Snickerdoodles Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Sept 2012 I started personal training. I instantly had a crush on my trainer. I started lightly flirting and then in October I asked him out. Details: I'm 10 years older than him, but I'm fit, blond, fake boobs, etc. He said he would love to and couldn't believe I'd be interested in him because I was so gorgeous, but he also said that he has a super busy schedule (he trains mornings and nights and goes to school during the day. He also still lives at home with his parents). We texted daily at the beginning and flirted constantly. He became everything to me sooo fast! I forgot to mention that he is insanely hot and has the most amazing body I've ever seen. We dated for about 3 months and then he became super distant. Kept telling me how busy he was and that he was sick. Then on Valentine's Day he told me he was getting back together with his ex, but he still wanted to continue to train me. I still have massive feelings for him and I don't want to stop training with him because he's amazing and I've noticed a huge difference in my body since starting with him. Plus since he's so hot, it's great motivation to make it to the gym daily. I guess my question is, how do I get over the fact that he basically rejected me for his ex girlfriend and how do I keep things cool between us during training? I'm at the gym 7 days a week, he's there 6 days a week, and I train 2-3 days a week.
todreaminblue Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Sept 2012 I started personal training. I instantly had a crush on my trainer. I started lightly flirting and then in October I asked him out. Details: I'm 10 years older than him, but I'm fit, blond, fake boobs, etc. He said he would love to and couldn't believe I'd be interested in him because I was so gorgeous, but he also said that he has a super busy schedule (he trains mornings and nights and goes to school during the day. He also still lives at home with his parents). We texted daily at the beginning and flirted constantly. He became everything to me sooo fast! I forgot to mention that he is insanely hot and has the most amazing body I've ever seen. We dated for about 3 months and then he became super distant. Kept telling me how busy he was and that he was sick. Then on Valentine's Day he told me he was getting back together with his ex, but he still wanted to continue to train me. I still have massive feelings for him and I don't want to stop training with him because he's amazing and I've noticed a huge difference in my body since starting with him. Plus since he's so hot, it's great motivation to make it to the gym daily. I guess my question is, how do I get over the fact that he basically rejected me for his ex girlfriend and how do I keep things cool between us during training? I'm at the gym 7 days a week, he's there 6 days a week, and I train 2-3 days a week. when soemoen is taken or getting back with an ex or interested in someone else, use that....to me it stops any movement and i naturally pull back .........someone who has feelings for another can never give you want to have or what you deserve to have...... they aretn free to explore what they coudl have with you, so in actual fact it is a good thing that he is getting back with his ex and finds happiness with her, and you are free to find someone who will feel the same way about you.....you have to be number one not number 21.......best wishes....deb 1
ThatJustHappened Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 He's just not that into you. Find a new gym and get a new trainer. Problem solved. Also maybe try being less superficial and look for a guy who has substance and not just low body fat. 2
Author Snickerdoodles Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 Well I guess right now I am sort of superficial because I was married for 13 years and now just want a little fun... or at least I thought I did. I ended up actually liking him.
Lillyfree Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 he obviously also wanted a bit of fun, and then got bored of you. as someone previously said - let it go, move on, find another gym. he probably just saw you as a horny cougar, you provided an ego boost, he's done with that bit but would like to 'keep training you' so that you can continue giving him that ego boost when he feels like it. 3
Lillyfree Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 also, you don't say if you're still married?
Author Snickerdoodles Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) I am separated. I am 32 and he is 22. Oh yeah, also he's the first guy I've dated in over 14 years. Edited February 20, 2013 by Snickerdoodles
kamani Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Do you pay him for personal training? If 'yes' he just wanted sex+business. You wanted sex. I don't think you love him. So it should not be that difficult. You are about to cheat someone. Walk out now.
HonestNeurotic Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Go and have some fun. Date more hot guys. Sounds like you got married too young - and now you have your freedom to do as you please. I think that's a good thing to do for awhile. Just play say and don't fret on the young ones knowing what they want right now - it's probably not necessarily a long term relationship at this time in their lives. Eye candy is great for a dessert now and then, but makes for a bad steady diet...... Above all - play SAFE! 1
Author Snickerdoodles Posted February 20, 2013 Author Posted February 20, 2013 I pay the gym he works for for the personal training. Not him directly.
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