Dan08 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Ok, finally deleted my ex again off fb after re-adding her a couple months back but I feel like a t*sser for doing it. Even though she dumped me and I think I've kinda come to terms with breaking up I still don't want to hurt her feelings by ignoring her, going NC etc as that's just not me but I don't see a choice. We have mutual friends and that makes it all the harder to avoid her and not talk to her which also makes me feel **** as I don't want to miss out spending time with my friends and yet have to see her at the same time so it appears I'll just have to bail but all my friends are against that saying I should just put up with it till the point I'm over it. It's not that easy! I can't turn my feelings off for this girl and everytime we all meet up it's just like old times even though it clearly couldn't be which ****s me up in the head all over again. ARGGGHHHHH! I want to just outright tell this girl that I can't be friends with her but if I do then how can I go to the same things she does with our mutual friends? Kinda defeats the point don't ya think?
KS11 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Mate, I totally understand how you feel about deleting your ex of facebook. But you have to think about yourself at the moment. I know for me, everytime i saw an update etc it would just kill me and it really is a case of 'ignorance is bliss'. I know it shouldnt be a big deal, i mean its just facebook, but like i say i understand its hard. I had over 40,000 messages with my 'ex' and deleting them was so hard, but theres no other way at this point. As far as bailing on your friends, you've recognised you cant be friends with her at this point..so seeing her isnt going to help you get over her. Maybe some of your friends could suggest doing something different if you know shes going to be there. This is where your friends should be there for you!
Chi townD Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Dude, you are an alcoholic. At least, that's how you have to treat your current situation. Alcoholics that JUST get clean and sober can't go with their friends to the Bar or Pub. They're not strong enough in their sobriety to fight off the temptation. So, recovering alcoholics stay away from those types of situations until they're strong enough. And some alcoholics are NEVER strong enough to handle situations where drinking is involved. So, you have to do the same thing. You need to remove yourself from those situations where your Ex is present. You're not strong enough to face her. You still have romantic feelings for her. So, you need to remove yourself until all romantic feelings for your Ex is gone. 1
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