SER Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 (edited) My birthday is coming up mid-march and my family always goes out for dinner at a restaurant to celebrate. I was debating on whether or not to invite the guy I've been dating as I wasn't sure if it was too soon to introduce him. I have also been listening for some verbal cues from him as to where we stand/where our future is headed. He's stated in several conversations about his friends "Oh my friend X, you'll meet him..." and also told me this weekend that he just informed his sister that we were dating (she's a friend of mine that I haven't had a chance to hang out with/talk to for about a year or so due to my busy schedule) and that she was happy about it. Also, I had mentioned a couple of weeks ago that my nephew really enjoys planes and is already talking about being an engineer one day (he's only 10). The guy I'm dating is coincidentally an engineer who works with aircraft. This weekend he said,"I know we haven't been dating for all that long, but...um... if you think your nephew would like it, I can give him a tour of our facility and I might be able to get clearance for him to tour one of the hangers too..." to which I replied that he would really love it. I think it's safe to say that we're moving ahead and that he (like I) can see a long term relationship out of this and that he wouldn't be put off by inviting him to my birthday dinner to meet my family for the first time. Outside looking in, do you think he would be put off by inviting him? We've only been dating for about 2 months and will be almost 3 by the time my birthday rolls around. Edited February 18, 2013 by SER
Author SER Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Good point! I've been out of the dating game for a long time so I have no idea what is too soon/what isn't these days. I know there are no rules, but since he's such a great guy, I don't want to run him off by doing things too soon.
aj22one Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Haha, nah you'll be fine. When we still just dating I met my wife's family for the first time on Thanksgiving. Drove up from dc to Queens the day before and everything haha. He's probably fine with it. 2
johnnyk Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Put off? If I was in his shoes, I would feel happy about being invited. It means that you're starting to see him as more a part of your life than just a weekend date. Inviting him is a meaningful gesture and if he is put off by it, then he doesn't know what he wants. 1
Author SER Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 Thanks Johnny, that makes me quite a bit less worried! He is much more than a weekend date at this point, he really has grown on me. =) 1
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