Rubix123 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Im 21. im female. Tbh. I don't know what I want anymore I love my boyfriend, I do so much and I know it would kill me if I ended it with him, I need him and I know if I broke up with him I'd just end up getting back with him. I love him more than anything he really is my everything but I cannot cope with these Arguements were having. The things we say in our Arguements I know there never the truth but I feel as though sometimes I can't be myself around him, he's so up tight and anxious about EVERYTHING I'm sick of it, I'm sick of everything, its not just about my boyfriend cause he makes me happy and I love him we have our ups and downs I have lost all my friends though, due to them being bad friends, I never seem to keep friends for long and its really upsetting me, I feel like I have no one, I just want to go back 5 years ago, wish I chose a different route for myself never met the people I did. But now I guess I have to face the consequences, I am succeeding in college, but I often feel like its thrown back in my face, my boyfriend isn't really that happy for me for what I do, I wish thiga were different and I wish I didn't love him so so so much to the point where I cannot live without him. I don't even know what I'm going on about anymore my brains in circles I feel so low so down and depressed. My family never spend time with me when I ask them to do something I just feel like disappearing off the edge of the earth for a good few days or weeks. I'm so confused my stomach hurts. It's 3am I can't sleep I feel like I hate my life. I hardly ever go out. I'm sick of myself I'm sorry this probably isn't the right forum but I don't give a hoot anymore I just need answers I need someone to talk to.
LoverOfDance Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 (edited) So weird that I woke up around the same time last night and was feeling the exact same way you're feeling - depressed. Was feeling so low and unhappy I couldn't even sleep. The good thing is that I'm a dancer. I simply went downstairs to my living room and danced off all the negative energy. If there are things going on rht now in your life that u wish u cld change but can't seem to find a way to, try to accept them. This is what I'm trying to do rht now. If there's a lot of negative energy inside of u, don't just sit there, trust me, it DOESN'T help. Get up and fight it with something positive. I've been fighting depression 4 the past 2 years now and I'll never give in cause I'm stronger than it and so are u. No one deserves to be sad. Always remember that. U deserve to be happy so get up, go out and find something that makes you happy. Edited February 19, 2013 by LoverOfDance
KathyM Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 I think if you are having that much trouble getting along with your boyfriend, maybe it's time to take a break from each other. Maybe you are not a match. He may have some really great qualities, but if it's impossible to get along with him, what good is that? If you were married to the guy, I'd suggest you go to couple's counseling to work on your communication issues, but since you are not, it makes more sense to realize that if there are major compatibility issues and you can't get along with the guy, then it's time to break up and find someone who is more compatible.
flitzanu Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Im 21. im female. Tbh. I don't know what I want anymore I love my boyfriend, I do so much and I know it would kill me if I ended it with him, I need him and I know if I broke up with him I'd just end up getting back with him. I love him more than anything he really is my everything but I cannot cope with these Arguements were having. The things we say in our Arguements I know there never the truth but I feel as though sometimes I can't be myself around him, he's so up tight and anxious about EVERYTHING I'm sick of it, I'm sick of everything, its not just about my boyfriend cause he makes me happy and I love him we have our ups and downs I have lost all my friends though, due to them being bad friends, I never seem to keep friends for long and its really upsetting me, I feel like I have no one, I just want to go back 5 years ago, wish I chose a different route for myself never met the people I did. But now I guess I have to face the consequences, I am succeeding in college, but I often feel like its thrown back in my face, my boyfriend isn't really that happy for me for what I do, I wish thiga were different and I wish I didn't love him so so so much to the point where I cannot live without him. I don't even know what I'm going on about anymore my brains in circles I feel so low so down and depressed. My family never spend time with me when I ask them to do something I just feel like disappearing off the edge of the earth for a good few days or weeks. I'm so confused my stomach hurts. It's 3am I can't sleep I feel like I hate my life. I hardly ever go out. I'm sick of myself I'm sorry this probably isn't the right forum but I don't give a hoot anymore I just need answers I need someone to talk to. so you hate your life, your life is miserable, and you aren't happy. what's the common denominator in all this? your boyfriend? if that's the case, then you should reconsider being with him. just because you "love" him doesn't mean you should stay together, especially if you are incredibly unhappy.
creighton0123 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 I would suggest that if you have the funds for it, go somewhere on vacation for your spring break without your boyfriend. Take that week to mull over things and figure out exactly what is causing you so much anxiety and sadness. As Flitz has said, if it is him, figure out a way to make it better or end it rather than letting it drag on and making it harder for the both of you. If it helps, I only know a handful of people who are still in a relationship with the people they dated in college. Typically, these relationships are full of raw emotion and stress that is a direct reflection of figuring out and working towards what you want to do with the rest of your life in the span of four years.
czen Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 What creighton said, take some time for yourself and think about things. What would make you happy? And think about it with your heart as well as your brain. You can live without your boyfriend, you have done it before. So don't be afraid of losing him if it happens. Just calm down, think about your life and then do what makes you happy.
Author Rubix123 Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Thank you everyone for your kind words and helping out with your advice, you have all give great advice, which I will take on board, I feel a lot better tonight, 24 hours on. I guess sometimes life just seems tough and some times I feel like I'm about to snap. We do have our ups and downs, an it is very true that I have once lived without him, but in saying that when someone becomes a part of your life like this I've become very attached to him, as has he, we are taking a holiday in summer break. I know where you are coming from but some things are easier said than done. im not blaming my problems and unhappiness on my boyfriend. Hopefully this will help things Going ln holiday. I've just sometimes hate how we argue but I guess every relationship has arguments It's nice to know I'm not alone in feelin like this and that other people are having similar situations, but I hope you fix your situation and sadness soon as I have managed to over this blip
316 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Does your boyfriend know how down you've been? If he really cares about you and your well-being then he'll do anything he can to change his behavior for your sake and for the sake of your relationship. If he refuses to change then let it be a good indication that you need to move on. Remember you can't truly love someone to the best of your ability until you truly love yourself.
flitzanu Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Thank you everyone for your kind words and helping out with your advice, you have all give great advice, which I will take on board, I feel a lot better tonight, 24 hours on. I guess sometimes life just seems tough and some times I feel like I'm about to snap. We do have our ups and downs, an it is very true that I have once lived without him, but in saying that when someone becomes a part of your life like this I've become very attached to him, as has he, we are taking a holiday in summer break. I know where you are coming from but some things are easier said than done. im not blaming my problems and unhappiness on my boyfriend. Hopefully this will help things Going ln holiday. I've just sometimes hate how we argue but I guess every relationship has arguments It's nice to know I'm not alone in feelin like this and that other people are having similar situations, but I hope you fix your situation and sadness soon as I have managed to over this blip that's still an excuse. no one has to live unhappily in a relationship. i'm not telling you to leave, but i am telling you that being unhappy is NOT part of life.
Author Rubix123 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 I know, I'm just so confused. I don't know what I want and I've lost my friends over my relationship, all I wanted was my friends and my boyfriend to get along, I'm sick of everything every day i feel so low and I don't know where to turn anymore. I do love him. But it's gotten way out of hand. I love my boyfriend more than anything but I miss my friends a lot. I'm fed up of pretending that everything is ok. If I talk to him he will just get upset and say I want them and not him. There's no deneying I would chose him cos I love him but I wish I could do things differently I just feel like I can't live without him.
flitzanu Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I know, I'm just so confused. I don't know what I want and I've lost my friends over my relationship, all I wanted was my friends and my boyfriend to get along, I'm sick of everything every day i feel so low and I don't know where to turn anymore. I do love him. But it's gotten way out of hand. I love my boyfriend more than anything but I miss my friends a lot. I'm fed up of pretending that everything is ok. If I talk to him he will just get upset and say I want them and not him. There's no deneying I would chose him cos I love him but I wish I could do things differently I just feel like I can't live without him. so what, you're not allowed to have friends? he controls you to the point of not having a life outside of him?
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