waterwoman Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I dreamed last night that H told he was leaving. This changed in that weird dream way into my old boss telling me I risked the sack because I was incompetent. Nothing I could say to either of them would change their minds. Implacable, calm and determined. I woke up and sobbed for 10 minutes. H rolled over and held me and said 'It's alright it was just a dream....<snore snore>' And it was just a dream. Not wishing to boast but I am the only person at my company who can do my job - I do it damn well and they know it. And I am sure that H isn't going anywhere - if anyone it would be me that goes. So why why why has it left me in such a state. I've been on the verge of tears all day. When I am going to get my confidence and self-esteem back?
TigerCub Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I dreamed last night that H told he was leaving. This changed in that weird dream way into my old boss telling me I risked the sack because I was incompetent. Nothing I could say to either of them would change their minds. Implacable, calm and determined. I woke up and sobbed for 10 minutes. H rolled over and held me and said 'It's alright it was just a dream....<snore snore>' And it was just a dream. Not wishing to boast but I am the only person at my company who can do my job - I do it damn well and they know it. And I am sure that H isn't going anywhere - if anyone it would be me that goes. So why why why has it left me in such a state. I've been on the verge of tears all day. When I am going to get my confidence and self-esteem back? The part in bold made me think that maybe deep down you feel like you are not being truly heard with your husband. Or maybe you feel like your true talents (all the good that you've done, all your hard work and sacrifices) weren't appreciated like you know it should. We all have those vivid dreams that strike a cord, so I understand how it made you feel sad, even after waking up. Chin up, it will pass and I hope that things get better soon
NotCamelot Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 In no way will I try to decipher your dream. But I bet it was triggered by insecurity. All of us BS's have felt that. I feel extremely fortunate that I have not had any of the stuff leak into my dreams. I hope you don't have any more. But, it was just a dream.....keep repeating that....
todreaminblue Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I had a dream last night that was really weird, i think the best thing to do is just realize it was a dream and not reality........... 1
Toots Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Do you feel in control in your life? Do you feel able to cause what you want, to happen?
Spark1111 Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 I dreamed last night that H told he was leaving. This changed in that weird dream way into my old boss telling me I risked the sack because I was incompetent. Nothing I could say to either of them would change their minds. Implacable, calm and determined. I woke up and sobbed for 10 minutes. H rolled over and held me and said 'It's alright it was just a dream....<snore snore>' And it was just a dream. Not wishing to boast but I am the only person at my company who can do my job - I do it damn well and they know it. And I am sure that H isn't going anywhere - if anyone it would be me that goes. So why why why has it left me in such a state. I've been on the verge of tears all day. When I am going to get my confidence and self-esteem back? it is not what,or who is in the dream....it is how the dream makes you feel that must realized. that is your subconscious speaking.....so, what is it telling you? Are you feeling powerless, inconsequential, unappreciated? we have to be so strong, so in control all the time to reconcile well. our dreams release what we may be suppressing. when you figure out the feelings....think long and hard on this....then it is time to express them.
Author waterwoman Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 Thanks for all your replies. Yes I do feel powerless and out of control. Because I honestly don't know what I want. But I would hate for anyone to make decisions for me. And my life tends to restrict my actions a little - kids, mortgage, elderly parents needing more and more support. First I need to decide if what I have is what I want, and if not what do I want.
Just a Guy Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 As Spark said dreams are the way our sub-conscious minds tell us that something needs our attention. Dreams are never straight forward. The message they convey are in symbolic terms. For us Lay people it is difficult to analyse dreams which are important(As yours seems to be) and so we need some expert help to unravel their meaning. I guess if you Google experts on dream analysis in your city you could come up with a few names. You could then find out what it would cost to use their services and if you feel it is not exhorbitant then you could go for it. The most important thing is not to ignore the message the dream is trying to convey to you. The fact that you woke up crying indicates that it is definitely an emotive issue which is on the boil in the deep recesses of your sub-conscious mind. I believe psychics also do dream analysis but they might be costly. Also only a truly well established and genuine psychic would be able to accurately decipher your dream. Books too may be available but you would require some practice to be able to use them to unravel your dream. Hope some of this helps. Best wishes!
BetrayedH Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Personally, I don't think your dreams mean jack crap. It's a bunch of neurons firing in erratic fashion because well, you're not conscious. I'd skip any hocus pocus Freudian dream analysis if I were you. When will you know what you want? Let me know when you figure that one out. I'm 42 and feel like I'm trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up. What I do know is that I didn't ask for this crap so everybody can just sit back and relax while I figure it out. 1
Just a Guy Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 BH I have great respect for you but I beg to disagree with the way you have rubbished the idea that dreams mean anything and are just neurons firing off in your brain. If that were so then most of our thoughts would also be meaningless neurons firing off in our brains and we would be quite clueless about what we are all about. Then too, Freud would have been a fool to have spent his whole life working on his theories and the subsequent body of knowledge that has stemmed from his work would also be Bull crap. Whole departments in Universities dedicated to the furthering of knowledge in the fields of Psychology and Psychiatry would be so much rubbish and all those highly paid University professors and and medical researchers would be wasting their time and that of others! Anyway your opinion is your own and you are entitled to it. Just please do not be so brusque in rubbishing what some one else has to say. It could redound on you at a future date! Best wishes. 1
BetrayedH Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 No insult intended, JAG. You're a balanced poster and seem like a nice guy. My apologies if I was offensive. My post was truly directed at the OP and not meant as a response to yours but I can see why you would think otherwise. I was just giving my personal opinion on the matter. I don't believe the OP should focus on her dreams but on what she's going to do in her real life. And on that subject, I think she should cut herself a break.
Author waterwoman Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 It isn't as if I beleive the dream or think it MEANs something. I am just so frustrated that it can have such an impact on me. I want to be past all that crap
Journee Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 WW, A dream actually made me listen to my instincts about my suspicions before DDay. I believe it is a subconscious thing. I have similar dreams and they upset me as well. It's so frustrating not to be able to escape this mess even in your sleep. It certainly does invade your ENTIRE life. I don't know when or if pain like this stops. I suspect it ebbs and flows for many many moons to come. No advice here , just that I understand. XX 1
SmokeRat Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 It's odd that you mention bad dreams, as I had one last night as well at the hall. It woke me up pretty damn quick, and I had to go for a jog around the block just to blow off some steam. Ended up being a dream about my wife and the OM (obviously), and they were doing the 'nasty' in my Engine. It wasn't so much the act, but what he said to me in the dream that set me off. "I own this piece of ass, and I can do it better than you ever could." After he said that, I remember grabbing my Halligan tool and beating him to well, death. Most definetly needed to go for a jog after that. Set me back for sure, emotionally, as now the mind movies started playing again.
Ninja'sHusband Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 I think dreams are a puzzle and definitely have meaning. I will never forget the night my ex woke up suddenly screaming and in a massive panic. The next night, the same thing happened and my ex stated yelling, "It was <name>! It was <name>!" A friend of ours had just committed suicide the night of the first dream. I won't go into the details of the dream, it was bloody and disturbing. Once my mother dreamed that my cousin's boyfriend was standing by her bed...he died of a heard attack that night. He had been struggling with having a malformed heart (physically). I can't keep major life events from my mother...she'd freakin call me asking what was going on, just from her dreams. She dreamed I had a new baby one time when I released a new album and didn't tell her (4th self published CD, wasn't that big of a deal) That being said, I think most dreams are really just your subconscious speaking out..but yeah there's something more to it sometimes. I've had a few prophetic type dreams myself and they are usually very different from your average dream. I don't pretend to understand it but there's more than enough proof in my life to know there's something spiritual going on with dreams that goes beyond just you and your brain.
Just a Guy Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Ninja's Husband, I appreciate your post very much. I entirely agree with you that our sub-conscious mind does try to tell us things when we are sleeping. I remember that my father once told me that one of his relatives who was in college at the time and was a student of higher mathematics was struggling with a problem given to his class by their professor. No one had been able to solve the problem for quite a while. One morning shortly after, he got up and went to his study table to work on the problem and he found that it had been solved, neatly written out in HIS OWN handwriting. He did not remember anything about how and when he could have solved the problem but then his mother told him that she had seen him get up in the night at some point of time and sit at his table to work on the problem. I guess we have something more to us than just our physical bodies. Cheers! 1
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