Vehf21 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I had been dating this man since 09/26/09, we broke up a little over a month ago, I love him dearly and can't imagine my life without him. We have a yr old daughter together who is absolutely beautiful. The events that led to our separation are as follows: around thanksgiving we had been having ALOT of problems, fighting nagging the whole 9yards so we decided to split for a wk. during that wk I was flirting with an old co worker of mine via texts. When he came home after the wk he found the txts and told me not to speak with him any longer. I continued to talk to him and hid it for a lil over a month. One late night while I was asleep this old co worker started txting me, this was his breaking point. That night he broke up with me and claims what I was doing was a form of cheating. I love this man more than anyone and I know my actions were wrong.. I feel so lost because only two days before finding this out he had so much love for me the look in his eyes the feel of me in his arms it was love. Only a week later he had found a new girl.. He's been with her ever since and he like hates me now.. I don't know what to do because I want my family together 6mo before this we were planning our wedding. Should I just let him go and move on as he did or should I fight to have my family back together and happy? Any advice would be wonderful sorry it's so long figured all the details would lead to a better understanding
Bertina Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 It sounds like he reacted to your flirting via texting your co-worker by getting himself someone new. He was probably hurt and wanted to try and stop the pain. Depending on what he read whether it was serious or not, he may not want to come back and get hurt again...But you could talk to him and see where he is at and then go from there...
ver13 Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 IMO you need to look at why you decided to keep up the texting even though he asked you to stop the drama. You said that you really love him but ask yourself this if he hadn't caught you in the middle of the co-worker text scandel yet again would you have stopped? As for his new GF that's for him to decide if he wants to give her up for you. I don't see what you think your fighting for in the first place. If it had been that important the co-worker thing wouldn't have happened in the first place. Let the man make his choice on who and what he wants to deal with.
fred sanford Posted February 20, 2013 Posted February 20, 2013 Wow.....having a break dnt mean time to flirt wit other people and what made it worse is when he hound out he forgave u and said stop txtin him, and u continue.....ur stupid, and he's right to move on.....this is all ur fault....leave the man alone....if he want u he gon get in contact wit u So stupid !!
Jstub Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I understand that sometimes when we are thinking with our emotions, we do stupid things. When we take things for granted, we become inconsiderate. Your texting was just inconsiderate and plain stupid. We realize what we have in the other person, when they are out the door. Makes you think, doesn't it. You learn a lesson from it. What you do while taking a break is your business, but if you were trying to figure things out, you would not be "leaning" on somebody else. That just means you were trying to ignore your problems. Reality is, when you do this, it will bite you in the ass down the line. With that said, it is not too late, and there is a high chance he will come around IF YOU handle the situation correctly. few tips - I am sure others can contribute instead of just judging you. Do not beg or plead for him to come back ---- very important! Tell him you understand and respect his decision to leave. Even go as far as telling him, you wish him the best with his new gf. Just back off! and focus on yourself and your child. Bring yourself to the point, where you realize the following: You do NOT need him to be happy. Don't be needy and CLINGY. Again, there's alot more to it than what I wrote. Remember, If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were. His new gf is just a distraction. He is hurt (RIGHTFULLY SO) and just doesn't want to deal with it. I personally believe your situation is pretty fixable. Good luck---- next time, please think about your actions... LEARN from your past mistakes and pain. 1 Final thought - could it be that this gf of his was always in the picture and he was looking for an excuse to get out? think about it... because if that is the case, then this is a completely different beast....
habs53 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Unfortunately texting can be very hurtful to the other person. Yes it is a form of cheating. Im very sorry this is happening to you and i hope you 2 work things out.
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