tvball11 Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Ha ha Please dont judge. Recently I had an ex-girlfriend from past contact me (relationship was 1 1/2 yrs, broken up for 9months now) pretty much due to my doing. I am applying for a job that does background checks and they called her. She wants to stay in contact again which is fine. Right now she is in a relationship of almost 8 months. Anyways we only contact each other on email (no texting or calling due to boyfriend) but we flirt and recount the past many times. The kicker is I still have feelings for her and we are supposed to meet in a couple of weeks (has work meeting near me). My question is should I stay on Friend track or let her know that I am interested in more than friendship or just let feel her out and see if she wants more than friends? Oh and the dont judge part is because of a recent ex. I still want to be with her as well but we broke up and I am in the No Contact phase. yeah I guess we dont choose the ones we fall in love with. No i dont fall in love that easy (divorced for 6 years before I dated again) just these two for some reason. I am a single Father of 2 with majority custody so that seems to play somewhat into my breakups as well.
Droplet Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Telling her that you want more, at this point, will do nothing good for you : you haven't talked to her in a while, haven't even seen her in a while so letting her know that will make you sound like you have no options, that you haven't moved on ( well, that might be the truth but it's not attractive so don't tell her ). What I think you need to do is to go see her with no strings attached, do not mention the past unless she does, do not be "too" nice, do not pressure her into anything, just be your best self, laidback, flirty and fun. When she leaves, don't set up another date. Wait for her to call you. If she has any doubts regarding her current relationship and if she really enjoyed the time spent with you, she probably will. 1
Author tvball11 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Telling her that you want more, at this point, will do nothing good for you : you haven't talked to her in a while, haven't even seen her in a while so letting her know that will make you sound like you have no options, that you haven't moved on ( well, that might be the truth but it's not attractive so don't tell her ). What I think you need to do is to go see her with no strings attached, do not mention the past unless she does, do not be "too" nice, do not pressure her into anything, just be your best self, laidback, flirty and fun. When she leaves, don't set up another date. Wait for her to call you. If she has any doubts regarding her current relationship and if she really enjoyed the time spent with you, she probably will. Thats great advice. I dont know and I am not one to judge but he is 15 yrs her senior. I think she generally cares for him but is starting to realize (eluding to me with her emails) that he might not be the one who she wants to grow old with (um cause he is alot farther along than she is. I am sure I am reading into it... But yes I will take that advice...no expectations and no setting other dates. Should I continue to keep in touch with her over email?
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