raiinbowstarsx3 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Okay, so I recently met this guy for about over a week now. We are definitely taking things slow and he likes me a lot and I like him too but I am so hesitant. I definitely know he likes me though. He has recently took a lot of time to make a nicely designed Valentine's Day card for me all by hand. It was sweet of him. He holds doors open for me and we hung out yesterday at the movies and he held my hand during it. Anyways, my past boyfriend wasn't great. He hid things from me, used me and did drugs and was an alcoholic. I was truly heartbroken from my past relationship. I fell for him too fast when I hardly knew him. We only lasted 2 weeks. He told me lies and promises that I believed. I think it was my first "heartbreak". But that was over 2 years ago. When I used to cry a lot over him, I sworn to myself that I would learn from all these terrible mistakes I made. That I would never date or go out with someone like him ever again. Fast forward to February 8th, 2013. I met someone. I did not see it coming. Now, fast forward to this February 18th. We have mostly been texting because we don't have the same classes or anything. We hung out maybe 3 times. Obviously, I'm not letting myself fall for him, at least this quickly. I have stopped myself. I'm having a hard time being with him though. Like, we do have SOME interests together like some video games, but we both have hard times coming up with a new topic for conversation. I hate it. My shyness kills and I end up saying like one word answers. So far in the ten days we have talked, he has told me a good amount about his life/past life and his family. I barely talked about mine. It annoys me up to no end that I have such a hard time opening up to him. And I want to. Maybe I have trust issues. I think I am just really afraid. My past isn't really what you call "bright and happy". It's full of dark memories and everything. Another problem I have is what I discovered yesterday. He told me one time that he is addicted to video games like Black Ops...all the shooting games. It's not like I have a problem with it, it's just yesterday I had NO idea what to talk about to him while he was playing. I told him it was fine and that I could watch, but it was kind of annoying. And he gets INTO them too. He gets pissed if he loses, not in a joking manner either. Luckily, his puppy was on the bed with us so I had something to keep me busy or whatever. But, I don't know. I need to be more open with him about that too. It's not like I care whether he loves video games or not, but I just don't want him to be playing while I just sit there, you know? Hmm...so I have questions if you any of you has any advice. How can I start coming up with topics to talk about? Not necessarily serious but casual mostly. How can I be more open to him? How can I make a conversation last instead of ending up killing it due to my shyness? How can I learn how to be more outgoing and be myself? I want to sometimes be silly around him but I don't want it to be random or anything. He's mostly a serious guy but it would be nice to have some laughing moments with him too. Thanks.
will1988 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 To me it sounds like you are not overly interested in him. You just like the fact that a guy is a little interested in you. If you all have been kind of dating for a week and you are already out of things to talk about, it is time to move on. Good luck!
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