bitterruin Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I've tried dating twice since the breakup and both times with the same result: I convince myself I really like the guy and that he's perfect for me so I make an effort to try taking things further. I know they're very interested but in the end I realize they don't have what I'm looking for in a guy, no matter how much I try convincing myself otherwise. I've been seeing a guy for about three weeks now and I've come to realize that I'm not really that into him and he's not the kind of person I'm looking for. I guess it's great that I know what I want but at the same time I'm starting to feel like I'm too picky and I'm never going to find someone I like, so I just feel lonely. I still cry every once in a while, but somewhere along the line I realize that my tears are not because I miss my ex but because I feel so empty, hollow, and lonely. I'm probably not going to fall in love ever again. No one is good enough, and I feel like I deserve what I want, I'm not going to settle for anything less, I'm starting to think that I should do just that else I'll end up alone. I'm only 22 years old and I have a great body and an attractive face, I'm smart, and I feel like I shouldn't have this much trouble attracting someone good, I just wish I could fill this hole inside of me.
Apolodor Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 You sound like no one is good enough for you.... That's because you still miss your ex, give it time to heal before you jump back into the dating scene. What you're experiencing is normal, it has happened to all of us at some point. 1
marklarsson Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I've tried dating twice since the breakup and both times with the same result: I convince myself I really like the guy and that he's perfect for me so I make an effort to try taking things further. I know they're very interested but in the end I realize they don't have what I'm looking for in a guy, no matter how much I try convincing myself otherwise. I've been seeing a guy for about three weeks now and I've come to realize that I'm not really that into him and he's not the kind of person I'm looking for. I guess it's great that I know what I want but at the same time I'm starting to feel like I'm too picky and I'm never going to find someone I like, so I just feel lonely. I still cry every once in a while, but somewhere along the line I realize that my tears are not because I miss my ex but because I feel so empty, hollow, and lonely. I'm probably not going to fall in love ever again. No one is good enough, and I feel like I deserve what I want, I'm not going to settle for anything less, I'm starting to think that I should do just that else I'll end up alone. I'm only 22 years old and I have a great body and an attractive face, I'm smart, and I feel like I shouldn't have this much trouble attracting someone good, I just wish I could fill this hole inside of me. Why did you break up with your ex. Or did your ex break up with you?... The reason will help with the advice I give you
Darren Steez Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 I've tried dating twice since the breakup and both times with the same result: I convince myself I really like the guy and that he's perfect for me so I make an effort to try taking things further. I know they're very interested but in the end I realize they don't have what I'm looking for in a guy, no matter how much I try convincing myself otherwise. I've been seeing a guy for about three weeks now and I've come to realize that I'm not really that into him and he's not the kind of person I'm looking for. I guess it's great that I know what I want but at the same time I'm starting to feel like I'm too picky and I'm never going to find someone I like, so I just feel lonely. I still cry every once in a while, but somewhere along the line I realize that my tears are not because I miss my ex but because I feel so empty, hollow, and lonely. I'm probably not going to fall in love ever again. No one is good enough, and I feel like I deserve what I want, I'm not going to settle for anything less, I'm starting to think that I should do just that else I'll end up alone. I'm only 22 years old and I have a great body and an attractive face, I'm smart, and I feel like I shouldn't have this much trouble attracting someone good, I just wish I could fill this hole inside of me. It's not at all easy finding a compatible partner..I mean think about it, what are the odds we find that person who suits us down to a tee, personality wise, has stuff in common, gets your jokes etc. Dating is not meant to be the be all and end all. It's sort of like a blind taste, a test run. You are under no obligation to seal the deal right there and then. It's better to be honest and acknowledge that the guys don't suit you rather than pretend and try to force the relationship. That always ends up with people getting hurt. Look, you fall in love with someone, they leave an indelible print on your soul. With time that imprint becomes like a distant echo but you still feel it. You're too young to say you'll never fall in love again, you have a long long life ahead of you and guess what, there is always that someone "close enough" to your ideal mate. Just enjoy your life until then. 2
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