jonesgr Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 So I struggle with something. I really care for this girl I am currently talking to. I came out of a serious 3 1/2 year relationship back in August and she came out of a 2 year relationship in October, so we are both relatively fresh out of relationships. I posted in another thread about it and didn't get much feedback but maybe I made it too complicated. Basically i REALLY like her, and WANT to date her, but when I try I panic and feel so overwhelmed and unable to focus and generally just kinda get depressed. I DONT know why, as this is something I struggle with someone in general when I try to date, but I feel the effect is compounded by me not feeling "ready". However, she is SUPER ready and wants me bad. I want her the same way, but feel unable to be involved without being overwhelmed. My problem is is I read on here about how people say "if you love someone, you be with them, and if someone doesn't want to be with you that means there's somebody else and blah blah blah". But sometimes, someone can really want someone or something and simply not know how to do it (me). I just feel lost..
cdt76 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Give the new girl a chance. Keep up your walls but transcend them. Risk a little. If she doesn't blow it then risk a little more. If you get overwhelmed step back behind your walls but tell her why. You have to risk your heart in the hopes of finding someone worth giving it to. But use your head. Don't throw it away for someone not worthy.
Author jonesgr Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Maybe I just need a period of time without trying to push myself to date. As you stated, if I GET overwhelmed put my walls up, the problem is right now i STAY overwhelmed. I hate it
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