess" i got pregnant easy" as it wasn't through having lots of sex. So i stayed for them. But with a broken heart, i just knew it wasn't ever gonna change some things just are what they are.

 

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Thanks for reply you guys, I been thinking a lot and I don't think this isn't supposed to be this hard and im not talking about just the sex, talking about in general. and I think its hard because I love him and I gave this relationship more than a 100%. I Know we just started to be exclusive. But I dont want to bet that person to make excuses for him, I'm scared of being hurt and Im just going to start being distant from him so i can think and so i can start healing myself. Maybe who knows, just maybe he will start realize how much i mean to him. Is this what im supposed to do? I can never make decision for myself. but thats another life story.

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Tell him you don't want to sleep in his bed unless you will be having sex. You're old fashioned that way.

 

I think he's either a virgin or gay. Get some porn DVDs, both gay and straight sex, and watch them with him and see which type excites him the most.

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I think he's either a virgin or gay. Get some porn DVDs, both gay and straight sex, and watch them with him and see which type excites him the most.

 

He's gay. But don't get "gay" porn. That will be too obvious. Get threesome porn, but the kind where the guys suck each other off while screwing the girl. See if THAT gets him going more than the straight porn.

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I say get out! i was in a 28 year marriage always one excuse after another. It got harder after i had two kids. I guess" i got pregnant easy" as it wasn't through having lots of sex. So i stayed for them. But with a broken heart, i just knew it wasn't ever gonna change some things just are what they are.

 

luluorange

 

 

I agree with luluorange. get out now

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