bella8611 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Hi everybody Ive just discovered this website today and I'm already hooked I want to share my story and try and get some different views because I'm pretty sure my friends are sick of talking about it now. Here goes..... I met a guy in may last year on a night out, I wasn't really interested at 1st but he kept on trying with me and after a month won me round and I went on date with him, after that we was in contact everyday. We got on really well but at 1st he said he didn't want a gf, I pushed on this a little but it was him that finally admitted that we was in a relationship ( we spent so much time together, I met all his family, we went away on holiday). Christmas and new year started to approach and like any girl I wanted to make plans with him,he would say he didn't like to plan things and would rather just go with the flow. As well as this he's ex had started to text to meet up and asking him if he was happy with me. He broke up with me a week before Christmas saying he didn't want a girlfriend and that he liked being single but did care about me and have feelings for me, he was definitely going to miss me but we wanted different things. He told me if we had kept it casual we would still be together. I found out the week after we broke up he was back meeting his ex!!! He told me he didn't care for her she was just casual and it was company once or twice a week,. After 7 weeks of nc he text me last week saying hi, I know you don't want to hear from me but I wanted to see if you was OK? I've ignored this but now feel like I've gone steps backwards and i think about him more then ever, I feel worse now then I did straight after the break. How can people be so cruel why couldn't he just leave me alone. In thanks for reading,any opinions welcome.
Mack05 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 The guy is an immature jerk. Sadly the red flag was there early when he clearly stated he didn't want a girlfriend. This was when you needed to disconnect. Just put it down to experience. There is a lot better out there for you
powerofnow Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I have just read your post - and my first thought was - are you sure we have not been dating the same guy ! Thats pretty much exactly what has happened to me , even the same words like i dont make plans , i like to go with the flow and wanting to keep it casual. At least i know how you feel and i hate to say it but i think the reply was correct, guys saying stuff like are just immature and selfish and we deserve so much more than that. 1
Author bella8611 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Thanks for the replies guys. Its exactly what my friends have been saying . I know I should of realised straight away but he's actions were always different to his words , he was so keen at 1st and I wasn't and then when I finally fell he got scared and made a swift exit. Do you think I should just carry on nc? I'm worried he's going to try and get in touch again and I won't be strong enough to ignore him again
Mack05 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Well NC is best for sure. He could come back because he is emotionally immature (these types tend to pull/push leaving the dumpee confused and hurt) but this is the exact reason why you can't trust him. If he did come back and you both gave it a go, you simply can't ignore history. He would let you down again. Thus further setting you back. Methinks if you had higher self esteem you would have the strength to totally ignore him because you would automatically know you deserve so much better. That's what I would focus on. 1
Author bella8611 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Its amazing how a total stranger can get it pretty spot on. I'm a natural born worrier and the low self esteem comes from already being cheated on and left for someone else in the past. This was my 1st proper relationship since that 3 years ago. Funny thing was I had come to terms with being on my own before him and was dealing with it well, need to get back to that. :bunny: 1
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