adelia Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Others that have gone through a hard break up as well. Reading through all these posts has made me realize what I went through a couple years ago was not me being desperate or pathetic but me being human. What I mean by that is the constant inward battle of what you want vs knowing it isn't right for you. Knowing it can only hurt you more in the end and that you will lose even more of your self respect and in turn confidence. The easiest thing in the world is giving advice but the hardest is taking it sometimes. The worst thing is seeing the wonderful qualities in a person despite them lying to you and never knowing if they felt a shred of anything for you or you were just a plaything to pass the time for them. Nothing in life is ever cut and dry and when emotions seep in and that person has shielded you from the painful realities in your life, well that advice keeps looking more and more something you'd like to ignore. Sometimes to ne happy you have to first be desperately unhappy 3
destroyed4sho Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 . Sometimes to ne happy you have to first be desperately unhappy I agree with this statement, but I am not sure you mean the same thing as I am understanding it. Can you explain more?
Author adelia Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 What I meant by that statement is...doing what's best for your future sometimes hurts like hell to attain peace and happiness later. It's too easy to stay in a unhealthy cycle in a relationship just to avoid the pain that's needed to reach true happiness.
d0620 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Adelia, This post really gave me perspective and something to look forward to a few weeks from now. I am going through a break up but I was willing to stay with breadcrumbs feeling incomplete rather than facing the pain of breaking up, which he decided to do anyway. How could the person I gave everything to who had it made end up breaking up with me? The only answer I have is God or for those who don't believe divine intervention. Sometimes we try to hold on to things that God himself is trying to tear away. Our challenge isn’t to deal with what may appear as a problem, but to find the blessing in the situation. I am working on this.. 1
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