Mycteria Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 (edited) The problem is that he is doing too much of it. He's doing so much to the point where neither spends time with each other. He also has clearly chosen his friends over his girlfriend. He's better off single. Just break up and move on. No...he's only hanging out with them on Friday night and Saturday. She has all the rest of the week to spend with him. When she started dating him, he hung out with them every day and she was willing to hang out with them and drink too. Now suddenly she's decided to stop drinking, she doesn't want to hang out with them anymore, AND she doesn't want him to see them much anymore either, even though he now only spends two nights a week with them. Sorry but I don't see how that's fair. 26 is young. If the OP is ready to settle down this early that's fine, but her boyfriend is hardly in the wrong here. She just needs to find someone more compatible. Edited February 19, 2013 by Mycteria
grkBoy Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Does anyone have any advice on how to get him to see this from my point of view? Have the serious talk with him. Lay it all out there. Tell him you want a future, which will entail marriage, a house, possibly kids, and him curbing his frat boy life down to "rarely". Be fully ready to end it and walk if he won't comply. He might also very well drop you and choose the "bro" thing over your relationship. In any case, I don't see this going well. It's clear you want to move on in life while he wants to remain in the state he's in. This is what I was getting at in another topic on how many men are choosing a life differently from their elders. Men are questioning marriage and kids with a "what's in it for me?" logic.
ChessPieceFace Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 I don’t want to hang out with them because all they do is drink and I quit drinking a few years ago. This seems like just as much of a problem. A difference in lifestyle. I don't see how someone who doesn't drink can really be happy with someone who drinks a lot. Figure out how to express your concerns and that you're ready to end the relationship over this divide in lifestyle and neglectful behavior. It's his move then.
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