boyfriend cheated, lied, and screwed me over! Cheating with at least 4 women.....

[jocelyn]

I need help/ advice/ support.

 

I just moved in with my boyfriend of four years. We have had our ups and downs, he cheated and lied early in our relationship. With alot of work, I forgave him and he promised he'd never hurt me again.

 

I moved to a new town where I know only him. He is on parole and got sent back to jail last week for violoating a condition of his parole. So a girl called his cell and I answered. She has been seeing him for the past three months. He has been talking about marriage and kids with her. I also found out from our roomate, that he has had other women. I used to live over an hour away, so it wouldn't be hard for him to screw around on me.

 

I also discovered he applied for a credit card using my ssn and put himself on the account as an additional account holder. I reported it to the company and it will be a felony if they find him guilty.

 

I thought I was doing okay with all this ****, although of course it hurt. I was relieved in a way. Today I am just really upset about the whole thing. I don't think I can make it. I am here at an apt we got together with all his stuff surrounding me and it is so hard....

 

Please someone write me back!

[reservoirdog1]

Dump his sorry ass now. He cheated again after you forgave him once; in my book, you should never trust or forgive him again. What reason would you have to trust him in the future? Every time you forgive him, it makes him think that he can just keep cheating because you'll always take him back.

 

Secondly... do you really need to tie your future to a loser who was dumb enough to (a) do something bad enough to warrant a jail term, and (b) violate his parole and get sent back?

 

Total waste of your time, IMHO.

[lifeisloveispain]

Just cut this loser loose. Seriously. What he's pulling is total BS.

 

I'm not gonna repeat everything Reservoirdog said, but it's all exactly on the mark.

 

C'mon, think about it. Why would you want to have anything to do with a total scuzz like this in the first place?

 

-lifeisloveispain

[fredrolin]

I have heard this type of story so many times.

 

And the sad thing is jocelyn and other nice women with go back to dating losers.

 

some women like the badboy, want to help change the badboy, feel sorry for the badboy.

 

And/or the badboy has a good rap to win over these women that usually have low self esteem as well.

 

So many nice, decent guys can't get a good woman due to the glamour of the badboy.

[Artifact]

Start referring to him as you EX boyfriend. Come on! Get out of there...

[jmargel]

You need to leave him. There is no foundation to your relationship. He's what people call a 'player'. Don't stick around to listen to his cries of sorryness. His words have no meaning.

 

A person like that will be alone in the end. Don't stick around trying to 'fix' him. You can't. Neither can all the other women he's with.

 

It's time to start working on yourself.

[Barby]

I agree stay away from him. You deserve some one who'll respect you! I would pursue the charges of fraud against him! He could have ruined your credit, which could ruin future things you may want to do! What a selfish a**h***!

 

On another note, since you loved him I'm sure it's so hard to deal with. Are you still living in the place where you two lived together? How long is he going to be in jail? Are you considering moving out of the apartment and moving somewhere else so that you won't have to deal with him? Would you have left him if he hadn't been sent back to jail? (I know I'm full of questions sorry).

 

 

Not only did he betray your trust in the form of dating other women (which is wrong and s***ty in it's self) but he also basically stole your info to use for his personal financial gain! He is trustworthy on any level so you are lucky to be rid of him!

[ltomlinson81]

Get real, get rid of this loser.

[unreal]

Originally posted by fredrolin

I have heard this type of story so many times.

 

And the sad thing is jocelyn and other nice women with go back to dating losers.

 

some women like the badboy, want to help change the badboy, feel sorry for the badboy.

 

And/or the badboy has a good rap to win over these women that usually have low self esteem as well.

 

So many nice, decent guys can't get a good woman due to the glamour of the badboy.

 

 

Man, this is a very SORE subject with me. It's something that not only pisses me off, but I know it pisses off all good men everywhere. The glamour of the badboy. This is such a true statement. For some god known reason, women everywhere go for the badboy. Women talk about wanting a good man, but when they find one they get bored and don't want him anymore. So what do they do? They go for the badboy. Some loser who has possibly served time in jail, covered in tattoos, has long hair, probably owns a motorcycle and rarely bathes. The proof is in the romance novels they read. Everytime you see the cover and storyline it involves a supposed nice girl cheating on her husband because she just can't resist falling in love with this badboy. To me, it is ridiculous. And if this woman really has to ask on this forum what she should do as far as staying with him or leaving him, I don't think our responses are going to get through to her anyways. The right answer is soo clear, do we really need to answer?

[shortbus74]

unreal..... some women date the bad boys because they feel that their love will fix them..... (used to date losers myself)

 

The only thing I can say is good luck fixing up a Pinto when you could have a BMW

[unreal]

Originally posted by shortbus74

unreal..... some women date the bad boys because they feel that their love will fix them..... (used to date losers myself)

 

The only thing I can say is good luck fixing up a Pinto when you could have a BMW

 

Now, that is a concept! I've actually heard this before. The woman wants to CHANGE the badboy. WOW! I've also heard the concept that some women feel that if they get involved with the badboy they won't get hurt because they won't fall in love. And they know that it won't work longterm either. I guess that is why women and men will never understand one another.

[wut to do?]

Originally posted by unreal

Now, that is a concept! I've actually heard this before. The woman wants to CHANGE the badboy. WOW! I've also heard the concept that some women feel that if they get involved with the badboy they won't get hurt because they won't fall in love. And they know that it won't work longterm either. I guess that is why women and men will never understand one another.

[Bobby'sex]

well, i been with my exboyfriend for 6 years and he cheated on me. The signs were. Acting really paranoid, watch unfaitful kind of movies, taking me further from town just to watch movies where people in our town wont know im with him. Another one is saying he goes fishing and doesnt answer his phone calls

[Mark Niceguy]

Thanks for the words here. I'm getting ready to dump someone - he cheated and lied, got caught, forgiven and taken back - only to do it again with the same two guys. As my nickname implies, I'm too darn nice for my own good.

 

It's so easy to get caught up thinking you can "change" someone. Doesn't work. I'm outta here - and as for my soon-to-be ex: Have a nice life!